My fiancee went to a bachelor party this past weekend. We have agreed for sometime now that he would not go to a strip club and I wouldn't go to one. So he went out and said all the guys when into the strip club but he didn't....I believed him no big deal. Then about 3 days later he comes into the bathroom and I can tell on his face he has something to tell me. He tells me he went into the strip club JUST to get all the guys to get going to get to the bar. I don't know what to believe and every time he tells the story he keeps adding more. Guys....what do you think really happened...espeically if he was drinking. It makes me feel worthless that he did this and that he lied to me...any advice. Please only NICE answers needed.
2006-09-16 12:47:28 · 19 answers · asked by Tiffany 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well look at it this way . . . at least he was honest and told you that he went in . . . and I'm sure it took a LOT out of him to do that . . . if you think something more happened, just have a heart-to-heart with him . . tell him that you're concerned and you want to know EVERYthing that happened that night . . but if you tell him that, be prepared for anything . . make sure you can handle what he's going to tell you . . but like I said before, at least he told you the truth . . I would say, just let him know you didn't like what he did and just move on . . don't dwell on it because it might tear you apart . . .
2006-09-16 12:51:46 · answer #1 · answered by ♥LoisLane♥ 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My advice is that you first need to ask yourself which is more important to you: knowing the truth or punishing him if he broke the rules. If the truth is more important to you, then sit him down and tell him "look, I'm going to give you a get out of jail free card for this ONE incident, but in exchange I want the complete truth on what happened that night." Make sure you ask every question you need to have answered, and then from there decide if you need to make a new rule or whatever.
If punishing him is more important to you, then I guess you can always do a little detective work on your own, but remember that you are risking driving a deeper wedge into your relationship by doing so. I realize that he was the one who broke the rules, but we all know that life isn't fair, and that you can suffer from something that someone else did. So please consider carefully what it is you really want before you take any actions.
2006-09-16 20:10:11 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Going into a strip club is not cheating as long as he watched and did not touch. No worse than some of the stuff ya see at the beach! Relax honey, guys are gonna look and no one is gonna change that. Give the guy a break......imagine how whipped he felt when all the other guys were going in and he couldn't.
2006-09-16 19:56:19 · answer #3 · answered by just me 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Take it from another guy he probably just went out with the guys because they were all going and he would look wimpy if he didn't go, no he should no have lied about it up front but he came clean, I think you should nicely let him know how you feel about it but do not hold a grudge against him if he is a good man who loves you nothing more happened then he went out for a good time with the guys.
2006-09-16 19:54:46 · answer #4 · answered by jbrown280000 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you go to a club he goes to a club and then go home together...i dont see the big deal in people going to strip clubs you have more luck getting lucky at a local bar then a strip club
2006-09-16 20:16:51 · answer #5 · answered by Andrew C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes ma'm he went... but get over it. strip clubs are no big deal unless he continues to go. but if its just a one time thing then its no biggie. and as far as him lying to you just sit him down and tell him you want the truth. if he cant give you the complete truth then in the future you dont know what he will lie to you about. so make him understand that if he is not honest with you, then you dont know whats going to happen to your relationship. oh and ask his friends one by one dont ask em all together. good luck to you.
2006-09-16 19:52:42 · answer #6 · answered by maisyday07 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he is being honest with you. Why would he approach you just to tell you even more about that night unless he was trying to be honest? I think he felt guilty for not even telling you that he went in just to get the guys, so now he's coming clean with you. Sounds like a pretty good guy...
2006-09-16 19:52:36 · answer #7 · answered by Brianna 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys don't like to admit to their friends that they can't do something because of their girlfriend. He probably would have preferred not to disrespect the relationship but gave in to the guys. I wouldn't hold it against him. Its normal for guys to look at other woman, it doesn't mean he doesn't love you and obviously he's feeling guilty for lying to you if he's told you some details. He's probably not telling the whole truth but forgive him anyway!
2006-09-16 19:55:33 · answer #8 · answered by denico91 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you really think he stayed outside and waited on them??? Are you serious?? Yeah --- I'm a guy -- out with friends --- and I am going to wait outside of a strip club and look like a perv while the guys have fun --- you need to grow up ---
2006-09-16 19:53:53 · answer #9 · answered by brainfreeze007 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
he's trying to be honest but he's also trying to cover his *ss. y'all shouldn't be putting restrictions on each other, you're not married yet! if you lay down too much rules and regulations the marriage is going to be the same, y'all are a simple couple ENJOY. go to a strip joint together.
2006-09-16 20:04:17 · answer #10 · answered by Eryc 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋