My grandmother died when I was 13 and my Great-Grandmom followed her in April of this year before I turned 20. Almost all the people who knew me new them well. When I was aksed what reaction I made when they died, I said "I was calm. I didn't cry or anything". People looked at me like I was crazy. They call me ignorant and cold-hearted because of that. My Mother said "Everybody shows emotions differently so don't worry about it". She didn't cry either. Our's were only dry eyes at both services.
My take is this: If someone lived a full and exciting life, as these two did, and they didn't suffer while dying, what's to cry about? We should be happy God took them, rejoice in their memory and carry out their legacy. Is it wrong to feel that way?
2006-09-16 13:00:43 · 7 answers · asked by D-Wizzle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I don't think its wrong. Everyone experiences grief differently. That's a wonderful way of describing your thoughts on death. However, I will advise you not to be afraid to feel anything that comes your way. Don't think you are weak because of it. These emotions sometimes have a way of sneaking up on you when you least expect it. You may continue to have the same outlook on the situation, and I am not implying that this is the case for you and your mother, but don't be hesitant to grieve if you need to. Keeping these types of emotions inside can be more harmful than helpful.
Btw, I'm sorry to hear about your loss, but encouraged by your take on it. Good luck.
2006-09-16 13:07:11 · answer #1 · answered by Layla 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your completely right.
Everyone shows emotions differently. Some people cry over everything and others are the total opposite.
2006-09-16 20:06:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree totally, rejoice in their memories and don't let other peoples perception of what is acceptable get you down
2006-09-16 20:12:17 · answer #3 · answered by bolandalbaby@verizon.net 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I completely agree with you. I don't believe it helps the dead to be mourned excessively.
2006-09-16 20:22:41 · answer #4 · answered by Girl Machine 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. You're totally right
2006-09-16 20:03:53 · answer #5 · answered by baby gurl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I absolutely agree with you and also what your mom said!
2006-09-16 20:03:09 · answer #6 · answered by **KELLEY** 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, I think it is good to think that way. That is the best way to think.
2006-09-16 20:04:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋