I just found out I'm pregnant. I have 3 other children the youngest being 13 months. I don't know how far along I am yet. I'm absolutly devastated cause I was on the pill and faithful about taking it. I'm trying to work through depression about it, I feel like it's wrong to think ill of such a miracle. Have you felt this way and if so what helped you get through the anxiety? (serious responses only please)
2006-09-16 09:37:55 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Wow! I am sure you are really overwhelmed right now. Just think of each of your children, how much you love them, and how you could not live life without them. You know deep down inside this is how you will feel about this next one too. That doen't mean it will be any easier or any less stressful, but you know that each child is a gift, and you may not be happy about it now, but, the baby will be a blessing. You just need to speak up to family members, friends, whoever and get some help so you are not so overwhelmed. Talk to your doctor, there are alot of medications that are safe for a pregnant women to take. Most of all keep your chin up and dont hesitate to ask for help. We all need help once in a while.
2006-09-16 10:33:09 · answer #1 · answered by TRISHTHEDISH76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were on the pill and "faithfully" taking it? I am not trying to make you feel worse, but I find that hard to believe. You need to think carefully why it is your birth control failed. It seems you must have missed several doses or started having unprotected sex too soon after getting on the pill. Perhaps there was a small part of you that wanted another baby and allowed you to be careless. It does sound like you already have your hands full taking care of your 3 other children. I can understand how overwhelming that would feel. The hormones in early pregnancy can make you feel pretty crummy, even without any additional stress in your life. I will neither suggest, nor discourage you about having an abortion. If that is something you're considering, its not my place to influence your decision there. If you do decide to have the baby (whether you keep the baby or allow someone else to raise him/her), you have 9 months to figure all the details out. Thats one of the nice things about human gestation...you have time to think about it.
2006-09-16 09:55:16 · answer #2 · answered by Carole 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i imagine it comes right down to negligence. i develop into on the pill when I fell pregnant so it develop into an entire twist of destiny yet I do sense some negligence as i develop into warned that having a tummy computer virus can provide up it from operating and that i did not take the different precautions. there are such quite some questions with regard to the following about human beings not employing something and risking it then checking out they are pregnant even as not wanted. i don't sense sorry about getting pregnant yet in case you do not favor a baby then make positive it would not ensue. like you stated there are such quite some amenities and suggestion for combating being pregnant so why is there such quite some unplanned toddlers contained in the international. I easily have heard of females employing abortions as birth control which i come across impressive. on the top of the day in case you fairly do not favor a toddler then look after your self.
2016-11-27 19:12:57 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can say that I haven't necessarily felt the way you do, but I have delt with depression. The things that helped me with depression are making sure to get plenty of sleep, a brisk walk every day, and a few good friends to lean on! Talk to your doctor as well. There are lots of meds out there for depression and I know some of them are okay to take during pregnancy.
2006-09-16 09:53:36 · answer #4 · answered by sjanea74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your doctor about how you are feeling. you need to clam yourself down and try to remember its a miracle. i understand how stressful this is when you already have 3 kids.
i have a baby she 9 months last months i found out i was pregnant. at first i was scared and well kind of depression and then the thought of having another child made me feel better. sadly i miscarried and i blame myself. i would do anything to had that child. this baby is a miracle from god a blessing. think about that and wash away your stress.
2006-09-16 10:06:00 · answer #5 · answered by sos 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm expecting for the first time and was in shock and upset at first. My ex and I were together still at this time. we've split up since then and it has been very hard to think of doing this alone, but it is not the baby's fault. she didn't ask to be here. i just took it day by day and talked to people i'm close to who have kids. most went throught the same thing as u and me. now i'm due in 2 days and couldn't be more excited. if u can't talk to friends or family, try couseling at a clinic for women.
2006-09-16 09:42:11 · answer #6 · answered by m_kentch 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a 5yr old and a 4month old, i did feel the way you say you feel with my last one, and what got me through it was to think of the first smile and the first step and all the cute thing they do when there so small. I don't know if this helps at all but you will get over the depression.good luck.
2006-09-16 09:45:52 · answer #7 · answered by becky s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember that: every life deserves a chance...
Find someone you trust that you can talk to about your fears and anxieties....
Just remember all of the good times and love you get from the 3 children you already have...and just imagine having the gift of one more precious life in the family...you probably won't regret it...
Life is special...give the child a change he/she may just be the love of your life...
2006-09-16 09:50:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah sweety , you are NOT THE ONLY GIRL THAT GOES THRU THE DEPRESSION WITH OR WITHOUT THE PREGNANCY WE ALL DO AND OR HAVE, AND I EVEN HAVE AND I have had five pregnancy to speak and it will be ok in a few weeks or so, BUT PLEASE WHATEVER YOU DO DON'T HAVE AN ABORTION YOU WILL HATE IT LATER , THAT'S FOR SURE. I have spoken to other women of whom done that and regretted it deeply and was having hard time dealing with what they had done. SO PLEASE JUST HAVE THE CHILD AND LOVE IT LOTS AND LOTS YOU WILL BE GLAD WHEN the pregnancy is done that you did. !! that is to have kept the child than anything else.
2006-09-16 09:49:12 · answer #9 · answered by dixieprayerlady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to confide in someone close to you. I had similiar feels about an planned pregnancy. It's normal to have good and bad feeling about pregnancy, It's very scary. But if you have someone that you can tell everything too, good, bad, and ugly. I think you feel much better.
Good Luck!!
2006-09-16 09:41:33 · answer #10 · answered by mariposa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋