What are the common problems between married couples?

Question

I might be getting married soon, and I was just wondering what are the common problems married couples tend to go through.

I am interrested to know just so that I can be more prepared for them, and hopefully handle it better.

I know each couple is different, but if I could get a general idea that would be wonderful.

Thanks guys =)

Answer 1

since our marriage, about 3 years ago, there's been a lot of ups and downs. in the beginning, our fighting was about eachothers pet peeves. toilet seat up (him), clothes on the floor (me), midnight runs for milk (him/me), so on and so forth. everything seemed like a big deal, and the truth is that fighting between a couple...i mean arguing/bickering...not boxing or anything like that...

the biggest thing we argue about is consideration for one another and not taking eachother for granted. after 2 kids, the hustle and bustle of work and just everyday, sometimes we forget that we love and respect eachother and sometimes acknowledging one another can go a long way. but some of the things i've learned is this.

dont let your pride get in the way.
dont stay mad too long, even if you're right. (cuz usually i am)
forgive easily.
laugh ALOT.
pick your battles...(i hate when he goes to bed dirty...ughhhh...but some time i just have to let it go...)
make sure you have enough time for yourselves after the kids come.
be apart every now and then to appreciate eachother when you get home.

good luck. and congrats

Answer 2

The issue that comes up the most in our four year marriage is finances. We both have a different view on how our money should be spent. I like to plan and pay bills, my husband likes to take off and spend money on his truck. It usually ends up with mild bickering and then I will pay the bills. The next issue we have is parenting. We have two kids and we parent differently. I'm a push over and he's a hard *** so it usually ends up with again, mild bickering. We have other issues with one another, like he works too much and I am a neat freak but after our first year of immense fighting and almost divorce we decided that it's not worth fighting. We always stop before we get too far and say things we don't mean. Marriage is a balancing act and sometimes you need to drop a fight because it's just not worth it. Remember your marriage is as happy as you make it. I love being married and I wouldn't trade it for the world. Marriage is hard work but you'll enjoy having someone to come home to every night. Have a long and happy marriage. Remember don't sweat the small stuff. And one thing my husband and I discovered is go to bed angry. Don't drag the fight on into the night. The fight only gets worse. If you just go to bed, when you wake up in the morning you will be refreshed and the fight will be ended. You can start over. Don't loose sleep over problems. God Bless!

Answer 3

Young women want more attention then most guys are willing to give. It cuts into their time with their buddies, watching TV, playing video games or their hobby. Smoking, drinking or drugs can be another big issue too. Then you have other priority issues about time, money or work. Responsibility is another big issue with a young couple because, they tend to live off in lala land and let their parents take care of any major things that comes up. Personally, if I were you, I'd pick a different subject for a play if you want a comedy because, you'll end up with more of a drama by the time you get your research done.

Answer 4

Money is my first choice,but not respecting each others opinions and or their space has to be second.Not talking and letting the other know if they hurt your feelings,or do something that bothers you ie bottling up your feelings and only letting them out when you get mad is another.Expressing your feelings,hurts etc in a loving way with your partner at the right time smooths out the bumps.Be sensitive to your partners feelings just as you expect him to be sensitive to yours.Be each others best friend as well as lovers and you'll be happy.When somethings bothering you and you need to get it out pick your time and not when they just get home from work and just want to relax a bit.Hope this helps.16 yrs and counting.
P.S. It took me some time to learn this though as this is my third marriage.Best of luck.

Answer 5

1. Power struggles
2. Learning to live together, the melding of all aspects of life
3. money
4. Dissapointment (from mostly false expectations)

But even with the struggles, it's great and I wouldn't trade it for the world!

Answer 6

Money, children, relatives, sex and household duties are are the big causes of fights
honest communication is the only thing that can overcome these things

Answer 7

Research shows money is the number one problem

Answer 8

since my husband and i got our dogs, he says that I spend way too much time with them. He use to get 100% of my attention and now he feels that he is only getting 50%. We are now trying to get pregnant and he is worried that it will be baby first, dogs second and husband nil!

Answer 9

Sex frequency, sports watching, lack of communication and going out to do shopping

Answer 10

It is of vital importance for any relationship / marriage that you communicate with each other. Honesty and trust also is very important.