This boy that ive liked for a while had basically (to make a long story short) asked me to be friends with benifits, he wanted to lose his virginity to me, and me bein a virgin i wasnt ready and didnt want to take the risk of pregnancy, so i told him no...2 weeks after i say no he talks to me again and we completely avoid what had happened, i reply he doesnt write me back and then when school started (2 weeks later) he talks to my friends but ignores me, i send him a message asking him why hes avoiding me he doesnt write, a week later i try one more time, telling him i wanted to know, he says I have nothing to do with why hes not talkin to some people but it turns out im the only one, then he says that hes going through something hopefully i dont have to go through, i ask him why he didnt tell me that when i sent the first message and i told him he could still talk to me about it if he ever needs me and he writes back but doesnt answer my question all he says is thanks...i dont write
2006-09-16 12:17:33 · 12 answers · asked by Becky♥ 2 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
back, now i have classes with him, 4 weeks later he doesnt say anything to me and he cant even make eye contact with me...he told me he trusted me when he was trying to get to me and then he turns around and doesnt even try to talk to me...i think EVERYthing he said was bulls**t .... the sad thing is I want to be friends..i want everything to go back to the way it was when we talked and he made me laugh and happy to see him, theres a part of me that is like screw it and then i still like him...so im soo confused, any insight on how i can get over him...or even why hes being such a jerk??? by the way we're both 14 and sorry for posting it in this section i didnt get many answers in any other one...
2006-09-16 12:18:25 · update #1
You were wise not to lose your virginity to this guy.
Don't ever fall for a guy's line either. I'm telling you what I would tell my own sister.
Guys will try to make you feel guilty and try all kids of things to convince you, but the girls that are really special are worth waiting for. There's a saying "Some girls are for dating, some for marrying", you should be the one for marrying. You won't have anything to regret, and the guy you end up with will love you even more for waiting for him. Your (disease free) self is a wonderful gift you give each other.
About your friend, if you can call him that.
Best case: He might be really embarrassed about what happened between you. That could be a reason for him not to make an effort to hang with you. Give him time, and go on with your life with your other friends. His shame will fade and he'll be your friend again much later this year or next year.
Worst case: He was only trying to get a "partner" that he didn't have to respect and he's not worth your time. Same solution. Go on with your life with your own friends.
I hope this helps you.
2006-09-16 12:35:36 · answer #1 · answered by just me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok im thinking this might of been your first boy friend or "friend with benifits" whatever and if it was than it will be kinda hard to get over because most people always remeber the first person they were ever with... its hard to do... and the first couple of people are hard to forget or just get over... but youll learn how soon enough... just tell him you really want to be friends do this at like lunch or something in person... and try to figure out what exactly is going on then decide if hes worth being upset about and worring about so much... your too young to really know how to deal with something like this... if i were you id do what i stated above and probally try my best to forget about him and more on because there are alot better guys out there for you and you will find the right one when the time is right and your older... and by the way when a guy says all he wants is to be friends with benifits it usally always means is all he want is you know what and for it to be ok to "cheat" on you because your really not togather and if a guy cant be a boyfriend to you and respect you for what you want then hes not worth it at all ever...
2006-09-16 19:26:41 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is very immature. You need to avoid him for awhile and let him make the move. And if he dont make the move....there are way too many fishes in the sea to waste time and life on this one dude.
Find someone that will treat u like a lady and not just after one thing.
Men can be self servin jerks, play fire with fire.
2006-09-16 19:22:07 · answer #3 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you "friend" is mad that you guyz arent friends with benifits. Honestly, id just forget about it. If you stop talking to him, youll stop giving him the satisfaction of him knowing that you REALLY want to be his friend bad, he'll surely come back and want to be you freind and hopefully willl respect the fact that your not ready to give up you virginity
good luck!
2006-09-16 19:23:00 · answer #4 · answered by Classic Couture 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
boys at that age are only after one thing you should be proud of yourself for not giving in and making maybe the biggest mistake of you life if he can not accept your answer and still be your friend then you don't need a friend like that
2006-09-16 19:25:43 · answer #5 · answered by Robert A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is full of it, be glad you didnt do it and it is hard to forget about somebody youve liked, especially if its for a while...dont worry about it, always be open if he wants to talk, but dont show him your upset that hes not talking to you now, hes stubborn as most boys are...im sure you'll find somebody out there for you! good luck
2006-09-16 19:29:07 · answer #6 · answered by Nicole 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being a boy i m telling dont go behind him. he might have good sence of humour ,,,,,good looking and u like his company but he is intrested in having sex with u rather than ur friendship.... let him go where he wants to go....... in india they says ........."let ur friend go if he wants to go...if he come backs to u than only he is ur true friend"...u have done enough to get his friendship back and u have mentioned him that u cares about the friendship........now its his turn.............if he is ur real friend he will get back to u and than ur friendship will become 4 ever.........best of luck and i believe u will bcome very good friends again :)
2006-09-16 19:28:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply forget about him. You were right to say 'no' to his request and he is no good for you if all he wants from you is 'benefits'.
2006-09-16 19:22:10 · answer #8 · answered by Aubri M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look, forget about him, wat he is doing is working because u still want to be friends! He wants u to try to say ok about loosing your virginty thats why he is trying to get to u! just forget about him and make other friends!
2006-09-16 19:24:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a long story short?
2006-09-16 19:20:02 · answer #10 · answered by grooveface 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋