how do i get over a person i'm pregnant by?

Question

i'm eight in a half months pregnant and my baby father left me and now he's saying the baby not his and i already have three children and he mess me up so much in head i start thinking it was'nt his i have'nt cheated on him i went back as far as realationships i had before him why am i'm feeling like this at times i feel like even killing myself he runs back and fourth to me and this other girl i have two jobs and she has nothing my own house my own car but i'm still not happy why am i'm feeling so down is it the mood swings or am i'm going crazey i don't go no where i lock my self in the room all day smoke apack of cigarettes a day some one please help me and right now is no time for downing me cause i already know i'm crazey just tell me why myh mind all mess up right now

Answer 1

You need some help...you just need to go to the right places to find it. Would you consider adoption for your baby? You are not in a good situation to add another child to your life.
You also need help proving this guy is the father. He needs to take responsibility.
Try to get help from some organizations for young mothers, or something like that. You owe it to your kids to straighten out your life.

Answer 2

Step 1: Stop the smoking. You have bigger thing to think about than lighting up.

Step 2: Start feeling better about yourself. Acknowledge the fact that you are the most wonderful and special person in the world. It is you who has taken shown kindness to a total ingrate by spending some time with him and even sharing a bed with him. You are infinitely more significant than him. He is nothing. Absolutely nothing. No matter what he says or does, he cannot ever matter at all. He is like a drop in the ocean. Sure there was a bit of a ripple at some point, but who's keeping track.

Every morning when you get up, look yourself in the mirror and smile at how smart, beautiful and accomplished you are. If for some reason you don't feel that way, say it again and again until you feel that way again. Don't stop looking at the mirror and smiling at how wonderful you are until you feel a warm and beautiful feeling inside you. Then you will be ready to face the world.

Always remember that every person you meet is but a support character in the movie of your life. They are extras that can be chosen or discarded based on your preference. The camera will always follow just you. Only your plight or trumph matter. Only your joy and sadness. You are the center of the world.

You are my hero. You will find happiness and you will look at yourself in triumph. You will find real love and put all sorrows behind you. Your story will have a happy ending. Just have faith in yourself. Life only asks of us the strength we possess. The only thing we need do is never run away.

I wish you the best of luck. If you ever need to talk or some kind words of comfort, you can get in touch with me. I'm never too busy to help someone as wonderful as you.

Answer 3

You have 3 children,smoke a pack of cigarets each day,and lock yourself in rooms,you need help.Where are your children when you are doing this?Try to get to know your children,go and playwith them,spend some time with them,get some fresh arir and breath.You can abprt the baby if it ain ttoo ;ate,or wait,is the 3 children by 3 different dads?Wow if it is,you need to go see someone.Or you can blow up on the person that got you pregnate.That will help.And just do some breathing.And calm down.If you keep your good work up,and dont smoke as much,you will be fine.Try to take one of those stop smoking things.Instead of smoking just chew gum or just do meditations or if you like music listen to music.Just breath and you will be fine if you keep up the good work.As for your four kids,spend some time with them.Cheer up.you might of screwed up your love life,but that doesnt mean you need to ruin the rest,Just pray and believe everything will be ok.And pray you will find the right guy.It will be ok.Have some confidence.Just dont yell at your kids for doing a little thing wrpng.Smoking can do that.Or try this.Just scream in a lot of pillows real loud.And for depession just breath and calm down.Ypur doing fine,just dont smoke as much and you wont feel this way.Take this advice.Even if you dont pick me for best answer,just try this.It will probily work.Or you can just aks god to take the wheel.Like caire underwoods song.Just trust god and he wont let anything bad happen.Just do what i said above,breath relax and calm down.

Answer 4

Are you getting prenatal medical care? I'd suggest talking to your OB about your mood swings. He/she should be able to help. Yes, mood swings are normal during pregnancy.

Instead of locking your self in your room, I'd suggest getting with some super-supportive friends, for at least the next 2-3 months and ditching the guy. You need people around that love you and are willing to bolster you.

The last thing you need is this guy (He's not even worthy of the term "man" in my book!)-- From what you've said, he's nothing but trash. He's not faithful, he's not willing to take responsibility, sounds like he's even abusive (verbally, at least). He isn't worth your time.

Where he's not willing to take responsibility for the baby, I'd almost suggest terminating his parental rights- then he can't even come back and mess your life up by bugging you about wanting (time with) the baby.

Good Luck, Honey...

Answer 5

You're 8 and a half months pregnant.
All the blood that used to be directed towards your brain has been directed down to your belly for the past 8 months.
You're thinking cap isn't exactly on straight.
Stop smoking. Go outside for a walk every day.
Tell your 3 other children you love them.
Once you have this baby you will slowly return to your normal self again.
Don't be hard on yourself.
You're not crazy, you've been hurt and you're trying to deal with it.

Answer 6

you need to get over this guy and take care of the other children yo have and get ready for one more. When the baby comes you can take DNA tests and prove it is his and make him pay child support. In the meantime, do some fun things with those precious kids you have and take care of yourself!!!!! He would be history if it were me!!!!!!!!!

Answer 7

your pregnancy has a lot to do with it it can cause severe mood swings but, the guy is no good. have the baby and take him to court for support, and be proud of yourself it's no easy task raising children by yourself

Answer 8

just think that u r better than him and that plus don't put deppression on the baby trust me i'm 14 with a 4 week year old baby grl it will all blow over my babys daddy left me but he came back maybe urs will 2!!!!!

Answer 9

get your self a big fat child support check every month and spend every dime on clothes and your hair this seems to do it for my x wife

Answer 10

when ur baby is born get a dna test (you wont have to pay he will if it is his), if it is his make him pay child support, the if u still dont feel better start ******* one of his friends. p.s. U SHOULDNT SMOKE WHEN UR PREGNANT! p.s.s i have custody of my daughter maby we could hook up sumday. lol