i like my friends a lot - they're friendly and funny, but i've realized that they all like to drink. i've come to realize that drinking isn't something i want to get myself into, but now i feel alienated from my friends. i've tried inviting them to do other things than drinking, but no one will do anything else with me! is it bad that i'm happy to just watch movies every weekend, or go bowling, or do something else? how do i find people with the same beliefs and interests as me?
and how do i tell my friends that drinking isn't something i want to be a part of anymore? i dont want to lose my old friends, i just wish they all didn't go out and drink every weekend.
2006-09-16 12:54:41 · 6 answers · asked by mighty_power7 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Don't feel badly about finding new friends. You are going in a different and better direction than your friends. You sound much more mature than those you hand around with. Do not allow yourself to get caught up in this life style. There are a lot of young people like yourself, seek them out.
Good luck and stay on the right track. I am very proud of you and I don't even know you.
2006-09-16 14:39:11 · answer #1 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as if you have a lot more morals than your friends. This is a good thing!
By "drinking" it is assumed liquids containing alcohol are meant, such as whisky, wine, beer, etc. Of course, different definitions are offered for "moderate" It is good that we are concerned with what the Bible teaches. The Bible is God's express will which must be obeyed (Jn. 12: 48, 2 Jn. 9-11).
Jesus' first miracle is often sighted as proof. "Jesus made wine for the people to drink," we are told, "therefore, drinking wine...is not wrong!" Some contend that not only did Jesus make intoxicating wine, but he himself was a winebibber. Beloved, there are basically three Hebrew words and one Greek word rendered wine in the Bible. The word oinos is found in connection with Jesus' first miracle (Jn. 2: 1-11). Oinos is found 33 times in the Greek New Testament. Oinos itself may mean either fermented (containing alcohol) or unfermented drink (grape juice). We know that oinos in John 2 is unfermented because the guests were "well drunk" before Jesus made additional oinos for them (Jn. 2: 10). The Bible obviously condemns drunkenness (Eph. 5:18).
The scriptures teach the avoidance of intoxicating drink. The Bible recognizes the proper controlled, medicinal use of alcohol (I Tim. 5: 23), but drinking intoxicating drinks for the sake of drunkenness or social conformity, even in moderation, is forbidden. The Christian is to "abstain from all appearance of evil" (I Thes. 5: 22). Indeed, strong drink is condemned (Prov. 23: 29-35). Drunkenness is described in the text (vss. 29, 33-35). The consequent admonition is given, "Look not thou upon the wine when it is red, when it giveth his color in the cup, when it moveth itself aright" (Prov. 23:31). In other words, stay away from it altogether! One will never regret the avoidance of strong drink.
You are to choose the path you must follow. I can not force you not to drink, it is your decision. Real friends do not drag their friends down to their level. So, maybe it is time to get a new crowd!
Keep your head and stay free from drugs, drink and STD's.....
2006-09-16 20:09:59 · answer #2 · answered by fairyfae.angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't call this "morals", I'd call it "interests".
Your friends, if they are your friends, should love you enough to accept your decision (which is a very wise one).
If they don't, they're not really your friends (I know it sounds like junior high, but you know it's true).
If you're still really intent on keeping your old friends, I guess I would just tell them, "I'm really not interested in hanging out with you all when you are drinking, so if you all ever get together to do some other activity, give me a call, and I'll join you!"
2006-09-16 20:00:52 · answer #3 · answered by sarahg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be the friend who enjoys their company and hopes for their safety....you could be the designated driver...though dont put obnoxious people in your car...they could prove distracting.
Your friends arent always drunk are they?
If its simply too intolerable, just hang out with them when they arent drinking and find a book club or such group of friends to hang with during the times when your others are occupied with what you feel disturbing to be around.
2006-09-16 20:11:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You stick to your guns. Drinking only causes problems, if they can't appreciate that, then it's their lose.
2006-09-16 20:13:13 · answer #5 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to find new firends, and best friends never exist
2006-09-16 19:58:17 · answer #6 · answered by Strange Ball 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋