protecive parents?

Question

i cant go anywhere they take my cellphone that i bought away every night i am an honor student i can even ride a bike with out a helmet for gods sake im 15 i cant have a boyfriend i cant stay after school to take a test without my mom callin me or roamin the school im the only child at my house i cry because they treat me like a little kid i want thnis to change i cant live like this any more what should i do

Answer 1

Try to see it from your parents point of view. They are so afraid of something horrible happening to you. Every day in the media they are bombarded with all the things that could happen to a kid. They love you so very much. I know it's smothering you, especially since you're at the age where you want and need some independence. In just three years you'll be an adult and you'll need to be ready to be on your own.

The best thing you can do is talk to them. Ask them how you will be able to be ready for adulthood if they don't allow you to have a little more independence. Tell them you need to be trusted to stay after school for activities or test makeups, and you have your cell phone and know how to use it.

As for the bicycle helmet. Well, they're right about that one.

Listen, if you act responsibly about things like wearing a bicycle helmet, then they'll think that you'll make responsible decisions elsewhere too. But if they think you'll risk your life by not wearing a helmet when you ride your bike on the road, they'll wonder what other risks you'll take that they don't know about.

So, act responsibly all the time, and they'll believe you're ready for independence.

More than anything, remember you may be a parent one day too, what would you do for your child to love and protect them?

Answer 2

You have wonderful parents who love you. Of course, you have to wear a helmet when you ride a bike. It's the law in some places. Do you want to have a brain injury if you are in an accident. You are too young for a boyfriend. If you have to stay after school, call your mother and let her know. That is your responsibility. Some parents don't care at all what their kids do. Those kids get into horrible trouble and ruin their lives. Someday, you will thank God that you had parents who cared and you will be just like that with your own child, a precious gift from God.

Answer 3

Your parents are very protective, because they don't want you to get into a wrong crowd. Teenagers tend to spend hours on their cellphones at night and not getting enough sleep. Wearing a helmet, while you riding a bike is very important, believe me, I fell from my motorcycle and without my helmet I would be dead by now. The only thing I suffered was deep contusions, so wear your helmet. I suggest, you ask your parents to have your friends come over to your home, so your parents can meet them. Ask them to spend some quality time with your friends and check in with your parents to let them know what you are doing. Never abuse your curfew, this way you are showing your parents that you are a responsible person.

Answer 4

It's really tough to be a parent these days with all the bad things that happen. It isn't you that they don't trust, it's the ones who could harm you.
Continue to make the good grades. Do things around the house without having to be asked. Make sure your bedroom is presentable when you leave the house.
If your parents tell you no, answer, respectably. Talk to them about things. Ask how their day was/is. Be considerate of them and their feelings. They will begin to see that you aren't a child anymore, but a responsible young woman.
I know now, you feel they are a burden. It won't be long, after you leave for college that you will miss having them there for you.

Answer 5

Act like a responsible teen and you will get treated like one. Your parents just want the best for you and whether you want to believe it or not having a boyfriend at 15 isn't necessary and in my opinion is still too young, and you must be smart enough to know that wearing a helmet while riding a bike is a very smart thing to do.
Best thing you can do is talk to your parents about how you feel and how you feel they are treating you like a child. Talk to them rationally and calmly and point out some changes you would like to see made in respect to how they treat you.

Answer 6

parents do not protect their children because they are mean. They do it to keep their dear ones safe till they are adults better able to handle things them selves.

I agree that sometimes some parents can over do it, but yet you aren't being killed.

I was 18 before I was a loud to have a boyfriend. When I was young I was totally set back by this. When I married my first husband I was a virgin. I was never in trouble in school or out. I grew up not getting into trouble so I never got in any as an adult either.

If your parents are overly protective you only have to deal with it till you are 18. Then if you decide to live home your still open for it..... Things will work out for you trust me

Answer 7

I know how you feel, my parents were the same way when I was 15, I couldn't have bfs or go out with friends my mom never met before, and I cldn't stay after school either, It really made me sick cuz I thought they couldn't trust me or something.that drove me crazy and I hated it. I really didn't do anything about it until I got older and but I can see you don't wanna wait that long. One thing u can do is talk to parents, try ur mother first..Let them know they can trust u

Answer 8

Realize that they are responsible for their part in raising you to be as fantastic as you are. You are a young lady, still a child, not an adult. They are still legally and morally responsible for your health and safety. They want to insure your education, keep you free of drugs, etc, and keep you from getting pregnant. In three years, things will be a bit different. In time, when you meet your daughter, you will be grateful, I swear. I wholly swear you will. Look around you, at the chaos and dysfunction, and try to remember how much you are loved and cherished.

Answer 9

You're 15 ...my mum let me out when i was 16 but she had no choice i had to go college and its far from my house haha... dnt stress coz it may be hard to believe but its coz they care and parents try keep you locked up for ages coz they dont wanna let go of u coz ur so precious to them... but jus try understand where theyre comming from i know its hard but they protecting you coz the world isnt a safe place. Why not try talking to them seriously and calmly and let them know that ur growing up and u feel the need for that freedom... but really dont worry u will have ur time when they have to let go of u... it will all work out

Answer 10

Approach your parents and explain how you feel. Or, if that doesn't work, try to do things, like doing chores without being told, that show them you are responsible. If your parents refuse to listen, talk to a school counselor or a counselor of some sort.