Ok we were driving to the grocery store and I saw this long-legged blond talking on her cell phone and getting into her car. He was driving, and I saw him look in that direction TWICE. I really don't know what to think about this, it has pretty much ruined my day and our special weekend we had planned. How can I keep him from doing things like this?
2006-09-16 11:14:16 · 41 answers · asked by Andrea Ryan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
get over yourself...he isn't dead so he will look..don't you?
2006-09-16 12:37:07 · answer #1 · answered by Billie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are trying to make a mountain out of a ant hill. I am 68yrs old and have been married to the same wonderful lady for 49 years. Does it upset you when your husband looks at a beautiful sunset? How about admiring a shinny new car? Do you feel hurt when he glances at a cute little puppy dog? How about a nice painting in the gallery? A beautiful woman, or to you a handsome man, is a piece of natures art to be admired by all. Do not tell me that you never look at a member of the opposite sex admiringly. After all, he married you. Did he jump out of the car and run to the blond and propose? Hell no ! Grow up, be honest before you are the selfish one that ruins your marriage. As I told you, I am 68 and still look. When I stop looking I will be dead. Look but long for; NO! Admire but aspire to have, NO! Love my 65yr old gray headed TEXAS woman. You damn well bet I do. And she has never questioned my looking. Never, she is too secure.
2006-09-16 11:29:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just said you were looking too! Looking isn't bad, we all do it! It only becomes a marital crime when it goes beyound looking.
Your weekend was probably ruined, because you were feeling insecure of your thoughts of the "blonde with long legs". What man doesn't look at that?
I'm hopeing if you sit him down and talk with him about these sort of things that are bothering you, he'll turn out to be the great guy you married and take it to heart on how it hurts. He'll try working at satisfiying you.
2006-09-16 11:21:09 · answer #3 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what if he looked at a 90 year old grandma twice would you be mad then?you let your insecurities ruin your day and special weekend.he didn't stop and ask for her number did he? so let it go ,your weekend with him was much more important than the two seconds your husbands eyes wondered?you couldn't help but look at her yourself to notice her long legs blond hair and that she was on the phone. so let it go, and go have great sex with your man and remind him what he has. and next time hes driving he will be thinking about you and wont have time to look around.
2006-09-16 20:14:44 · answer #4 · answered by HoustonsFinest...TexasBaby..(: 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it. After all your husband is only human. A Priest once told me theres no harm in admiring Gods work. You will either have to blind him or get some horse blinders for him to get him to stop. Your letting your imagination run wild concerning this. Theres no harm in looking. Besides, honestly youre going to tell us that you havent "looked" at some guy on TV or at the store. Youre reading way too much into this so just calm down and admire some of Gods work too and help your husband see some of Gods better creations in case he missed them. Itll drive him wild wondering. Good luck
2006-09-16 11:28:31 · answer #5 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon!
YOU CAN'T!
The reality is you will never be able to stop your husband from looking at other women. But, I think you should ask yourself also, why do you want to stop him?
Do you want him to put his hand over his eye, everytime a sexy lady walks by?
Now, if he starts slobbing, that is a whole other conversation, but if he just looks, my opinion is, that does not mean he just secretly cheated on you in his mind.
I think that we all, husband and wives every now and then look at another man or woman. There are a lot of nice looking people in this world. You have to face the fact that there are going to be women who look 10 times better than you, and you know what, your husband is probably going to look.
The thing that matter is that, you know you have a good man, and a good man will look, because he is a man. But, he is going to look and that is all. He respects your relationship, she is just another nice looking gal getting into her car, but guess what you are his wife.
So what you need to do is make sure that your self-esteem and confidence is up, because with that, I don't give a damn if Halle Berry walked by, MY MAN IS COMING HOME WITH ME, HE MAY LOOK, BUT YOU KNOW WHAT I MAY LOOK TOO!! LOL
Seriously it is all about self-esteem and confidence. Confidence in yourself, confidence in your man, and confidence in your relationship.
If you have this, who cares how many blonde girls talking on their cell phone pass by.
2006-09-16 11:24:37 · answer #6 · answered by alicianicolemoore 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember that you are the one he was in the car with and you were the one he went home with. It's kinda natural for guys to look... but they really should be considerate of their significant others feelings. I've seen my fiance do it once or twice and I just laugh at him... I actually asked him one time if he wanted me to leave so he could go talk to the chick ... that kinda got his attention and I haven't noticed it since then. If you are comfortable in your relationship and you trust him, than a look here and there isn't gonna hurt... now touching is a different story :) good luck
2006-09-16 11:19:09 · answer #7 · answered by Gyrlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up, girl. You can't stop him from looking. Don't think anything about it. It means he's normal and healthy. What, do you think he doesn't love you because he checked out some stranger? Stop being so insecure. If you asked, he'd probably say something like, She has great legs but you have way better boobs.
What is it with girls who think they're entitled to control their husband's every thought and action? Geez!
And remember, if he can look, so can you! Good luck, and don't be mad and spoil the weekend. YOU'RE the one he married, right? ;-)
2006-09-16 16:43:44 · answer #8 · answered by Nightlight 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Innocent? Maybe, maybe not. If that is all he is doing on occasion it is normal. However, be on the look out for other signs of disrespect as well. Disrespect is a major issue in itself, and that leads to more disrespect or cheating. Answers these questions for yourself: Does he put me first or does he have to get his way? Does he help with housework or leave it to you? Does he ignore you while watching tv? Does he initiate intamacy or do you? Are there phone numbers on his cell phone who you do not know who's they are? It will be good to spot check on occassion to know for sure.
2006-09-16 12:01:23 · answer #9 · answered by Credit Expert 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, he is a man, and the way I figure it is as long as it is just a look who cares, he came home with you didnt he? At least he isnt out sleeping around with all the long legged blondes. You sound very insecure in your relationship.
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