My hubby really sucks in bed. He finds no interest in me, but loves masterbateing instead. Should I be hurt by this, or even consider leaving him?
2006-09-16 13:55:08 · 19 answers · asked by peggin_beast 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
A problem for sure...A man who will do self gratification on himself when a female is available there is a problem. You need to confront him about this and ask WHY.... Tell him about your needs and his not filling the bill for you...
2006-09-16 14:02:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you both need to talk about this, and rediscover each other. Do you show enthusiasm when you are together? Talk to each other, and tell each other what makes you feel good. Give him fellatio, once in a while, swallow, and enjoy it. Why don't you masturbate yourself in front of him too? This will get him more interested in you, if he sees that you are enjoying yourself. Communication is so important. If the sex is bad, then your relationship must need some serious work in the communication department. No one can answer the leaving him question for you. In the end you have to be happy. What do you want out of the relationship? Good luck!
2006-09-16 21:06:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey this is reality but; i'm just like your hubby. sometimes i'd rather do it myself too. the reason isn't loss of interest but convience of stimulation. it takes two to tangle my dear. if you don't bring anything new to the table then he will continue to be solo. This should not hurt you or make you feel bad,but educate you on how to please this man or vise\versa. sex is what you make it so if you think it sucks then take half the blame.sometimes he might want it but you don't(headache)menstral cycleor etc.
2006-09-16 21:12:01 · answer #3 · answered by Denton P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally i luv sex n if ur no good in the bed we might have a slight problem.but if u luv this person maybe u can teach them a thing r 2 if u better than them.but try not to base the relationship on sex cause luv is really more important.have u spoke to ur partner about this ?if not maybe u should!
2006-09-16 21:04:34 · answer #4 · answered by Sammie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he prefers to pleasure himself, why are you there. He sounds very selfish. I would talk to him about my feelings before making the decision to leave, because sex is only one important element in a marriage.
2006-09-16 21:01:54 · answer #5 · answered by mad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe try getting him off yourself...not having intercourse, but pleasuring in other ways. Does he not want to do anything just be by himself? If that's the case, then you should see a counselor or at least talk to him about it.
2006-09-16 20:59:49 · answer #6 · answered by speedy_me18 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The future of your marriage looks bleak if you and your husband can't talk about this problem or any other problem. There has to be communication for a marriage to work.
2006-09-16 21:16:53 · answer #7 · answered by AugustMan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. If he would rather masturbate then have sex with you let him go. You deserve someone who finds you attractive and irresistible.
If you don't have a good sex life, you have nothing. My husband and I are 40 (me) and 63 (him) and we have sex at least once, EVERY DAY. I wouldn't want it any other way.
2006-09-16 20:59:20 · answer #8 · answered by I love my husband 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah that sucks and is almost an insult. If you do not leave him then some counseling is needed.
2006-09-16 20:57:16 · answer #9 · answered by jasmine b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it matters to YOU (it sure should!) it MATTERS!
Can you see yourself spending the rest of your life like this? If you're a healthy woman there's only one answer, unless you look and act like Godzilla!
You should be as hurt and insulted by his behavior as you are. I would be.
Future? You tell him!
2006-09-16 21:23:46 · answer #10 · answered by Freesumpin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋