I asked this on another area but this is a little different. See this roommate of mine is really tomboyish & always wears old mannish shoes, dirty old pants, and the same 2 or 3 shirts everyday. She doesn't care to brush her teeth after a meal (thus always having food stuck in there). When she eats she's really sloppy like she sucks up spaghetti & drops the rest back onto her plate (so it looks like she's spitting it out). She also farts all the time w/o saying excuse me.
The worst thing she does though is she doesn't want to flush toilet paper (she claims it will "clog" it) so she wipes herself & carries the paper to the main trash but she sometimes forgets and puts the dirty paper down in the bath area & it smears or even drops on the floor & she doesn't seem to care much.
She also never cooks for herself but loves to take whatever I cook & complains that I never "share", and she just lets me do all of the cleaning in the house (because she does it so badly); is she just lazy?
2006-09-16 08:32:34 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I try to just leave it like a pig stye but I can't put up w/ it when we start having ants all over, or fruitflies cause she leaves all her food out. Or she'll eat cereal & leave the milk in the bowl on the table until it becomes putrid.
2006-09-16 08:44:33 · update #1
also i'm forced to clean the bathroom because once a week when she showers she leaves her hairs all over the sink (i've told her many times) & the poop thing, and we only have ONE bath!
2006-09-16 08:46:31 · update #2
ahahahahaha
Good one, by your description i though you
were talking about a guy.
ahahahahaha, that's rich ,Thanks
I take it you do most of the housekeeping.
She's just like most men.
Sounds like she found a wife.
Good luck,
2006-09-16 08:43:52 · answer #1 · answered by zurioluchi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know these feelings, I cannot 100% understands you, but I kind of can image how this feels.
Have you talked to her about this (peacfully, seriously, politely, clearly, claim manner)? And have you discuss with her about splitting duties of house works? If she did a bad job in cleaning the house, you can teach her, that will give her no excuse (if the truth fact is that she is lazy).
If you tried all you can, I suggest you MOVE OUT. Glad she is just your roomate (or also friends?). You can choose your roomate, but you cannot choose your parents.
It's nice if you want to help her. I like to help people too, but just under the circumstances that doesn't hurt me (physical health and emotional health).
You don't have to break your friendship with her. Some people or some friends are not meant to be roommates. You can be good friends with someone, but just not 'chemically match' to be roommates.
About washing dishes, I don't know if you have this problem with her, but it's a comment problem. I would just use my own dishes, I clean them and put them back into my room.
2006-09-16 22:14:10 · answer #2 · answered by asknanswer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Up until you said the part about the bathroom 'duties' I thought it was laziness but then when I read that part, that sounds more like a phycological issue. Now where you go from her?What about her parents? Are they aware of the situation? Everything you mentioned adds up and it doesn't come out right. Start by speaking to her parents and see what you can do there. If they are unwilling, go to http:www.allexperts.com and ask someone if there is anyway to 'force her into help'
You are very wise to recongize this problem and I hope you find help.
2006-09-16 08:48:15 · answer #3 · answered by helpme1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, a question: When (and how soon) are you going to move? Or, when (and how quickly) are you going to ask her to find another pace?
This woman may "simply" be incredibly lazy, however, as far as her toilet habits are concerned she is a number one HEALTH HAZARD. Feces are full of all sorts of nasty bacteria with which you do NOT want to come into contact.
Since you're already doing all the cooking and cleaning, what do you need her for? If it's an economic question (splitting costs -- I hope I'm correct in assuming she at least shares the bills!), GET ANOTHER ROOMMATE.
Letting her continue to live with you like this supports her obnoxious behavior...and is dangerous to your health!
2006-09-16 08:43:38 · answer #4 · answered by pat z 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're like Oscar and Felix, the perfect odd couple. But that's a TV show, how do two wildly different people end up living together?
You've explained how you feel about her but you don't say how she feels about you. It may well be that she sees you as a cleanliness freak. There's two sides to the psychological coin.
Anyway, I'd suggest you both look for better living arrangements. You would certainly be happier, she might too.
2006-09-16 08:42:15 · answer #5 · answered by ratboy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Gosh emily d, I'm kinda obsessive-complusive like you. I love things to be clean and arranged correctly, not only in myself, but, anyone I live with. I've had occassion to live with someone in my youth whom refused to live in the manner I prescribed. Maybe I was being pushy or unforgiving, but, that's how I am if my roommate cannot keep clean and tidy.
In time, you'll clear up the problem with your roommate. You'll motivate her to your methods, or, you'll split. It appears to be only a matter of time.
I don't really "judge" my ex-roommate, I just wanted someone who acted like me in cleanliness and order.
Living alone solved my problems entirely; however, it was a while until I could afford my own place. Keep up your side until that time when you can fly beyond your present boundries."
2006-09-23 09:23:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she work, or care for family, or talk to friends?
Is she a total recluse who won't even watch TV?
Treat her like a damned baby, and speak to her in baby talk. See if it pisses her off. Talk to her all the time, she will eventually get sick of your gentle nagging and passive aggresive nature and either leave you, or start being cleaner so you will stop hounding her with generosity.
2006-09-16 11:15:27 · answer #7 · answered by Confusion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that just means that your lazy and possibly think that other people will clean up after you.
2006-09-16 08:36:02 · answer #8 · answered by alesha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you have the worst roomate I think i've ever heard of. Congratulations!
2006-09-16 08:39:35 · answer #9 · answered by Big Gee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
low self esteem is a psychological issue...
toilet paper issue.....sounds like OCD, and social isolation issues.....
your friend may have psych problems that she needs to address......an eccentric? obsessive compulsive disorder, brain injured , poor social skills ...........lots ....
2006-09-16 08:44:46 · answer #10 · answered by cesare214 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋