How should i comfort her, iam speechless i dont even know what to say to her, all i know is she is super depressed and keeps saying she wants to kill herself! HELP!
2006-09-16 14:28:37 · 18 answers · asked by Fries 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i can only talk to her we leave 4 hours away from each other
2006-09-16 14:31:31 · update #1
a) in times of grief, there is little to say. This is why people used to bring tons of food to the family when a death occur ed.
b) Being there, quietly if necessary, is tremendous.
c) Suicidal moments need to be handled seriously, even if histrionic. Have them write out a contract that says they will not commit suicide. It's standard procedure. Make them give you and / parents etc. a copy. My wife has distributed mine to half a dozen different people.
d) Each person does grief differently. This will hurt alto because of its suddenness and violence. People go through the stages in their own order and sometimes, several times. You may want to read up on this over the next week or two.
2006-09-16 14:34:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her pain will go away. She needs to mourn for a few days. Just stay with her and let her talk. Tell her she will leave everyone in as much pain as she is if she kills herself.
2006-09-16 14:30:59 · answer #2 · answered by just browsin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she was more than best friends with this person.
Keep your eye on her and if you think she will do anything to hurt herself ,contact her parents .
You might want to suggest that she see a psychologist so she can vent.
2006-09-16 14:32:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs a friend, YOU
you don't need to talk a lot,
just be there for her and share her pain
that's the kind of support she needs
2006-09-16 14:35:09 · answer #4 · answered by DOCTOR.KA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be there to listen, dont offer any advice if shes not asking for it. encourage her to talk about it. if u guys are not adult yet....make sure an adult that u trust knows her verbalizing that she wants to kill herself. when someone loses someone esp to accidental death, it gets harder to deal with, and by just being there to support them.....thats good enough
2006-09-16 14:32:13 · answer #5 · answered by ♦cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes be there for her; but also know when to recognize that she might need additional help. Don't push or to talk but don't her away.
2006-09-16 14:31:48 · answer #6 · answered by kellybolman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there. Just having someone there to listen usually helps. If you need to, ask other people for help!
2006-09-16 14:29:43 · answer #7 · answered by swim_chic07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be there 4 her in her time of need she needs u right now just be there 4 here. just ask her how does it make her fill. just tell her not to think about it.P.S IF U WANT TO TALK U CAN TALK TO@NESHA_258@YAHOO.COM BYE HOPE U FELL BETTER
2006-09-16 14:36:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to her house and stay with her. She needs to be supervised. Call her doctor if you know the number.
2006-09-16 14:30:39 · answer #9 · answered by DMBthatsme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her that you will always be there for her, no matter what. and to get out more, like go on a bike ride or take a vacation or something.
2006-09-16 14:38:40 · answer #10 · answered by *Liv* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋