so my friends are going out, but before they were going out her boy friend said a hole bunch of crap about her... i try to tell her but she doesnt believe me.... he also told me that he would go out with me if it werent for her being a sap about being single... i really liked him and he really liked me.... but now that they have been going out he is being really rude to me.... i want her to be happy but i also want to be friends with him..... please help me! what should i do?
2006-09-16 08:01:46 · 18 answers · asked by Sierra D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
1. leave that alone girl! I'm am telling u from experience, never try to come between your friend and her dude.....u can warn her once, but I'm tellin u right now, girls are more likely to choose their boyfriends over their friends.
2. His rudeness towards u may be coming from guilt. AND if your friend tries to confront him about what he said about her to u, he can turn that against you by showing her how he dislaikes u, thus being rude to u.
3. Girlfriend's rule of thumb, if she is really and truely your friend, u DO NOT date your friend's boyfriends or ex boyfriends, whether u like them or not. It's a respect thing.....how would u feel if she started dating one of your ex's??
4. If all else fails, try walking around in her shoes, imagine yourself in her situation and ask yourself, "What would I want my friend to do/say to me?"
5. Good luck!
2006-09-16 08:10:11 · answer #1 · answered by KryBaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say you should visit with your friend that is female. Go do things with her and pretend that he isn't even around. If he says something to you directly then answer in short but polite answer. If he corners you on why your being so stand offish, just tell him that you wish him and your friend the best of luck and you do not want to come between good friend. Let the ball be in his court on if he wants you for a friend or not. There's no reason the three of you couldn't get along, as long as your feelings for him are only ones of friendship. Hope this helps.
2006-09-16 08:08:53 · answer #2 · answered by Doc M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HEY BABE... c u first really need to realise if u autually like this guy o r u just feelin a lil proud dat he wants u n not ur frd.....if hes said crap bout her dat obv doesnt stop him frm in the fututre sayin sumdin bout u....i think he sux u shuld tell ur frd da truth n if she doesnt believe u den she doesnt trust u meanin she isnt a true frstay away frm the ...u can get ne other guy u want so its better u stay away frm the ones dat have probzz u can neva b frds wid sum1 u like ders allways gona b an attraction..he was tryin to use ur frd before n since der was a chance he wuldnt get her he tried u but now since he has her he doesnt care ... i think u shuld totalli ignore him and c wat happens ......which way he turns
2006-09-16 08:12:21 · answer #3 · answered by kety m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa....You've got a big mess there. First of all, it wasn't your place to tell her what he said about her. She should've found that out on her own. 2nd, if he doesn't care about her (which he can't because he said the only reason he's going with her is because she doesn't want to be single), what makes you think he'll care about you? And he obviously doesn't care about you anyway if he's being rude to you. Realize the signs, girl. I wouldn't want to be friends or girlfriend with a guy like that!
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2016-12-18 11:24:40 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's into her now and may be sending you that message by being rude. That sucks. Maybe you could pull him aside sometime & say look I'm happy for you can't we at least be friends. Otherwise it could get messy. I don't really think you should trust him if he's talking about people behind their backs. If he'll do it to them, he'll do it to you.
2006-09-16 08:06:56 · answer #6 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if u want to be JUST friends with him then be nice to him and hell be nice 2 u and u will start being friends. but if u like the guy and ur friend likes the guy then if she was really your friend u would let her have the guy. if ur friend wont believe u just tell her if u r really my friend ull believe me and if shes not really friends with her i dont know why your wasting your time hanging out with her and stuff like that. hope i helped!
2006-09-16 08:07:34 · answer #7 · answered by Tunaper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want peace in your head, drop both of them. She doesn't have confidence in you to accept your honesty and he's being rude. What's good about either of those friendships? Him, be done with forever. Her, check her out in a few years after the both of you have matured a bit.
2006-09-16 08:17:09 · answer #8 · answered by CAM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realize he is a jerk and you should both dump him as a friend. You should have more dignity that to hang out with someone like that. Go home and study so you can go to college.
2006-09-16 08:03:33 · answer #9 · answered by Plasmapuppy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's really immature. It's not worth the time or the effort. He's making excuses about being with your friend. He's talking bad about her to you, then he's probably talking bad about you to her. I wouldn't trust him and I wouldn't even try being friends with him.
2006-09-16 08:05:38 · answer #10 · answered by Mommy2Liam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋