Me and my have been in a serious relationship for 6yrs. and i messed it up. It was like I knew from the beginning that he wanted someone to listen to him. We were happy, and I never thought me going to school and going to concerts, and little things they have on campus could ruin our relationship. We were so happy that I never throught anything could come inbetween us. Now since I have broken his trust and not listening to him, everything has gone wrong. I don't know what to do or say to make him love me the way he use to. I don't know what to say. I'm helpless. Can you help.
2006-09-16 14:10:43 · 11 answers · asked by spoiled_04_brat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
im sorry i dont know
2006-09-16 14:12:47 · answer #1 · answered by hogie6729 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think that if he loves you, he will understand. Being a guy, I know that we are thick headed, and we think what we want (not to mention the fact that we really don't understand women, consequently not even try) But What you need to do is talk with him. Sit him down and tell him about how you didn't know those things were so serious, that you want to take the time to listen to him now. Give him a chance to talk though (as it is that he wants someone to listen to). One thing that you both understand is that a relationship isn't going to be completely wonderful. There are going to be fights, and disagreements. But a relationship is about two becoming one, therefore, you must learn to equally give and take, as well as learn about each other (Men to Women & Vice versa) Tell him that you didn't know, but you are willing to make the effort to change (if that's the truth, though) But it is a two way street. He must understand that though you are together, you are seperate entities, each and of your selves. He must learn that you enjoy doing things apart from him. A relationship is not always being with that person, but you wanting to be with them.
2006-09-16 14:21:38 · answer #2 · answered by Joshua B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People grow apart sometimes, maybe that is what has happened. People change now it sounds like u still love your boyfriend u can still love him but sometimes u cant be togethet because u out grow one another. Its sad but true. If u still want to be with him tell him how u feel about him but also it is ok for u to have a social life separate from him. YOu have to if ur in school and your frowing and learning new things. I dont mean to preach maybe u can work it out but become the woman u were meant to be before u plan on spending the rest of your life with someone. Dont lel him guilt trip u just take time for him and time for things without him and if he doesnt like it....he maby doesnt have enough occupying his time , he should keep himself busier and ...i dont know the answer im preaching... he should support u and if he doesnt then ...u know the answer...
2006-09-16 14:21:58 · answer #3 · answered by europe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would have to sit down and talk with him. Things do change and I am not sure what you did to break the trust.
You can apologize and listen to what he has to say. Trust is hard to earn. He may not ever love you the way you use to be loved. If he gives you a second chance, it will have to be the two of you working as a team and your relationship needs each person to put in 100% of their effort to make it work.
Good luck to you.
2006-09-16 14:15:59 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you just can't fix what has happened. Honestly, he will probably never feel the same about you, but if you are supposed to be together you will find a way that will make your relationship better than before. Good luck.
2006-09-16 14:15:39 · answer #5 · answered by clb_tucker 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Read the previous questions you have asked, and the responses you were given to them.
All of your previous questions were left for Voters to select the Best Answer.
That suggests to me that you don’t bother to read the responses you are given.
Your boyfriend is obviously concerned about making a good future for himself, and he is prepared to work hard to get it…
Perhaps you should ‘aim high’ as well.
2006-09-16 14:12:59 · answer #6 · answered by I_C_Y_U_R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
calm down sista... you obviously lost something that he is aware of. concerts& other peasly things,sounds like jealousy on his part.hs problem is TRUST(HE DOES'T TRUST YOU LIKE HE USE TO ) you need to get his trust back in or he'll never be the same. Take it from a man who knows
2006-09-16 14:22:07 · answer #7 · answered by Denton P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Concentrate on school an don't let your first love drag you back down to his level. It sounds like he wants to control you.
2006-09-16 14:13:31 · answer #8 · answered by Angie A 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hey look this **** happends you need to tell him your sorry and start getting a happy med. if you love him tell him that too
2006-09-16 14:17:32 · answer #9 · answered by Big Mama 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
go on a date and wear nice and hot dress
boys like hot
2006-09-16 14:15:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋