he's also on anti-depressants. i catch him in lies so often, which he says is related to drug use, but who knows. it feels like he's cheating on me.
2006-09-16 11:50:59 · 28 answers · asked by lora 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
And the purpose of this marriage is?????? drum roll please
2006-09-16 11:52:38 · answer #1 · answered by voluptoustaureanfemale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some anti-depressants (but not all of them) do cause a decrease in libido. I've noticed that this is particularly common in men. Also, which drugs does he use? One of the Most Common symptoms of certain types of drug use is a lack of interest in sex, as well as the lying and sneaky behavior that you've noticed. If he is still using drugs and doesn't want you to find out about it, then this may be the reason for his behavior. Has he has suddenly began spending time with NEW friends, and neglecting his OLD friends? Don't ignore your instincts, but try to improve the communication between the two of you, and find out for sure what the problem is. If he is an addict, then there is help and treatment available for him. If he is having an affair, then you need to decide whether it's worth it to you to continue a relationship with him. Only you can decide that. Counseling could possibly be useful in helping the two of you regain the trust that has been lost through his deceitful behavior. Good Luck.
2006-09-16 12:18:07 · answer #2 · answered by tigerlily6774 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is.
with the drugs. he finds the drugs more appealing than you. that's part of addiction.
what kind of drugs?? my ex lives for drugs and lost me twice and could care less. he professed his love for me till i asked him to get help. then it was "you need to except me the way i am".
get real. he needs to grow up. give him an ultimatum. if he truly loves you, he'll get help. if not, then at least you won't lose any more time.
just remember that if you decide to stay and he gets help it will be a battle. quitting drugs is very difficult depending on the type of drug and the type of person addicted. if he really is depressed then he needs to see a shrink. if he's only telling you he's depressed so he can get away with taking drugs then that's not right. if he see's a shrink they can give the correct medication for his needs instead of a hodge-podge he's getting off the street.
he could be cheating. my ex is the type of person who never makes the first move. but if someone made a move on him i bet he would have cheated on me.
my ex also lies about everything. i asked him once why he thought he needed to lie all the time and he just shrugged and said "i don't know. i get more attention. it makes things exciting". gross. what kind of thought pattern is that??? i think he's what one would call ---narcicistic----. no kidding.
definitely do not let him walk all over you or try to scare you into staying because he says he might hurt himself. i hate that when a person does that.
just make sure you look out for yourself and any (if any) children.
good luck
2006-09-16 12:11:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am on anti-depressants, my poor husband who would love to have sex on daily basis but does not. Not even once a week.
I have absolutely no desire at all and I feel deeply sad for any one suffering from this mad disease called depression. However I do not use any other drugs of any kind except the drug's that is supposedly to help me by my Doctor.
If you and your husband are in the age range of 20's and 30's It is my opinion that your husband is cheating.
Anti depressants does not work if you are taking other drugs.
I love my husband, desire or not I try to satisfy him as much as I can and willing to do.
You have caught him lying, that's a no no. Leave if you can.
If you love him set him free. It is the only way he will get the help he needs. Other wise he will drag you down with him.
He does not care about anything except the drugs.
You deserve better, life is so damn short.
2006-09-16 12:09:41 · answer #4 · answered by Maria C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The get their sex from the drugs, their sex drive is gone or almost gone at times, if you are unhappy, and he is not trying to help the situation, then you need to save yourself, and move on. The only thing you have to worry about is the drugs, not another woman!!
2006-09-16 11:55:13 · answer #5 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the drugs may have killed his sex drive you sound like an enabler you need to find a group of supporters who have gone through what your now go through check out places that have na meeting they can tell you where the people of drugs go for help and support good luck he's the only living person who can help him get his life together.
2006-09-16 12:01:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
DRUGS is a form of cheating, they will always win, over you, over kids if you have any. Do you want to spend your life with someone who is as selfish as that? A drug addict is very selfish and he is not going to quit until he is ready. You have to look in the mirror and ask yourself if your enabling this man by sitting by and letting him do this to you. Why are you letting this man do this to you??? Girl take control!!!! Trust me, drugs will always win, obviously he cant deal with life. Figure out if he is worth counseling and treatment. If he doesnt want to go, he's not interested in changing period!!!
2006-09-16 11:58:35 · answer #7 · answered by mphsgal 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but there is something wrong in this picture.If he is really depressed,then you would have said "yeah I really know he is depressed,that is why he is acting this way".But he is the one who is giving you the reason,that does not sound right.I do not want to judge him short.Is he depressed enough to not to function this way or not.If your ansswer is "I do not think so",yes honey he is definetely cheating and he thinks that he has a good excuse for that.
2006-09-16 11:55:17 · answer #8 · answered by SD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is, with drugs. Addicts don`t have much interest in sex and the drugs cause chemical changes in his system which make performance an issue....get him clean then see if you need to ask the same question.
2006-09-16 14:04:40 · answer #9 · answered by Therapist King 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my husband stop having sex with me after the baby was born. He said, "Sex is hard work, I think a womans Vagina is the uglies thing to look at, If I never had to have sex again, I wouldn't" So I considered him to be gay, not cheating! (we're divorced now of course)
2006-09-16 11:54:10 · answer #10 · answered by DrPepper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no cause for you to stay with this guy,he will only bring you down,get out why you can and find a decent guy and have fun in you life,the way it sounds you are down now and bored with all this ,don't wait leave now be for you get hurt or worse.Things want get better with him.
2006-09-16 11:56:50 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋