Does your Parents know that you are gay or bi or lesbian? how the take it that?

Question

Hello.. I would like to know how does your parents take it about that you are gay or bi or gay? I told to my mom. well I live in Mexico and I am only child.. it's very hard for her.. she thinks with the time I will be normal..

Answer 1

I always thought my parents would go mad, but they really don't care, they just want to see me happy and secure, and I am that much much more than I was while I was hiding how I really felt.

There are very very few parents who really don't come around to their children being gay in the slightest, they may live in denial all their lives but they will still be there for you, and have some respect for your partners position in your life. Your Mum will understand eventually. And being Gay isn't all about babies, you may find a partner and adopt one day, she may hate that idea, but she will ALWAYS be your Mom I am sure.

Answer 2

I'm also an only child, and that's probably the hardest part because they get no grandkids (actually, if I was straight they probably still wouldn't have grandkids because babies scare me).

My mom thought I was gay when I was little, then I had a girlfriend for three years and I think she was relieved, then after we broke up she confronted me about it and I told her. At first, of course, they were upset and angry and hated having my boyfriend visit. My dad even blamed it on my mom because she would always take me to visit her gay friend. After time, though, things got better and they are totally happy with who I am now (it's been about ten years). I think they just came to terms with it themselves; I didn't try to persuade them in any way. Of course, they're not religious at all so that makes things easier. They get along great with my boyfriend Tom and consider him a second son. Actually, it gets me kind of teary-eyed thinking about it.

Answer 3

I told my parents a long time ago, my Mom kinda acted like she did not hear it, my father was more receptive, but of course I found out he was gay. My father has since passed and my mother or my three brothers basically have nothing to do with me. If I call them to wish them a happy birthday or a holiday wish, I get a very short conversation. My brother tells me I look and act just like my dad, so I guess maybe that is where their hang up is.I wish I could have a closer relationship with them, but it is not going to happen, it has been 20 years!! It hurts, but I will be fine, I still love them, they are family, but sometimes I would just like to let them go...............I don't know

Answer 4

My parents have known that i am gay for about 3 years. They have only just started to talk to my boyfriend, we have been together for two years. After all the rows and drama they just kind of ignored the fact i'm gay. They did not mention anything to do with boyfriends or girlfriends. I don't think they have accepted that he is my boyfriend yet.

Answer 5

I came out to both my parents at a later age, but their reaction really threw me off balance. I just wasn't prepared for how WELL they took it.
I was actually expecting a huge falling out or argument, but they just sat there, smiled and then my mom just said "Duh, what took you so long?"

Seriously.
I've been really blessed with wonderfully accepting and loving parents who only wanted me to ever be happy and to know love. So, when I came out they were actually relieved.

My partners family is a completely different story. She told her mother who immediately made her promice to never tell her father or brother. To this day, several years later, my partner has still not told her father or brother. Although I think they must know something, but since my partner hasn't actually said anything they can deny it's true. It kind of hurts me to some extent because I could never agree to lie to either of my parents. Everytime she goes to visit them her father tries to entice her to stay by offering her stuff like a house, a great job...etc. It's as if he's intentionally trying to take her from me and our son. I know that's not completely true, but I can't help but feel that way when she comes back and tells me all these things. Sometimes I just wish she wouldn't tell me.

Answer 6

I came out to my parents over 30 years ago. It made my Mother sad because she believed it would make my life harder. They are fine with it now.
I would suggest that you provide some reading material that is usually available from Pflag on homosexuality to help her accept your sexuality.
It is often the case that lesbians are not taken as seriously as gay men... and frequently thought by red-neck idiots that all a woman needs is a good..... to make her "normal" These cretins should be avoided at all costs.

Answer 7

I do not know if my parents were aware of any "difference". I was not until I met my future partner at the office. Love of music and gardening brought us together. After 3 years we decided to purchase a house and live together.
My mother said that she had hoped for grandchildren but Gwenneth was a lovely person. If you love her, treat her kindly and be happy. Gwen's family? That is a different story.
Best wishes, Rose P.

Answer 8

My parents know i'm Gay. My mother was in denial, we argued at first but deep down she had always knew because there were signs. She was the first person I told and that was very hard. My father when I told him almost a year later, he was like i'm going to love you reguardless and becareful dealing with men but I notice that since me telling him I'm gay, he doesn't like to talk about it, he's quick to change the subject.

Answer 9

Hi, I'm bisexual. When I came out to my mother, stepfather and brother - they were all accepting. I think deep down my brother hopes I will assume a "normal heterosexual relationship" but otherwise, the only problems I had was from some (not all though) gay people!!

Answer 10

I came out, and i get the same general reaction, i told them i was bi, they made sure i knew all the risks, and then they make jokes about it time to time. problem is, now all of the restrictions i had for females (damn over protective parents) apply to males, great fun, not 8P. i almost wish i hadn't told them because of stuff like that, but i am glad i did in the end, a great wieght off my shoulders.