Am I lesbian?

Question

I used to have a major crush on this guy and then I thought to myself that he wasn't right for me. I use to fantasize getting married and such. Well then the night that I found out he was dating someone else, I was confused, then I thought to myself maybe I am a lesbian (being funny) but then I think I just startyed to think that I was. Well I don't look @ women and fantasize or anything. I look at men but in the back of my mind I think don't look at men your a lesbian. But I don't like females. I am worriedif this thought is in my head. I am very feminine, i hate sports, don't know how to use a tool or anything. I love every bright color of clothing. I use to be obsessed over Ashton Kutcher, boys fom school and now this. And it bugs me, then I think to myself i'm not lesbian and then 20 mins later then I think well..... !
Remember: I do not fantasiz about being w/ a women!

And there are only 10 non- attractive boys at my school. So then when I feel that I am not attracted to them I think that I am lesbian. But all the girls agree w/ me and say they are not attractive.

Answer 1

Hun you are totally not a lesbian. You don't need to be attracted to every guy in the school to be straight. It is ok to just not be attracted to a guy. plus, if you are getting over a broken heart it is normal to just not feel interested in boys for a bit. Lesbians dream about having sex with other girls and they are attracted to some girls just like girls dream about and are attracted to some guys.

Answer 2

Your not Lesbian you are confused. If you have never been with (or thought about being with) another woman. How can you think you're a lesbian? Far as the boys go in your school, there should be something more than looks to make them attractive to you. As a father of a young girl I would tell her don't worry about Sex yet just get your lessons and finish school.

Answer 3

Yeah, you sound gay to me. My cousin's gay and she told me you sound gay. She said she loves to look at boys...to see how she should dress to pick up girls. She only looks at girls because she likes boobs. But she says guys boobs just aren't good enough for her. You can fantasize about either and still want the other. Maybe in the back of your mind, you just want yourself? Could that be it? Maybe you don't go for men or women because you want to be with you. That's why you don't look. Lesbians can be feminine and hate sports...although my cousin loves to watch women's tennis...she likes the skirts...Ashton is just too pretty anyway. That face...he could be a girl if he didn't have a penis. Try to fantasize about Ashton, then turn him into a woman and see what turns you on more. That should tell you which team you play for....good luck.

Answer 4

no no no if you are not attracted to members of the female gender and you are attracted to the opposite gender you are most defiantly not gay and just because one guy is not attracted to you doesn't mean you are gay maybe its him find someone else or better yet ignore every one and focus on you schooling then when you go back for you 5 year or 10 year reunion you will see that the popular kids aren't so cool but that you are plus people love a mystery if you don't Chase them they will wonder why and chase you!!!!

Answer 5

First, I would like to say that you shouldnt allow anyone's actions to affect the way you feel about yourself. My opinion on this is that you are feeling a little rejected about your boyfriend breaking things off with you. That in itself is no reason to subject yourself to questioning your sexuality. Where did this thought really come from? I dont believe it has anything to do with the break up. You know sometimes unconsciously, we allow people to put thoughts into our minds; and in turn we start to believe that something is wrong with us. From your conversation, it seems to me that you have a complex with lesbian or bi-sexual relationships. You mentioned more than twice that you are definitely not attracted to females; which is alright if thats not your preference. But my advice to you is that, it is alright to know who you are and what you want even if society doesnt allow us to openly do so. Have you ever heard of the saying, "look deep before you leap". My perception of that is to give every advantage, consequence or repercussion thought before making your final decision. Going back to my first statement, be who you are destined to be. You have to look inside yourself first and try to understand where your phobia is coming from. And only then will you be able to come to some sort of conclusion. Every answer to our problems are within us. We just need to have the understanding and motivation to reach that inner part of us that doesnt want to be seen or heard; but in turn wants to leave us with doubts about who we are or who we are to become. I hope what I have said has provided you with some solution to your problem. Whatever your future may hold, keep your head up and stay strong. We need more strong and poweful sisters in this world, no matter what side of the fence we are on. Much love to you sister and pray that God sees your struggle and can help you in your journey.

Answer 6

No, you aren't a lesbian but you could have a chemical imbalance if this thought keeps going through your head. Maybe you need to take 100 mg of 5-HTP before bed.

Answer 7

You are very mixed up person, you need help go to a neurologist,skip the shrink because they haven't figured out what they are either.

Answer 8

I think you need to start thinking about something other than sex. Get a hobby. Then when you get a real crush (male or female) you'll know.

Answer 9

sounds to me like the birth of a man hater. hey! i'm boy toy compliant!. just kiddn . kinda.
you sound like you are young. dont worry as you get older you will be able to focus....dont judge men by the way that the one idiot treats ya.although the way he was doesnt surprise me. kno wat im sayin?most men are traitors. you will meet them all yer life.it doesnt mean they are bad ... unless you think lying is ok. i am one of the few. i'm intelligent , loyal,and strait up.!talk to me.... it willl be awhile before you get the chance to talk to another like me.it is people like the other 80 + o\o of men that make it tough on us .i could say you would be amazed if you could see thru my eyes.women are allot like men but fewer of them are. women are emotional thinkers.men are organisational compartment thinkers.

Answer 10

Uhhhhhhh, are you 13?