My uncle had been staying with us for the last two decades (eversince he became a widower). He introduced me to the habit of gay relationship with him and i did have it with him for past many years. Ever since my marriage he is staying with us (me & my wife). We (me & my uncle) still do have this relationship continued as and when we felt so. I thought that he was a pure gay ever since he lost his wife, but recently i found out that he was having an affair with my wife (as i travel on office work regularly). When i confronted him on this, he said i should adjust this affair and i dare not go open against him for the fear of being exposed about our wrong relationship all these years. how do i proceed on this issue as the affair continues now with my knowledge.
2006-09-16 09:21:28 · 12 answers · asked by orangeman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It seems that you are stuck in a situation you created. You have 3 options:1. Evict your uncle, and try and save the remains of your marriage. 2. Evict yourself and leave your uncle and wife to do their thing. 3. Say nothing and live with the life you made.
You cannot critise your wife, because you were cheating on her first, irrespective that it's the same person. Your uncle is the person that's "out of place" so he should go. Move out yourself because they might want to continue their relationship and hang you out to dry...but one thing is for sure, if your wife doesn't know about you and your uncle...try your best to keep it that way...
2006-09-18 01:13:48 · answer #1 · answered by missceekay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What goes around comes around. After you were married you cheated on your wife with your uncle. By doing this you showed little to no respect for your marriage or your wife. If you don't respect the institution of your own marriage why should anyone else. I think you need to talk to your wife and work things out with her and then in some way or another leave your uncle. If you can't do that then be happy with your happy little threesome.
The truth is if you don't put a high value on your marriage and your wife no one else will.
2006-09-16 16:41:44 · answer #2 · answered by sandra_k19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What has been happening to you all this time is a crime. Your Uncle should be exposed for what he has done and locked away before he can do this to someone else. You and your wife both should seek treatment and think seriously about your relationship. Yes the realationship that your Uncle coerced you into was wrong, but it was his wrong not yours. He is the only one will lose something by being exposed.
2006-09-16 16:29:44 · answer #3 · answered by S G 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe you need to tell your wife what is going on and just come out in the open with everything. At this point you honestly have nothing to loose. Go with your heart and seriously seek help. Good luck.
2006-09-18 21:19:01 · answer #4 · answered by loveable 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so, that cunning uncle riding on your wife.
you got to choose now, either put him out of your house or adjust to the riding going on in your absence.
maybe your wife also enjoy that riding so you got two arguments.
or maybe she too ashamed to tell you.
what decision you can make? your wife already adjust to the uncle on her. now she open up very easy for him. they happy together do that hot thing.
2006-09-16 18:52:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront your wife, kick your uncle out and all three of you seek therapy.
2006-09-16 16:39:17 · answer #6 · answered by Seeking 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kick his nasty *** out! Your relationship with him was wrong. You have already acknowledged that. But now his nasty *** gets to sleep with everyone? Tell the wife about your past with him and what her future is going to be if she keeps sleeping with your uncle. That nasty bisexual bastard has go to go!
2006-09-16 16:37:46 · answer #7 · answered by CAM 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
poor twisted little monkey - you're one of the many reasons man should be extinct - oh well - live with it or turn everyone out and show the world what freaks ya'll really are
2006-09-16 16:24:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
confront her about the affair if she denies it i suggest divorce if she dosent deny it divorce is best anyway let her go with your damn uncle
2006-09-16 16:28:48 · answer #9 · answered by elnrith 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you got yourself into this mess,you got to figure a way out
2006-09-16 16:24:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋