things just arent working out and I dont want to be his girlfriend anymore... I still want to be friends tho. what do I say to him? how bad is it to dump a guy not in person?
2006-09-16 09:09:33 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
u guys give great advice... thanks
2006-09-16 09:17:07 · update #1
say i dont like you like that anymore ...but i wanna be friends!!
2006-09-17 04:40:41 · answer #1 · answered by tonya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breaking Up 101
Be honest. Are you really getting as much out of the relationship as you're putting in, or are you constantly getting the shaft? If you're unsure, try making a list of the reasons you're happy and reasons you aren't. If the bad outweighs the good, you know breaking up is the right choice.
Be quick. Breaking up with someone can be a lot like taking off a Band-Aid®. The slower you do it, the more it hurts. So do yourselves a favor and be up-front, right from the start. Dragging it out only prolongs the misery.
Be cool. Stick to your guns and try not to let the other person's reaction steer you off course. It may help to write out what you want to say before you go into battle. You certainly don't want to read it like a script, but sometimes the simple act of putting your thoughts on paper can help settle your nerves.
Be kind. Avoid yelling, blaming, and name-calling — even if your soon-to-be ex deserves to be dumped, being nasty will only fan the flames of anger and resentment. Instead of blurting, "You're a player and I'm sick of it!" — try, "I don't want to compete with other people. I need someone who's going to be into me, and only me." Or, if you feel like you're bored and you want out, "I care about you a lot, but I think our relationship has run its course" is much smoother than "I'm tired of you and I want to get on your best friend!"
Be confident. When it comes to relationships, remember: You run the show. Don't second-guess your decision based on what friends, family, or anyone else says once the deed is done. Be proud that you listened to your inner voice and followed your heart. Congrats — you're on the road to romantic independence.
So, you've done it — you broke up. How do you feel? Relieved? Sad? A little of both? That's totally normal. Break-ups can be really hard on both people. Just because you're ending the relationship doesn't mean you don't still have feelings for your ex — and it's hard to see your ex hurting. Or maybe it feels weird to be single again — like, suddenly, you have all this free time! It may take a while for things to get back to "normal," but it will happen. Breaking up isn't easy, but it isn't fatal, either.
2006-09-16 09:24:36 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Mrs.SweetLove♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him the truth in person. You might not be able to be friends at first, but as time goes by chances are it will get better. It's better to tell him instead of waiting too long and hurting him more.
2006-09-16 09:19:51 · answer #3 · answered by first-time_mom 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do it in person. Just say what you did here. The "still be friends" part is nice in theory but don't expect it to work out well.
2006-09-16 09:14:20 · answer #4 · answered by troythom 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take him somewhere private, hold both his hands in yours and look him straight in the eyes and tell him the complete truth, holding nothing back. Isn't that the way you would like to be told?
2006-09-16 09:14:00 · answer #5 · answered by sinned 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
EASY TELL HIM TO GET LOST HAHAH !! NAH , just kiddin try let the guy don't easy and think about your own feeling like how you would want to be told you are liked but not like that ? hmmm something to think about huh?
2006-09-16 09:17:49 · answer #6 · answered by dixieprayerlady 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just say "It is over"
2006-09-16 13:49:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do it like this,i am leaveing you good bye.
2006-09-16 14:43:53 · answer #8 · answered by julie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋