I dunno if it is just me but I do not feel comfortable with my bf to look at porn. It enrages me and gets me upset bc I feel as if he is looking for other women to screw. It makes me jealous and angry because in a way I feel as if he is cheating. We have gotten in big fights about it.
2006-09-16 13:45:09 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If it is a real problem for you. Then it is a problem.
Men look at porn and sex way differently than woman.
Sex can be simply a physical activity for men.
Don't get me wrong. There definitely is "love making".
But the whole thought process is very different.
By the way, I have discovered many techniques or ideas from porn, that have put many a smile on a woman's face. Leaving them to say "Where did you learn that?" . But how can I tell them.
LOL
Shine on
2006-09-16 13:51:48 · answer #1 · answered by Comfortably Numb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, it is common knowledge that men are visual creatures. When a man views porn, it is a sort of creative outlet. Sometimes, a sex life can get a bit dull or predictable, and this could allow him to explore avenues without actually "exploring" them.
Let me offer a few suggestions. First of all, it is porn with PAID actors and actresses...cheating is not possible if it is a video. However, if it still intimidates you, there are other ways to handle the situation other than arguing about it.
One suggestion might be to create your OWN porn so he can watch that with you (since you are uncomfortable watching paid actors do porn). At least this way, he is watching YOU and becoming "hot and bothered" by your actions.
Also, suggest going to an adult store with him to find new and interesting ways to spice up your intimate time together. (You can also shop online if you choose to be discreet.) If he is concentrating on new ways to please and be pleased with you, then he will wind up spending less time in front of the tv watching the porn.
In the end, if you are not happy about something he has been doing since before you were together, offer suggestions and alternatives rather than demanding he quit cold-turkey. Men are sometimes very hard-headed and very much creatures of habit. Men need to be shown different avenues so that they can make the right choices. If he still chooses porn, and you still cannot tolerate it, as a couple your priorities may not be right for one another (you should explore those) and you may have to walk away to spare you both unhappy times.
2006-09-16 13:58:44 · answer #2 · answered by DAS259 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know people who looking at porn enhances their lives, but others it will break apart the relationship.
I personally don't like it as it can be very addicting to some.
If it makes you uncomfortable and you have told him and you cannot come to a compromise, you should end it with him.
There are men out there who do not have any interest in porn. Do what you need to do. You shouldn't be uncomfortable in a relationship. If he knows it really bothers you, he may "sneak" peeking at it when you are not around. At least he appears to be honest and not hiding it from you.
I wish you the best.
2006-09-16 13:49:35 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My bf looks at it too. At first i was pissed but now after i talked with him i realize that it is normal. He said that now matter what almost every guy looks at porn. Its not a way of trying to find another girl or anything. So if i were you i wouldn't worry. Just talk with him and tell him how you feel about it. I am sure he will understand. :)
2006-09-16 13:51:15 · answer #4 · answered by i_heart_you33 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Porn can often ruin a sex life between partners. It can also enhance it. Have you noticed a change in the bed room? Does he seemingly perfer porn to you? If so, then ya, you have a problem or, rather, he does. But before you dump him, maybe ask him what the big deal is. Much of porn is about fetishes. Maybe he has one and is to shy to share it with you. If you share in his fetish I bet he will turn into superboyfriend for you. I mean, most men love porn but compared to live sex exploreing a fetish....HOT DAMN!
2006-09-16 14:07:46 · answer #5 · answered by Danomano 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun for men porn is as natural as breathing n if it keeps them at home I am all 4 it. its not cheating its just that men need more stimulation sometimes. wouldn't u rather have him at home looking at porn getting in the mood n then finding u then going out n getting into trouble?
maybe its jut me but I say let him look at porn it give u a damn break once in a while lol.
good luck n chill hun its not such a big thing n remember its not the looking u have 2 worry about its the touching n he cannot touch anyone else but himself if he is watching porn at home.
2006-09-16 13:52:11 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Geo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is scientifically wrong for a man to look at porn, if he is in a relationship.
It causes an immediate bond with the image on the screen. That image becomes his mate and the real thing becomes less and less important.
The more a man looks a porn, the more likely he is to wander around and the more likely he is to outright cheat.
If you aren't satisfying him, then YOU deserve better honey.
There are plenty of fish in the sea.
2006-09-16 13:48:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't get upset about it. It's just something men pretty much need to do. He's probably not looking for other women to screw; he just needs some stimulation of the imagination.
Why not try looking at it with him and see if you both can have some fun with it?
2006-09-16 13:47:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
men are created that way.. even if he dont look at porn or women openly, he would admire them privately. Unless he is gay!!!Which would you prefer? Make him jealous by looking at other men too. Open discussion, no need to fight
2006-09-16 13:51:25 · answer #9 · answered by myshop258 l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my bf looks at porn and i really dont care... i just see it in a way like its not like he can actually jump inside a tv and join them or he's going to call them and screw them.. and he doesnt do it often rarly so im fine sometimes i look at porn with him
2006-09-16 13:48:24 · answer #10 · answered by becca . 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋