2006-09-16 12:11:07 · 25 answers · asked by confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Talk to him gently about how you feel about him going away. The marriage is probably stale due to him working abroad, but its not his fault.
Tell him that you understand that he works so hard and that you're proud of him for doing so and that you also know hes doing it all for you, but you miss him and want him to stay with you more, and tell him you don't care about the money, its him thats important to you. Explain gently and try not to hold any bittermess or resentment.
If its possible for you to go with him then try that. Don't give up on your marriage.....you married for a reason, don't let your hard lives get in the way of that something special you had. Its still there, you just need to find it again. Good luck!
2006-09-16 12:25:53 · answer #1 · answered by lakmii 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you knew this was going to be your future you should never have married him.
That being said, he is your husband now and his first obligation is to you at this critical point. Tell him to find another job that does not require him to travel and DISCUSS with him your situation and what is happening to you. If he loves you he will do this. Any excuses about money does not fly when it comes to saving a marriage that is already on the brink of disaster.
I hope you don't have children, because then, your husband would really be disrespecting you and them. Though, I would think he would love to be with his wife more often. I hated commuting and working away from home for 12 hours a day for five days a week. I found a job close to home. I missed my family (wife and kids). Nothing is worth that kind of missery. I married and made vows and I kept them.
See if your husband has character, integrity, self respect (can't respect anyone else if you don't have that), and morals. He made a vow to you and you alone, not his career or the money.
It is really wrong for him to do this no matter what his excuse. I'm sorry to hear it is happening to you.
REMEMBER, talk to him, call him now...What are you waiting for?...DO IT! THIS IS YOUR MARRIAGE YOU'RE TALKING ABOUT HERE!!!!
2006-09-16 19:32:39 · answer #2 · answered by Martin M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he is sending you money, and he is working for you and the family be pleased he is not there, and you are financially secure. Otherwise, if it is so stale, why not up sticks, get a person who is not stale, although, maybe you are stale, it takes two not to be able to tango. It depends on the mortgage, kids, commitments, finance. But, if you are a person alone, flee. be free, and reconstitute your staleness with someone anew. good luck. p.s. get the divorce, as Irvana Trump said, do not get mad, get everything....
2006-09-16 19:15:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
remember why u married him. people should know that marriage like everything else should be worked at or it won,t work. when d fire seems as if it's burning low, look for new ways to rekindle it, if u haven't got children and aren't working join him on this trips sometimes and make it worth both ur whiles.
i have been married for 6yrs too, and we both have to focus on ourselves and remind ourselves why we got into this in d first place when things get a little rough and monotonous, it's worth it cos u just start loving all over again. good luck, and pls don't divorce or cheat.
2006-09-17 00:49:17 · answer #4 · answered by gal-next-dr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm how is it when he's home? If it's 'stale' when he's home you might consider talking and working on that. While he's away, write to him and send little homemade gifts. He's away working, not a fun thing. Sure he misses you too and may feel the same? Make your conversations with him sexy and fun and feeling like he's eager to come home to loving arms!
2006-09-16 19:19:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Joanna is right, while he is away find an interest that will absorb your imagination and ego. It provide you with something other than thinking about what you have not got in your relationship.
It may also give a new dimension to your marriage
2006-09-16 19:23:18 · answer #6 · answered by philipscottbrooks 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is the marriage stale when he comes home?
2006-09-16 19:19:11 · answer #7 · answered by jackie w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to stay married, join a "cheating spouse" website and swing with men who are also married and want to stay that way but are looking for variety. Make it a rule to never see the same man twice so you don't fall in love.
2006-09-16 20:22:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your call, sometimes it works,sometimes not, take a look at yourself though , are you with him because of the money involved, or are you feeling neglected? Either way I feel you should sit down and have a chat about, " can he get a job nearer?" Sorry that's my best............... Good luck,,,, If you really love him just chat... seldom thing these days
2006-09-16 19:19:10 · answer #9 · answered by BackMan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a Rampant Rabbit then issue an ultimatum to come home and have a marriage or pack up and move on.
2006-09-16 19:13:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋