I need some advice here, people. My husband and I have been separated for 2 years now. He's living 3 states away. Our youngest son just turned 18 and I'm feeling like my life is passing me by waiting for either a reconciliation or divorce. Hubby wants me to move to live where he is which would mean selling the house and leaving our 2 youngest sons. I think I'd rather just file for divorce, sell the house, go back to school and make something of myself without him. We have problems that go way back and have tried over the 2 years of separation to resolve them, but we just butt heads. What do you think I should do wise ones?
2006-09-16 13:27:49 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you've been separated two years and have not reconciled your differences in that length of time, it's not likely to happen. Do not move where he is. Sell the house if necessary , and continue living near your youngest sons. Move on with your own life! Time is wasting! Best of luck to you.
2006-09-16 14:31:18 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rosesharon.
Named after the rose of sharon by your mother, cool.
The rose of sharon is generally pink(Although it can be pale white), but it does have a red head so to speak.
Interesting.
Do you really want to leave your 2 youngest to go live with your husband?
Do you actually want to sell your house that your husband and you worked hard for?
Your spacious house must be pretty dang big.
So you should sell it if you are just going to live in it.
Divorce is final. separation can be final to.
My mother was separated from my father for seven years till he died, she never got a divorce. Mostly because of the widows benefits.:)
I don't know why you would move to go live with your husband if you want a divorce, unless you were constrained to, but your kids are older, there is no commitment??
Could it be money??
No because your selling your house to go live with him??
Hmmmm...
I don't see a good reason to move near him or around him.
You definitely should sell your house.
BUT!
Should you go to college?
You could independently take a online course.
It's less expensive.
You never know though you could meet some interasting people at college.
In a two year period of separation I bet you picked up another man.
Yet you need to go live with your husband?
So now you got be alone with your son.
That sucks!
I obviously say move.
Stay in the same state with your kids.
IF you have money go to college.
Especially if you are not happy with your employment.
Only obtain a divorce if you hopefully find a man!
Best wishes to you Rose of Sharon.
2006-09-16 23:30:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how badly you want the current marriage to work out. Until you have a certificate of divorce you are still married. If you want to move on or have found someone else, seek a divorce before getting to hot and heavy with another person. You cant be expected to wait around forever.
2006-09-16 20:40:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no way that you guys are going to make things change by living in two different states. In the two years you've been seperated, neither one of you has compromised and moved to be closer to eachother. You might as well get divorced. If both of you were committed to trying to make it work, you'd be living in the same state let alone the same city.
2006-09-16 20:34:40 · answer #4 · answered by C K Platypus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get on with your life, dear. If it was me I would file for a divorce and go back to school. Had a very good friend that divorced her husband and went back to school and got her Master's degree in education, She is now an assistant principal at a large school.
2006-09-16 20:47:08 · answer #5 · answered by Alien 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to move on. Sell the house if you want, go back to school. You've already pretty much been without him for 2 years. Why move closer to him? It will just be easier to butt heads. Focus on your needs now.
2006-09-16 20:36:49 · answer #6 · answered by msuzyq 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what feels right for you.
You said it yourself, "I think I'd rather just file for divorce, sell the house, go back to school and make something of myself without him."
So then do that.
2006-09-16 20:33:12 · answer #7 · answered by AnswerMom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've had no luck in reconciling in the two years of separation, chances are you won't ever get past the problems that you have in your relationship. If it were me, I'd simply sign the divorce papers and start living my life the way that I wanted to... HAPPY.
2006-09-16 20:31:52 · answer #8 · answered by mamafence 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is certainly asking alot of you...to leave your children...if your problems haven't been resolved over the years you might be happier making a good life for yourself without him. Its very liberating and satisfying to strike out on your own and know you did it by yourself. Do you honestly believe your problems could ever be resolved?
2006-09-16 20:51:19 · answer #9 · answered by Saskia M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take 5 steps backwards after you've taken 5 steps forward.
Don't uproot yourself to go live with your ex. Go on with your life.
If you haven't been able to resolve your issues in 2 years-----you never will, especially if you just "butt heads." Cut him loose once and for all and get on with your life.
2006-09-16 20:44:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋