it makes me sick to my stomach to think about it. he is the love of my life -- he had a rough past and that is why he had sex with random girls -- but i cant get the visual out of my head..
how do i stop seeing it over and over?
the thing is that were both only 18 so its not like were college kids fooling around.. and sex is a big deal for me personally..
2006-09-16 08:06:16 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ps i am a virgin.. i am saving sex for true love (i would have had sex with my current bf if not for these visuals in my head everytime we get intimate)
2006-09-16 08:17:20 · update #1
What is in the past is in the past.. if you oull it out it will be hard for you and your boyfriend.. You have to forget about thye past.. Whatever he did in the past is in the past.. He's not sleeping with other girls anymore and yet be committed to you.. What more do you want?? If you can't get past it or keep bothering by that , there no point of going on with him or else you two will get hurt
2006-09-16 08:15:20 · answer #1 · answered by funkysha916 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good girl! It is nice to know someone young has good morals. Sex is a big deal and should be. Your right about your Friend sleeping around because of his rough past but another reason is that he is a GUY! And an 18 yr old guy at that! So his hormones pretty much control his actions. The reason u keep seeing these pics in your head is because you are insanely jealous. There is really nothing you can do to get rid of them quick. However, they will fade! Try to stay busy. Go out with Friends etc and try not to be alone or put yourself in a situation where you have alot of time to think.
So does your friend know how you feel? Maybe you should ask him "What do you think you and I would be like dating?" or ask him if he ever wondered what hooking up with you would be like. If you are in love with him you need to do what you can to steer this relationship toward romance!
2006-09-16 08:14:15 · answer #2 · answered by Stiletto ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem when my husband and I started dating. He was in the Navy and I'm sure you heard about Sailors, and he was my first sexual partner. So I would think about it all the time-like how do I compare to his other girlfriends? Did he love them more than me? Does he think about them when we are making love? Just crazy things like that. Whenever we would see one of his ex girlfriends around town I would get so jealous when he would talk to them. I'm not usually a bi tch but I would be when they came around. He just sat me down one day and said the he's with me, not them. That he loves me and that he doesn't want to be with them anymore, he wants to be with me.
That's all it took for me to realize that he DID love me more than the others. We are happily married now for 2 1/2 years and still strong.
You've just got to realize that-he loves you and he's with you, not them.
2006-09-16 08:12:57 · answer #3 · answered by speedy_me18 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey gal,u love him so much right?then why ur head visions.just try to change the pictures of those 4 gals in ur head to u and ...u will enjoy that right??4 of u and u only with ur bf??aint that cool and romantic and a little wild.U love him very much thats why ur visions just forget that because u have lots of time with ur bf to enjoy and don waste that for imagining these stupid visions which will never happen again!!
2016-03-27 04:13:33 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If sex is something that is a big deal to you then you need to make Trust a big deal as well. Then you need to sit and figure out if you trust him, if you do, then that means you need to trust and remember that was his past you are his present.
2006-09-16 08:14:44 · answer #5 · answered by Angel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not like its the end of the world. Get over it, you will be ruining your relationship if you don't. If you keep repeating it in your Head you will give your self a major headache. Has Had Is not he is doing it now . He was but not is now ..
2006-09-16 08:12:40 · answer #6 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 isn't that many. Just remember that he is with you now, and they're in the past. Eventually you'll forget about it. But I wouldn't get upset about it, everybody has a history.
2006-09-16 08:08:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its going to keep bothering you if your still with him. Its either you dump him or fogive him for the past. We all make mistakes. Good luck
2006-09-16 08:09:26 · answer #8 · answered by word2yamutha@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live in the present. It doesn't really matter about the other girls if now he's being true to you.
2006-09-16 08:09:41 · answer #9 · answered by oldmomma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well then, thank f*ck it wasn't 40 sexual partners he had, eh?
2006-09-16 08:08:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋