My friend acts like a jerk about my other friends. I'm in 9th grade and I popular. My friend is not popular she kind of a geek but She my BF. my other popularr friends get jealous (sp?) when i hang out with my "geekish" friend the get mad and tell me that i should not hangout with geeks!! I need your help fast!! please dont put stuff like dont call your friend a geek!!
2006-09-16 14:37:17 · 20 answers · asked by ~green day lover~ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
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2006-09-16 14:39:02 · answer #1 · answered by newt_peabody 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes your BF a geek and how could you help her to become more popular. Not that you want to change your friend, just find some sort of a compromise so that she isn't so far outside the group. If you could get her to become something of a casual acquaintance, and occasional participant with the rest of your friends that might help. You don't want to lose your social friends because that will make high school really difficult but you don't want to lose you BF either because she may be your life-long BF. Figure out what makes her most different and work on it with her. Maybe its her hair, clothes, makeup, etc. or maybe its just a lack of self confidence that keeps her from being able to socialize with your other friends. Figuring it out and then crafting a strategy to modify it is going to be critical to both of you fully enjoying the social scene in high school. Four years and the rules all change in college. Good luck!
2006-09-16 21:49:31 · answer #2 · answered by white_yack 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound as if you're powerful among your peers. This situation presents a chance to use that kind of power in a way that's good for everyone: by telling anyone (which could be the best friend or the critical popular friends) who makes critical remarks about your friend(s) that you make your own choices in friendship and wouldn't dream of criticizing anyone else's personal decisions. ("Jealous" is correctly spelled.) Of course you have to follow that up by not criticizing anyone else's choices, but it should work if you're both casual and firm about it, like it's just something you're not going to discuss further.
2006-09-16 21:47:20 · answer #3 · answered by silver.graph 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is possibly the saddest thing i've ever heard. listen, if your popular friends can't except that this "geek" has been bff with you for life, then they're not your friends. if you give up your "geeky" friend to maintain your popularity, then you were never her friend. either talk to your popular peeps and try to make them understand that you've always been friends with this girl and always will be. if they can't handle that, just give them up because its not worth it. true but nerdy friendship is so much more than a popular empty one. good luck!! i hope you make the right choice and everything works out!
2006-09-16 21:42:04 · answer #4 · answered by jgmice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doing the right thing by continuing to be her friend. She may not fit in with your other friends but that is no reason to stop being friends with her. One thing that you will find is that your "popular" friends will dump you at the drop of a hat regardless of what you do in order to please them. You can get rid of the geekish friend tomorrow only be outcast by the others whenever they get tired of you.
2006-09-16 21:41:07 · answer #5 · answered by Joe K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, after struggling to make sense of what you wrote, my opinion is that you should concentrate on actual school work rather than your social life. Then maybe you could write a coherent question.
As far as your social life is concerned; it seems to me you spend way too much time caring what other people think of you. Who cares if your "friends" get mad at you. They don't sound worth anyone's time. And being popular is pointless. I was somewhat popular. Ya know what? After high school none of it will make a damn bit of difference. So quit caring what other people think of you and just be you.
2006-09-16 21:42:05 · answer #6 · answered by Amelia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't change because some preppy girls that are your so called friends dont like you best friend. I bet you if anything terrible were to happen where you needed to depend on someone your "geeky" friend will always be there and your popular friends will be gone in a second. straighten your popular friends out and tell them to grow up! you are no longer in middle school! good luck!
2006-09-16 22:13:54 · answer #7 · answered by Fries 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What makes her your ‘best friend’???
Do you like her or not?… Do you accept her for who she is?… Do you believe she should have to change the way she is, just so that she can be more popular with your other friends?
You are sort of the ‘meat in the sandwich’.
You need to tell your best friend that you don’t appreciate her acting like a jerk about your other friends.
And you need to tell your other friends that you are entitled to be friends with whomever you choose to be friends with.
If they can’t accept that, then none of them deserve to be your friends !!!
2006-09-16 21:40:20 · answer #8 · answered by I_C_Y_U_R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont ever let anyone tell you who you can and cant hang out with. if someone says something about ur "geekish" friend just tell them to stay out of it, espeacially dont make excuses as to why you hang out w. her, just dont let them know that it bothers you when they give u sh*t for it, have that "whatever" attitude
2006-09-16 21:42:03 · answer #9 · answered by Heat seeking missile 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO YOU NEED THEIR APPROVAL TO HANG OUT WITH YOUR BEST FRIEND? IF YOU DO, THAT'S REALLY SAD...
WHY DO YOU SEE YOUR BEST FRIEND AS 'GEEKISH'? IF THAT'S THE CASE, SHOW HER HOW TO DRESS AND CARRY HERSELF WITH CONFIDENCE.
IF THE OTHER GIRLS WANT TO TRY TO DICTATE WHO YOU SHOULD OR SHOULD NOT HANG WITH, THEN CAN GO GET BENT.
IF I WERE YOU, I WOULD STAY TRUE TOO MYSELF, AND MY BEST FRIEND. I WOULD NOT WORRY ABOUT HAVING OR GAINING THE APPROVAL OF OTHERS. I WOULD STEER CLEAR OF THOSE WHO CANNOT ACCEPT ME OR MY OWN CHOICES.
2006-09-16 21:43:27 · answer #10 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who's your friend..they are hating on her because of a stereotype.. she has a right not to like them...look how they treat her....you will loose your best friend if you keep this popular stuff up.....the others ,.they are not your friends....they are shallow people.... who try to make you something you are not"shallow" that's the price of being popular....
2006-09-16 21:41:36 · answer #11 · answered by Chocolate_Bunny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋