there is a guy that i like and hes a neighbor, ive liked him for 7 years and we made out once and we are still friends but i want to be more, what should i do i dont want to ruin our friendship but every time he walks into a room im in my stomach turns. and i am happy even if my day is the worstjust by him there its all better. am i going crazy or what?
2006-09-16 10:07:41 · 8 answers · asked by yeah_me 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
yes you are going crazy
but thats just what boys do to us
i think you should ask him if he thinks its a good idea to go to the next level - i mean he did make out with you, i'm sure he likes you back - and if the freindship wasnt ruined after that - i think you are safe
but be careful - make sure you reallt like the guy and not just the idea of having him as a boyfriend - lots of people make that mistake - including me - and its not fair to the guy if you make him think you like him when its actually the idea of him that you like
good luck okay - i hope i all works out!
2006-09-16 10:18:22 · answer #1 · answered by punkrockprincess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? That could make a difference. But let me tell you a short story. I went to my 40th class reunion and I saw a man that I was so taken with in high school that every time he walked into the classroom I would hyperventilate! I finally told him at our reunion and his answer: I wish you'd have told me, I thought you were having some kinda attack!
Tell him, explain that you'll understand if he doesn't feel the same, you can still be friends. Then, go about your business. He'll remember, later, and if there's a chance, he'll let you know! Good luck!
2006-09-16 17:25:07 · answer #2 · answered by Happy Hag 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a crush, and I've had them too. It's a nice feeling when someone makes you feel good. However, do not let this spoil your chances for other relationships that might make you feel even better.
Does he have a girlfriend?
Do you do anything with him, if he is your friend?
Can you be direct with him and tell him what you said here? If he is truly a good friend, he will respect what you have to say.
My sense is that if you made out with him once and he hasn't asked you out or to be more, then you will just remain good friends.
2006-09-16 17:43:59 · answer #3 · answered by m15 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget him. This sounds like my years in college with this one girl I knew. I thought she was a pretty cool friend, but I also made out with her a few times out of boredom or lack of options that day. Ultimately, I could never see myself with her, and I never was with her even out of pity. I don't think the guy is an asshole. He, like I, has probably been honest about his intentions of wanting just a friendship and anything else should be discarded.
2006-09-16 17:21:46 · answer #4 · answered by Alucard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a crush to me. You don't mention whether you are adults or not, or the circumstances regarding how you got to the point of 'making out' once.
If you are both of age - then why not talk to him? Ask him out or over to your place to watch a movie, dinner, or out to a sporting event, etc. Your feelings could be out of fear of rejection if he knew how you felt about him.
Stop torturing yourself. Take a deep breath, and go talk to him. Who knows? Maybe he feels the same about you?
2006-09-16 17:19:36 · answer #5 · answered by oscarschic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're normal, but please, don't base your happiness on another's actions. Decide to be happy, regardless of the actions or inactions of others. Happiness is a choice.
2006-09-16 17:16:15 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient; Someone else will come along to make you forget about him, they always do.
2006-09-16 17:23:52 · answer #7 · answered by grumpyfiend 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
come again? you will end up together i can just tell somehow...
2006-09-16 17:17:22 · answer #8 · answered by EJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋