My BF and I had a fight and he went out and slept with someone that he used to be with... Should I get back with him? He is begging me...
If I do, do you think I should play with him to get revenge? or just let it go? what sort of things should I do to get revenge?
2006-09-16 09:04:59 · 10 answers · asked by seths_hot_mommy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Learn from this experience. By no means do the same thing. That would simply put you on the same level.
Let it go and him as well. If you were married he would probably do the same thing. He sound very immature.
You will never be able to trust him. Send him to the one he slept with and wish them well. He is now her problem. See what happens when he gets mad at her.
good luck
2006-09-16 14:43:59 · answer #1 · answered by sunshine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sure to an extent your BF hurt your feelings when he slept with someone else. What he did was wrong. Before you carry out your revenge, you should try to save your relationship with him.
Talk with him about him hurting your feelings. Then observe what his reaction is. Attitude and timing are important when discussing things so be sure (1) it's a good time (2) you can talk about it without going bezerk on him. You may need some personal space before you can talk with him.
Based on what he says & does after you speak with him you should decide whether he's worth keeping. Anyone can make a mistake, but it's habitual offenses that shouldn't be tolerated.
Although sleeping with another guy would be a wound to his pride, especially if the guy you choose is someone he envies/hates/trusts in one way or another, you might hurt your feelings more in the long run because you're sleeping with someone just to get revenge, perhaps to leave your hurt feelings unaddressed.
If you don't think he's sincere, if you don't think the relationship can survive, if you can't forgive him, then just dump him and walk away.
2006-09-16 16:26:14 · answer #2 · answered by ßella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two wrongs don't make a right. Stay broken up and move on. The trust in the relationship has now been broken. If you get back together and have another fight...where do you think he'll go? Once they get away with it once they will always try to get away with it again. And revenge is petty...move on, you deserve better.
2006-09-16 16:33:33 · answer #3 · answered by Julie W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl what I would do is go on there is no reason to be with this guy if he messed with his old friend girl he is not worth your time I don't think you should take any revenge because what he did was wrong and two wrongs don't make a right .
2006-09-16 16:10:51 · answer #4 · answered by rayray17 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this sort of thing a pattern with him? Sleep with someone else because he's mad at you? If so, you need to move on. If this is a one-time thing, then you could perhaps forgive him... as long as he understands that the two of you are through if he ever does it again.
And no, you shouldn't sleep with someone else to get revenge. That sort of thing only creates more bad feelings.
2006-09-16 16:09:22 · answer #5 · answered by D'archangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him. he's going to sleep with someone because you had a fight? how ridiculous and childish. he's obviously immature and can't handle you being in a fight. find a real man that will try and solve the problem, not make matters worse.
2006-09-16 16:50:39 · answer #6 · answered by lauren 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't get back with him cuz its like that he will do it again. Give him the silent treatment. Don't answer the phone etc! Act as if he doesn't exist. men hate these things!
2006-09-16 16:24:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think everytime he wants something different he starts a fight so its excuse for him to leave and he knows you always take him back drop him and find your new soul mate
2006-09-16 16:12:13 · answer #8 · answered by Ladder Captain-29 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of him..he cheated you once..jes cuz he wants to be wid you now..dont gurantee he wont cheat on you again. and if u want to revenge him..gurll two wrongs dont make a right. from experience. KARMA will get him. jes get rid of him..and he'll learn on his own.
2006-09-16 16:53:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't get back to him
2006-09-16 16:51:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋