My best friend's father has been very suggestive lately, what should I do?

Question

I think he wants to have sex with me. It's really scaring me.
I have known him ever since I was 6. I am now 18 and am of legal age so I can't necessarily call him a pedophile but it's gross!
Ever since i've been 15-16ish, he's been asking me "do you have a boyfriend?" and i would say "no" and he would say "im shocked, why doesnt a sexy little girl like yourself have a boyfriend?" almost every time I would see him.
The last few times i saw him, he asked me the same question and I said "yes, i do have a boyfriend" and he said "oh, lucky him and poor me. i guess i shouldnt have gotten my hopes up high."
He keeps flirting with me, touching me, and complimenting me in a very suggestive way.
I have been noticing in the past 2 years that he would watch me when i was at his house in a weird way. My friend also tells me that he always says "why dont you invite Keah over?" or "your friend is very beautiful", etc.
I want to tell my friend but she'd get mad and tell me im being dramatic....

I haven't been going to her house that often as i used to because we've both been busy and now we both drive and have cars so we usually just go out to lunch, etc. I will stop going there and just have her come to my house.

to one of the answers:
no, i don't like the attention but i'm shy and don't want to be rude.... he's 49, i just feel i should be respectful. also, if i do tell him i feel uncomfortable, he'll ask why and then he'll deny acting the way he does.
i truly believe he's a pedophile. I know i'm "legal", but he's been acting weird for a few years and a 49 yr old man should not be looking at 18 yr olds fresh out of high school!

Answer 1

I am 56, and I can tell you that predator or not, he is out of line.
You may be very attractive, but he must control himself.

You don't have to talk to him about it, or even your friend. Just don't go there.

Answer 2

He's a creep. Stay away from him. I wouldn't be surprised if he had made moves on your friend. This sort of behavior is usually not a secret from the family. Stay away from the house if possible and if you are prepared to lose your friend just tell her that her father makes you very uncomfortable and always has.
She will either take it in stride or blow up and cut you off. In any event don't go into that house again. Take a small tape recorder with you. You can figure out the rest.

Answer 3

Sometimes being very attractive can be the biggest burden of all. This friend's father seems to have a peculiar fixation on you, which is translating into this unwanted attention from him.

No, you can't call him a pedophile. Based on what you've written you can't even call him a sexual predator, but his comments are unwelcome and can definitely be sourced to a lecherous agenda.

I suggest you tell your friend that you would like meet her someplace (other than at her home) to discuss her father's behavior. Explain to her exactly what he's doing and why it makes you uncomfortable. She might get mad, but chances are she has noticed it too and will hear you out.

I'm sorry that this puts your friendship at risk, but better that than put your safety at risk, suffering the indignities of her father's nonsense.

Answer 4

I would suggest that you not go over to her house anymore. Tell her about what her father is saying to you and that you would be happy to have her come over to your house, but you don't want to be near him. By the way, just because you are now 18 doesn't mean he isn't a pedophile. You will probably also want to tell your parents. If you can't avoid him, tell him you don't like how he talks to you or looks at you and you want him to stop. Never allow yourself to be alone with this man.

Answer 5

Well, if your friend doesn't want to see the light then all you can do for yourself is not go around there.
I'm not saying you can't be friends with this girl anymore, you can, but I would suggest hanging out with her on a one on one basis at the mall or something rather than going to her house or anywhere where her father will be.
You see, that's her father, so thinking that her father could possibly be hitting on her friends probably hurts her as well as disgusts her in many ways. You can't keep telling her about his suggestive behavior if she doesn't want to believe it. So, to prevent any future problems with this, just spend time with her outside of the house anywhere the two of you can be where he will not be.

Answer 6

That is absolutely creepy! I don't care if he is around my age. Older men have no business putting there hands on "a friend", their daughters age. I wouldn't go to her house if I were you. I know you care about your friend, but why take any chances, on losing your friend because her Dad still thinks he is 18. I couldn't stand it when I was your age and I can't tolerate it now!

Answer 7

Have your friend come to your house. Let your friend get mad. She probably has notice it too,that's why she gets mad. I don't think you're being dramatic. Just watch out for Daddy Dearest.

Answer 8

Now that you are sure that he is hitting on you, why do you hang around. Do you like some of the attention? You are allowing yourself to be near him when you could choose otherwise.

Answer 9

stop going over there and if your friend asks you y can't go over there tell her and i would suggest you tell your parents if they are in the picture one day he just might go to far

Answer 10

Let him know that what he is saying to you is making you feel uncomfortable. And you would like him to stop. And if he don't then you should let your parent know.