I've liked this girl for a long time now but we never really got together as bf/gf or anything. One night two of her friends tell me she might be leading me on. So I was stupid enough to actually ask her diretly if she was. She couldn't believe that I would even think she would do such a thing. Now she's not sure if she can trust me. She says I should've defended her or something because thats what she would've done. She doesn't hate me or anything I just have to take some time to get her trust back. Is there anything that can help?(I've said sorry a thousand times)
2006-09-16 10:28:02 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I'm probably going to offend some women here, but I still speak the truth. Dont go in apologizing, go in strong. Most women will admit their fascination with jerks, but they never give you a reason. The reason is simply this, most women are inherently crazy and they know this. They know that at times they can be completely unreasonable. And the more unreasonable they get when they are upset, the more of a jerk they need to keep them from going too far.
Go to her, tell her you didnt do anything wrong, and not to give you any crap about "not defending" her. Tell her you would defend her with your life for something important, but you arent going to jump in the middle when her girlfriends are getting a little catty. The best drama in your life is Jerry Springer, because you can turn the TV off. Then tell her to come to you when she is feeling more reasonable, because you are interested in an adult relationship with her, and not interested in childish games.
The whole issue looks to be a test of "Are you strong enough for me?" and not "Are you Mr. Right."
Then again, she could just be uninterested and blowing you off, but you should still try what I said for two reasons.
1) If she isnt interested your new found attitude may spark some.
2) You are already not getting laid. What can it hurt?
2006-09-16 10:50:54 · answer #1 · answered by Sam C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, good friends such as you two are supposed to be able to go to each other to talk about ANYTHING! So she is upset at the fact that she might have gotten busted! Her friends ratted on her, if they saw she was leading you on, then think of how many other thought that! She had her attack guard on when you asked her about it, I would just leave her alone because if you can't be honest to her with your feelings, then what kind of friend is she in the long run? Good Luck!!!
2006-09-16 17:45:08 · answer #2 · answered by denise r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your have already told her about your feelings toword her. Now you have nothing to do with . whether she like or not now the ball is in her court so dont say any thing if she had been liked you may be she take a liittle while to decide but leave this to her she shold make the decision . or you ask him once more what she has decided about you .
2006-09-16 17:38:09 · answer #3 · answered by creed 1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you care about her so much, that when that possibility was suggested to you, it upset you so much you had to ask her about it. Let her know it was not a matter of trust, but that you did not want to leave anything unsaid between you. Tell her that you hope she would come to you if the situation was reversed.
2006-09-16 17:39:47 · answer #4 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't break her trust by asking her that. Sounds to me like she feels guilty for leading you on. Don't apologize again, tell her when she's ready to be friends again let you know. Don't put anything on hold for her. HAve fun and find yourself another fish! :)
2006-09-16 17:33:04 · answer #5 · answered by ladypersephone21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her and tell her how you feel. Let her know that you really liked her and was dissappointed at the thought that she might not like you back. Just be honest with her and tell her that you didnt mean to offend her.
2006-09-16 17:33:02 · answer #6 · answered by joesbabygirl406 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately some girls are a bit neurotic and have serious hang ups Give her time and maybe she'll grow up
2006-09-16 17:31:24 · answer #7 · answered by dominator 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her ther truth that here friends told you that she was then tell her how you feel well goood luck.
mandy
2006-09-16 17:40:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r done give up move on
2006-09-16 17:30:15 · answer #9 · answered by big daddy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋