Many people say they are pro choice - but if their parents were pro choice, they would not be here!!
2006-09-16 09:36:16 · 22 answers · asked by Suzie 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
that is a great question!!! I totally see where you are going.
2006-09-16 09:39:03 · answer #1 · answered by jacket2230 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
For the same reason that I don't talk about religion or politics with people I do not know well, you never know how people will react. By the way, if abortion is murder, does that make a miscarriage involuntary manslaughter? I aborted a child that was badly malformed, chances of survival outside the womb were less than 5%, I suppose you think I should have carried it and risked my own well being. It was my decision to make and I made. I have discussed this with close friends, not others, so feel privileged. I have two beautiful children now, and my sister and I were both planned pregnancies. Pro choice does not equal pro abortion.
2006-09-16 10:54:16 · answer #2 · answered by PLDFK 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You know, You have a point.I was the youngest of 3 siblings.My sister is 11 yrs. older than me,my brother 7 yrs.older. I think my father was 41 and my mother 38.I'm 65now.In those days abortion was a dangerious procedure;It wasn't legal. My parents would never have considered abortion.So much so that for them there was no choice.We never had much money .Any added child was and still is an very expensive undertaking. Even more so now because children need more education in this high tech and specialized world if they are to become independent adults.The decision now is available.I did okay in my life so far.I don't have a degree but I am part of that generation, probably the last who could make a decent living. Other considerations are how the potential child is conceived.Was it rape, or the result of being mad at your parents because they dont approve of the boy,being drugged up{ that includes alcohol},thinking your'e in love? There are many reasons and now you can decide if you want to bring a human into this world.Are you mature enough to nurture it?
2006-09-16 10:23:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
i'm a mother of two. and i also had an abortion. i never thought i would ever have to make that kind of choice, but there are circumstances in which you have no control over and have to make those choices. i dont talk about it because...uh...yeah i meet some one and say, " hi my name is ____, by the way i'm pro choice and i had an abortion."
that is a very private and sometime very painful memory. who really wants to talk about it and dweel on the subject 24/7. c'mon now. i've never lied about it or tried to hide the fact that i did the procedure, but i will speak about my thought and opinions on the matter when it's warranted.
2006-09-16 11:33:20 · answer #4 · answered by life beyond yur wildest dreams 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do people try to hide that they had one?
Because not everyone is pro choice. We have a lot of judgmental people in society and those who had abortion do not want to have the judgmental burden.
Which is very funny and interesting to hear about all these religions preaching about abortion is murder and judging this girls, yet it states that Christians and so forth should not judge. Quite hyporcritical don't you think?
"bcaauz its not alright...abortion is murder and once u hav 1...ur a murderer (unless u were raped) they hide it cauz they r ashamed, and they shuld be! "
You know what really puzzles me. How a person can say abortion is murder, a sin and all that. Then say it is ok to abort if raped. Now, how in the world does rape justify an abortion but concentual sex doesn't?
The most famous "God" phrase. Ok, I believe in God and all, but don't assume everyone else in the world does. When it comes to choice, leave religion out of it. It is wrong to force a pro lifer's believe down a pro choicer's throat.
What is even more interesting about how all these "families want kids and can't have their own". Yes, there is a good majority of people who can't have their own bi logical. However, the whole "family wants kids" is bull s.hi.t to me. If that was the case, we wouldn't have over 24,000 kids in the foster and adoption agency alone in just state of California. That is just one state out of 52. Imagine mulitply 24,000 by 52 states and see how many unwanted children were born and still are unwanted.......
Why keep adding to that number?
White babies go faster in being adopted. For each white baby being adopted, there is other race babies that are next. For each infant that is adopted, there is the older children being pushed back farther in line since people want baby's who are "hot out of the oven" that has no behavior installments or come with "baggage" like abuse or behavior problems.
Don't believe me. Then go down to your local youth centers, adoption agencies and juvenile detentions and they will have the study's for you to state it.
"when your period is 1 week late your baby is 3 weeks old, it is already a boy or girl, it's heart is beating, so abortion stops a heart from beating. "
False. A boy or a girl is not formed at 3 weeks digestation hun...and nor is their a heart or organ present.
"Don't want to talk about it?"
Because it is non of anyone's business for one. Secondly, it is a past problem they felt they solved and no reason to revert back to something that is in the past to them.
A person who doesn't talk about it doesn't mean they regret it. Just means it is a personal matter that is non of anyone's business. Especially if it resulted from rape or just a sexual experience that they rather not bring up again. I have a lot of personal things I don't want to talk about that others are more open.
Not everyone is open with their personal life.
"But if their parents were pro choice, they would not be here"
Actually in generally speaking, that is not true. The offspring would not be here ONLY IF the parents decided to not abort. Example, my mom. She had the option to abort and my bi logical dad wanted her to abort, which in the end caused a break up. But, she wanted to keep me, which was her choice.
If she aborted me, I wouldn't know since I wouldn't been able to comprehend what as going on nor would of existed to know afterwards.
Not all pro choice people will have an abortion. Pro-choice is a political stance of saying they believe in a women's reproduction rights. It doesn't say they had abortions or will have an abortion. Just stating they feel a women has a right to choose. Don't confuse what pro choice is.
2006-09-16 11:29:15 · answer #5 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Good question. The bottom line is complicated but it comes down to this. . . guilt. There is guilt for ending a life (some are crass and say blob of tissue but they know better in their spirit). There is the guilt of looking at a child that is the same age that theirs would have been and wondering, what if? There is the reoccuring question. . . was abortion really the right "choice". There is the selfishness of doing what was "best for them" instead of thinking what was the best for the child/father/grandparents/friends, etc. There is guilt when they change their mind about their position on abortion.
Life changes, choices change. The question is: is "pro choice" a positive choice? I think not.
2006-09-16 10:02:39 · answer #6 · answered by snddupree 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
thats a very ignorant thing to say. "if their parents were pro choice, they would not be here!!" . being pro choice doesnt mean that you abort every child you are pregnant with? where is the relation there????? I'm pro-choice, but i have never had an abortion, nor would or could I ever. That doesnt mean i feel like i have the right to make choices for everyone else, when I am not in their shoes either.
2006-09-16 09:39:01 · answer #7 · answered by Mina222 5 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Just because someone is pro-choice means that they would go out and have an abortion themselves. It just means that they support the woman's right to choose. A lot of people don't like to talk about it because so many women regret having it done.
2006-09-16 09:42:21 · answer #8 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋
What an excellent question! If abortion were right, women would talk openly about having had one. The fact is that it is MURDER. If you are in any doubt about that, just look at some photos of it online. Babies are even aborted at an age at which they could be safely delivered and survive. Women who have had abortions are deeply ashamed of themselves, and rightly so. That is why they don't talk about it.
2006-09-16 10:24:07 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
when your period is 1 week late your baby is 3 weeks old, it is already a boy or girl, it's heart is beating, so abortion stops a heart from beating.
If people would learn what abortion is, what they have to do to the baby to kill it and get it out, maybe they would have a softer and gentler attitude towards people who respect life.
2006-09-16 09:58:12 · answer #10 · answered by AnaMay 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Many people who get aborshins are ashamed of it so they try to keep t a seceret. In my opinion aborshins are wrong its murder if you can get pregnant you can at least carry the baby full term and give it up for adoption or raise it.
2006-09-16 12:25:49 · answer #11 · answered by awesome_chick2009 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋