Ok...my closest friend at school has a crush on this guy and loves him. The problem is that i really like him too. should i tell her that i also like him? i told her earlier b4 taht i liked him, but then after that i didnt like him for a bit so i thought that was permanent. so i told her that i didnt like him anymore. Turns out i like him AGAIN. I would tell her but she seems like she's fallin apart sometimes. She isnt exactly pretty but she's really nice and caring. i really dunno what to do!!! i dont want to hurt my friend, but i still like the guy!!! what do i do??????
2006-09-16 08:03:48 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
it is nothing but infatuation. it is normal. enjoy.
2006-09-16 08:07:10 · answer #1 · answered by prince47 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, a good friend wouldn't do this to her close friends. I have had a crush on a boy my friend liked also, but i never told her becuase i really didn't want to hurt her. If you really care about your friend, and your relationship with her, then don't tell her. I know it may not seem like good advice, but if your friend likes him more and really wants something serious with him, and the fact that she's falling apart too, she NEEDS him. If you tell her you like him too, she may look at you as a back-stabber, and hat would be worse then losing her. Just move on and try to find someone new and hopefully better to crush on.
2006-09-16 15:15:59 · answer #2 · answered by Answer Givererer. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do either of you really have him? Let him decide, who he wants for a girlfriend or not. Is a Guy worth your friendship? There are a lot of likes and dislikes that best friends have. Maybe you really like him because you both have the same tastes in guys. If she has a harder time getting a guy, and he likes her, then be a friend and step aside.
2006-09-16 15:09:18 · answer #3 · answered by kayboff 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whoa....some friend. "She isn't exactly pretty but she's really nice and caring". Newsflash: Good personality traits matter more than looks. Who cares if she isn't all that pretty. You can be pretty and yet so vain and ugly inside. Sounds like your friend deserves a nice guy. And you need to make up your mind whether you like him or not. But as long as your friend is going out with him, it doesn't matter about whether u like him, because you would be one dirty person to mess around with your friend's guy. So for now, keep those feelings to yourself because he's taken, dear.
2006-09-16 15:08:55 · answer #4 · answered by rach 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't tell her. I would tell myself that I am confused because I do not know what I want. I like him, I don't like him, I like him, I don't like him. Are you picking daisy petals or something? If you are old enough to date, at least 16 in my opinion, then concentrate on someone who neither of you know so there will not be any confusion or competition. If your friend was first to come out with her feelings about this guy then you should back off. It's called backstabbing if you don't.
2006-09-16 15:11:44 · answer #5 · answered by CAM 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Eh... I'd forget about him. Your friendship is more important and both of you liking the guy will end, but you'll be friends for a long time, through many many guys coming and going. It might be hard to forget about the guy, but don't let either your friend or the guy know, cause that causes problems. yeaaah.
2006-09-16 15:09:04 · answer #6 · answered by Maybur 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a different guy to like and leave this crush for your friend, new guys are easier to find than new friends.
2006-09-16 15:06:10 · answer #7 · answered by live2ride 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave your girlfriend alone and find another guy to have a crush on. Good Luck ! :)
2006-09-16 15:07:16 · answer #8 · answered by tysavage2001 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
guys are easier to come by than friends are.stick with your decision and let her in the spot light this time.
2006-09-16 15:15:59 · answer #9 · answered by oceanwvs2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE THE MOST WHINY DUMB IDIOT IN THE WORLD!!! I think when Kim Jong kills your whole family you might have bigger issues. Or when you get West Nile Disease or cervical cancer. Just STFU you are nothing but an overused bit from an advice column!!
2006-09-16 15:07:44 · answer #10 · answered by Sonnenrad 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
if you really care for your friend you should let her have him. you could always find another guy
2006-09-16 15:18:21 · answer #11 · answered by mommie2be 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋