Women ages of 20-35 what has worked on you to pick you up?
This question is for women ages of 20-35 roughly. What makes you get interested in a guy? is it first appearance or is it a specific thing he does or lines?
Let us men know what we are doing wrong, because it seems like it’s easier for women to get men that men to get women in this world.
Now here is what I want to know for myself. How do we know when we are out of our league because there are so many gorgeous women and yet I get afraid to confront some or even what to say to them just to get them to notice me? What would i say then what would i look for in return to know they are interested? Because im stupid when it comes to women just like all men.
I have dated up and down but i want to date the right ones that i really want to date.
Thanks ladies
2006-09-16 11:14:52 · 13 answers · asked by twism 3 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
forgot to add, I see that alot of you stated that if im doing this to get laid then goodluck but it wont get me no where. Im not doing it for that, I have just noticed that there are people i cross in my life and would love to ask out or just become friends and see but i freeze up due to being shy sometimes. Or thinking i dont stand a chance.
I have dated alot in my past, but as i got older now 27 :>) feelings are that im losing that. And now that im looking for someone nice and serious i cant find them.
anyway thought i would clear that up.
thanks
2006-09-16 11:31:11 · update #1
For me to be attracted to guy he has to be somewhat attractive but he also has to have confidence in hisself, he has to be determined, he needs to be intellectual, he also needs to have some ambition- Know where he wants to go in his life, he has to be able to make me laugh and he needs to have the mind set that no one is perfect- to have the desire to grow.
It isn't always about looks with women cause if a guy is unattractive but has confidence in hisself a woman will think about dating him. Women love men with CONFIDENCE and sense of HUMOR.
A woman is never out of your league but if your not on a certain level then she would appear that way to you. Try not to be afraid when approaching women just be yourself and go with the flow. We also like guys who aren't trying to be someone else.
2006-09-16 11:33:37 · answer #1 · answered by s3xy_1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For me I look at their appearance than how he act when hes with his friends toward women like if the only reason you want a women is for sex I dont go for that first I get to know the guy then we go on a couple of dates then we can talk about love making.
But I am not single but I am almost 28 I have been with my boyfriend now for over ten years.
2006-09-16 18:32:11 · answer #2 · answered by tootles 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are a number of things. We need to know how close are you with your family. How you feel about kids,love, etc....Every guy wants a good looking woman.But ,looks are not everything.Of course you want someone you can wake-up to and feel like OH MY DAM!!! I think you should figure out what it is you're looking for in a woman.What are some of the things that would really get you going to feel like WOW,this is the one. Women like cool acting guys. Guys who make them feel like they are the most important thing to them. But you can never go wrong by just being yourself.But cool.
2006-09-17 16:04:22 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa H 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't come on to strong. Be funny, but not the class clown. Looking nice helps. Don't say stupid things. Talk right, not all hood-ratty. Be yourself. If you can't find the right girl, maybe it's because of the girls you choose.
2006-09-16 18:25:30 · answer #4 · answered by spacedchic00 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Different girls look for different things. One thing I was always told, look for a man with clean fingernails and nice shoes. It says a lot. Also, what would always attract me was charisma and confidence- not neccesarily looks. But please don't confuse confidence with *********. A quiet confidence is always good. Also, a good sense of humor is importatant. But most importantly, be yourself. Yes, you've heard it before but if someone doesn't like you for you, then she isn't the one for you.
2006-09-16 18:22:26 · answer #5 · answered by Rairia 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Biggest thing- dont play into the whole idea that you have to "pick a girl up". Girls who go for player lines, and bla bla bla are stupid and if your in it to get laid go for it. But if your in it for anything else, its dumb, but just be yourself but with confidence. You see a girl you think you like, talk to her. Dont be cheesy.
2006-09-16 18:24:15 · answer #6 · answered by jen 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Instead of thinking about "who to pick up" -- why not think instead about making friendships... and some of those friendships with females.
It's not a contest to see how quickly you can become physical -- it's about creating a friendship and maybe in time a relationship with a person.
2006-09-16 18:23:46 · answer #7 · answered by kaliselenite 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just start by saying hi and watch their reactions. I never waas attracted to much to guys that tried too hard. Flirt a little and play hard to get. Don't play that too long cuz playin hard to get gets hard to play :) Good Luck with your quest :)
2006-09-16 18:23:25 · answer #8 · answered by Miss Mouse 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
guys usually make 1 of 2 mistakes.. either they start acting really cocky around a girl (huge turnoff) or they are too shy because they don't think they stand a chance... the key is just to be yourself :-D
2006-09-16 18:23:44 · answer #9 · answered by Reesie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A great smile and a sincere personality goes a long way in my book.
2006-09-17 11:51:20 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋