Hi I have been married 10 years and my wife and I had a reasonably good relationship.Then a year ago my wife left. She had been studying new age courses and declared that she was 'on a different path to me' and had to leave. I was, and still am, devastated. I have recently heard that she has moved in with someone from the course. I have seen a psychologist and she says that it is a grieving process, which I understand but the pain is not lessening. Actually the pain is compoundedby me not having any family. I have one sister who lives in the US and I am in Austrlalia. Also I am now past 40, my wife was a number of years younger and I feel that I am very alone. I have friends but they are all married with families. Ostensibly I have things going for me, I have a very good job and I am fit and healthy but I feel in pain and the past is a drag on the future. I want to be able to look at meeting a new partner without feeling the pain of the loss of my marriage. Drew
2006-09-16 13:16:21 · 4 answers · asked by Drew M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you are doing all the right things. It takes time. One suggestion i thought of is if you joined a local church to meet other people (who are nice and caring). You would then belong to a community of people who offer support and encouragement. Also pastors/ministers are often good at listening and can pray for you. (really helps).
Belonging to a church can really make you feel like your family. Keep on going - it will get easier. Sometimes it is two steps forward, one step backward. But even then you are progressing through the grief process. Cry, write down your feelings, punch pillows if you are angry etc. Dont bottle up your feelings.
Best of luck.
2006-09-16 13:28:17 · answer #1 · answered by Nic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, The rear view mirror is 2 inches by 10 inches. The windshield is 2 feet by 5 feet. Don't waste time looking at that mirror.
Find yourself, have fun, exchange genetic material with somebody. Then remember that she's rubbing crystals and choking on tofu. Think how much better off you are.
It's tough starting over but folks do it every day. No BS platitudes here. You have to find it within yourself to move on. Get out there and occupy yourself with new recreations, eventually you'll look over and some female somebody will be looking back....
2006-09-16 20:25:35 · answer #2 · answered by lmcbuilder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, f that stank a$$ ho.
My wife left in November, and in April I divorced her...good ridance.
You will get over the pain by dating other broads. I started with fat pigs because my self esteem was low, but after 5 months i have started dating better looking broads than my ex wife. ENJOY!!!
I live in the Detroit area and the women here are typically heffers, but i have been able to attract the decent looking ones with a little effort.
2006-09-16 20:17:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to take some time and find yourself again, dateing is fine but just for fun, you are not ready for a realtionship yet. just search yourself and do things you"d forgoten you like. enjoy being single again.
2006-09-16 20:38:57 · answer #4 · answered by thepainter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋