2006-09-16 11:03:20 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
What? You both want to have a baby together but you don't know how to say it out load? If you can't communicate and talk to one another, I suggest you reconsider.... it sounds like neither of you are ready for a baby?
How old are you? Do you both have jobs that can support your child - food, clothing, daycare/school, doctors visits. Do you have medical insurance to cover your prenatal, delivery expenses, and baby's visits? Do you have a home to provide for your child? It's alot to consider and a LIFE changing event.
If I could do it over again, I would wait until I was at least 25-27 to have a child....then you have a chance to live your life first.
2006-09-16 11:10:49 · answer #1 · answered by smiley_girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u two were married, i would say go ahead as soon as possible, but ur dating, think about it, does he even love u,. do u have a future together, will ur baby have a future, because it wont if daddy's not around. Its the hardest thing in the world for a girl to raise a baby by herself, the baby is most likely to grow up sapoiled and all that. why dont u get married, be sure that its final, then go for it, it'll make the babies life better if he knows that u waited to get married, and he/she will probably wait too, having a better life, and giving ur grand children a better life, and so on. So just kno that ur decision will affect ur whole generation, not just u and ur boyfriend.
2006-09-16 11:17:05 · answer #2 · answered by Danny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get married. Save up enough money to be prepared for the things you will need for your baby's arrival. Include enough savings to help offset the lack of income if you are now working to make your present budget work, because you won't be working for a while just before the baby comes and for a while after wards. Financial stress is one of the major causes for couples to have problems and is avoidable with proper planning. Sometimes babies happen no mater how hard you are trying to avoid it, but if you are planning on starting a family, do it with as much forethought and care as possible.
2006-09-16 11:28:57 · answer #3 · answered by Pundit Bandit 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you guys are ready for a baby?
Reading back on your other post that you posted like 2 minutes before this one you asked how do you know if you are in love? So you are going to have a baby with a guy that you aren't sure you are in love with...honey..from the sounds of it..you are young...don't rush in to it....
Believe me.. I just found out I'm pregnant and I'm 24 and it wasn't planned and I don't even know what I'M going to do..well have the baby of course..but it is a HUGE responsibility..luckily I am going to be done with school by then and will become a nurse so I can support myself and my baby..
But think about it first.. if you arent sure that you love this guy...DOn't do it...
Anyway...good luck with whatever decision you decide to make..I'm sure you will decide to have a baby because you aren't going to listen to someone on here tell you differently...so good luck with your decision, but make sure you are ready...not all babies are born healthy and you need to realize that and accept that you may be raising a child with special needs...are you financially and emotionally ready for that? I sure do hope so..
Good Luck~
2006-09-16 11:26:30 · answer #4 · answered by Tamara J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here is the perfect way to tell him you want to have a baby with him, "Sweetie, I have decided that I WOULD like to have a baby with you! So...when do you want to get married?" NOT do you, WHEN do you...?
Research tells us that most of the people who are now in prison were raised without a father figure in their lives. Do your baby a favor and be SURE before you get pregnant. Marriage isn't a guarantee, but if a guy doesn't want to get married, he probably won't hang around to help you raise your baby.
2006-09-16 11:14:28 · answer #5 · answered by wo_manifest 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are planning to have a baby together you should be able to talk about anything. If you can't talk to him enough to let him know you want a baby too. maybe it is not the right time. wait a while longer, because a baby is forever. Also you have to ask questions between to two of you. how are you going to support a baby, do you have to same outlook on discipline, do you both have the same outlook on religion, family gathering, morals, values, etc..... Think about it. and marriage wouldn't hurt.
2006-09-16 11:12:20 · answer #6 · answered by mariposa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look around you, how many women do you know that have had a child with a boyfriend.
How many are still with the baby's father?
How many of those babies are being supported by their father?
How many women do you know that have had babies with their Husbands?
How many are still together?
I think you'll find the percentage of married with children still together is 5 times higher than the other way.
Having a baby with a boyfriend instead of a husband is being unfair to the baby. In my opinion, it's child abuse!
2006-09-16 11:15:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest living your life first. I have two girls, 4 and 5 and a boy on the way. Ya they are great but i never expected at the age of 23 me and my husband would have three kids. We missed out on alot, and wish we would have waited. Our 5th wedding anniversary consisted of going to Mc. Donald's. And renting movies, don't get me wrong, but it would never compare with the dreams I had when I was younger of going to a beach and drinking martinis. So get married first i would say. Then at least you can have a honey moon. My mother in law said we had ours already. (1 month old baby at my wedding)
2006-09-16 11:17:33 · answer #8 · answered by sr22racing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two want a baby then what is the problem? I told my husband "I want to have another baby" and then he said "OK let's go for it"
Just tell him that you want to have a baby too. Then talk have a plan. Worry about being "creative" later when you tell him that you are pregnant...Good Luck
2006-09-16 11:09:56 · answer #9 · answered by Jade 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my dear Sweet Girl, just Tell himm yes darling I want to have ababy with you,When do you want to Start,Right Now? Or if you want it to be a rememorible time,Plan candle lit Dinner you cooked yourself,[Men love That],In the middle of dinner,Stop eating,Go under table And start making love to he,s Penis Like You,ve never dun before and when he is Hard as Rock and ready to just about releave him self,Stop,Look him Right in Eyes and Say, "Baby i,ve gave it alot of thought and Yes I do want to have a child wuith you and Spend the Rest of our lives together,And then Smile and Finish making love to Him!Good luck!Hollywood!
2006-09-16 11:18:04 · answer #10 · answered by hollywood 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋