Sometimes when I'm changing my baby's diaper, he pees all over himself before I have a chance to get a new diaper on him. This annoys me quite a bit because then I have to wipe him all off and clean up the mess.
Usually I'm not very gentle about wiping him off because I'm annoyed, which greatly upsets him. I never intend to be rough with him and I know he can't help peeing on himself, but I still get very annoyed when it happens. I want to stop doing it because I'm worried it could make him emotionally insecure when he gets older. I always make up my mind to be gentle the next time it happens, but once it happens I end up being rough again.
by the way.. I know you never shake a baby and I'm not being rough enough that I would ever injure him.. I'm just not very gentle about wiping the pee off of him and it really upsets him.. Does anyone else have this problem? Any suggestions on how to stop doing this?
2006-09-16 07:16:12 · 34 answers · asked by Byakuya 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
hmm.. some of the responses make me realize that my avatar might look a little too feminine. :p I'm the dad by the way. My wife already knows about this and doesn't seem too concerned. don't get the wrong idea.. I'm not being excessively rough. regardless, I would like to stop doing it because I want to make his life as pleasant as possible. Thanks for all the replies!
2006-09-16 07:53:29 · update #1
First off babies are a pain in the *** and a lot of work...I really think everybody gets kind of pissed off at them from time to time. It a damn good thing they are soooo cute. I haven't read the answers here yet, but I predict you are going to get an earful for being honest.
When the little weasel baby pees or craps just as you finished applying a new Pamper; RELAX. Count to ten. Talk to your kid and try very very hard to see the humor in the situation because it is always there...100% of the time. Babies are pure entertainment if you can acquire the right attitude. Also I always have tried to think of my kids as adults only small and helpless at the moment. I talk to a three month old just like they were thirty six and craped their pants, "Oh Norman , you stinky little booger, I'm putting this extra Pamper on your tab for double the price and I'm billing you extra for the extra clean up."
Kids are probably the most fun you can have in life, but it takes some re-definition of fun. They WILL NEVER do as you want them to...they are real people and prone to do as they wish. This being said, they are real people and they will love you...really love you and that is a magical, even miraculous thing. Try really really hard to be gentle, he's just a baby.
1. Relax
2. Don't Panic
3. Try to disconnect your schedule...be 100% with your kid when you are with your kid (hey double pees are quality time!)
4. Instead of wiping him off again, exaggerate the situation and time factor and give him a nice bath...he will dig it and it will take long enough that you will forget about being angry.
5. If you get angry at your kid, so be it...don't feel guilty about it...people get angry. But try very hard not to be rough and congratulate yourself for not hurting him.
6. If you get really really angry, walk away for a minute and leave him in his own juices. Come back in a few seconds when you can deal with him without anger.
7. Force yourself to smile or even fake laugh. If you fake it enough eventually you will actually laugh.
8. Sing.
9. Make up a payment schedule for services rendered and keep an account...give him his tab as soon as he pays off his student loans from collage. Great laugh for you both if nothing else, but hey, him might pay you back for an extra wipe or two!
10. Pretend you are a perfect mother in a movie.
11. Pretend your mother is watching you or you are being video taped and it will eventually be shown to your son.
12. Pretend it is yourself that just re-peed themselves.
All in all babyhood slips away in a heartbeat...don't do anything to spoil your memories of his brief time as an infant.
PS They get WAY more annoying as they get older!!! More precious too!!!
2006-09-16 07:57:36 · answer #1 · answered by Yim 3 · 11⤊ 0⤋
All you have to do is to lay a wipe or a wash cloth over his penis while you are getting the dirty diaper off him and a clean one ready to put on him.
That way if he pees it will hit the wipe or cloth and run right back down on his diaper area which you are going to clean anyway.
Try to think ahead when he is older, you will look back on these times an laugh about how funny it was to see the "fountain of youth" when you went to change his diaper.
Just keep in mind that he can't control this and that is why he wears the diaper in the first place. Once he gets older and is potty trained then you won't have this problem any more.
You definitely want to be gentle with your baby. He might become afraid of you as he gets older because he is going to remember the times you were rough with him when cleaning him off.
Try to take your time changing him, don't try to do it in a hurry then you won't get so irritated. Plan ahead for the fact that this will happen and you won't feel rushed so then you won't get irritated either. Just realize that it will happen and if it doesn't then you have just saved a little time that was planned for having to clean him up. Use that time to play with him a little. Make him feel loved.
Good luck.
2006-09-16 09:13:52 · answer #2 · answered by wetsaway 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just take a deep breath, I can understand how it's frustrating, and reminding yourself that he doesn't know the diaper should be catching his pee. My son (I think every boy) did this too, especially when it was time to go somewhere and of course already being late, he would even soak his pyjama's so needed to be redressed completely. A good tip is to have the fresh diaper under the dirty diaper, and cover it up right away. and make sure his penis is pointing down, so it won't dribble anywhere else except in the diaper, like up in his face. Wrap and toss the dirty diaper after he's re-sealed ! And if you don't want to wipe up everytime, if it's just a pee, don't wipe, since he's so young his pee is very mild, he's just having fluids. I would wipe only if he has a dirty bum or once they start with solids their urine is alot stronger. I'm sure the wet cold wipe being rubbed on him is not making him very happy either, I didn't change the diaper at night unless it was full for that reason. Be patient and soon, you'll be able to change diapers without a worry, it's a skill.
2006-09-16 08:02:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have two boys, ages 10 and 8. It's perfectly normal for little boys to pee as soon as the diaper is removed. The sudden cold air hitting a usually very warm place is startling and makes them pee. I used to put a washcloth over their genitals when I was changing them to prevent it from going everywhere. That helped a LOT. Another thing to try is not finishing with the diaper change until after that last pee. Open up his diaper and as soon as he starts to go again, put it back on really quick.
If it does happen to get everywhere, just take a deep breath, relax, and give him a quick bath. Think of it as mommy/son bonding time. I would also suggest that you get some time to yourself. Have grandma, or daddy, or someone you trust watch your son for a few hours to get some "me" time. It will help you relax and to relieve some angst so that you can better deal with the stress of having a new baby.
I'm sure a lot of us have had those moments where you're not as gentle or as loving as you should be because you're stressed out and overwhelmed. It's normal, but can turn into something really terrible really quick if you don't find another outlet for your stress and frustration. Good luck honey, you're not alone. =)
2006-09-16 07:34:24 · answer #4 · answered by jenpeden 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The #1 rule for changing a boys diaper is to make sure that their 'hose' is covered at all times! The best thing for you to do is just be as quick as possible....and stay calm. Honestly, it's just pee. I've been covered with vomit...pee...poop...it happens.
My son did the same thing...as soon as the air hit him...he peed all over. This is what I did...it might work for you:
Before you ever take off the dirty diaper, make sure you have the clean one ready & opened. Then, you quickly take off the dirty one....and put the clean one over top ...kind of like a little 'tent'. That way, if he pees...it goes into the diaper and is absorbed. Plus, if you have to change a poopy diaper...you can keep the top part covered while you wipe the bottom.
Hope this helps you! Good luck--Stay dry, stay calm, and enjoy your child every day!!
2006-09-16 08:10:05 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is upsetting you this much .. you should not be the one changing his diapers until you find someone professional to talk to about this. There is no reason to be rough with a baby at any time. Be gentle at all times. Count to 10 before you wipe him . if it gives you time to cool down .. but babies are very aware of your facial expressions too .. if you give him "a look" .. that can affect him as well for the rest of his life. Seriously, if I were in your position, I would find a parenting group that face the same issues as you .. or get some one-on-one counseling asap. In the meantime, you may have to hire someone to change the babies diapers for a few weeks. Or have the baby live with a relative until you are able to get this under control. Good Luck ! :)
2006-09-16 07:22:15 · answer #6 · answered by tysavage2001 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I'm kinda stumped by this one. I'm glad you have posted about this problem but I'm confused and a little worried as to why you are so annoyed with your infant son.
Little boys often pee when you take the diaper off, it's the air hitting them and the stimulation of wiping him. I'm a baby nurse and I can't count the number of times babies have peed on me and I've yet to get annoyed. The parents and I usually just laugh and clean everyone up.
When you take his diaper off you can put a wipe over his penis or tent the new diaper over him. That way he won't pee on YOU but if he does pee, he will still get it on his groin area and bottom but at least you'll have a smaller area to clean as opposed to his entire body if he's spraying like a sprinkler.
It concerns me a bit that you are rough with him over something like this. Many, many more situations are coming up starting with the toddler years on up to the teenage years that will anger you, and these are things that your son will be doing on purpose and not as a normal body function. You might want to talk to your pediatrician to get an idea of normal infant behavior and see a therapist about this kind of unreasonable expectation and quick anger with your son. Do you get angry like this in other everyday situations too, such as stuck in traffic, someone cuts you off, movie tickets sold out, etc?
2006-09-16 08:47:16 · answer #7 · answered by BabyRN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW how about Take a chill pill. If this annoys you what are you going to do when in the middle of the night your child is screaming you go to pick them up and they totally puke all over you!! Some things you just have to deal with when you decide to become a parent. Pee, poop, puke, boogers etc... are just a few to name. My advice is quickly have the next diaper ready and if your baby goes too peeing use the diaper as a shield. Some more advice if you feel like hurting your baby just place them in their crib close the door walk away then call for help. I know sometimes things get a little stressful and before you ever regret something do that option first.
Just read the baby sister part. ok then let your parents deal with your sis. Tell them about your feelings. Really Chill though.
2006-09-16 07:25:41 · answer #8 · answered by jacket2230 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Now Dad, just wait a few minutes after you remove the nappy until the little fellow has had his happy wee.Don't be in such a hurry to put the fresh nappy on.Spend a few minutes laughing with him,tickling him and remember you probably did the same thing long ago. Try to find out by being honest with yourself why you feel resentful..do you feel his mother should be doing the job? After all baby pee is not unpleasant and the baby wipes make the cleaning up quite painless. Your son will find you the most important role model as he grows.Don't teach him impatience
2006-09-16 09:22:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first every one that has kids gets annoyed with them at some point. If they tell you their kids never annoy them, they are liars. But you have to learn as a parent how to keep your cool with those annoying things.
Try opening up the new diaper before taking off the old one, so if he starts to pee you at least have something to quickly cover him up. The facts are kids pee,poop, whine,cry,yell,hit, bite, have sleep problems, and all around can drive you nuts. But it sounds to me like you love your son. I hate it when I reach out for help with being frustrated with my kids and people act like I am the worst mother. But you do have to learn to control yourself. You are the adult. By getting more aggressive than you should you are acting like a child. Next time this happens and you feel like you can't be gentle with him, put him in a safe place take a minute to calm down and then go back and clean him up.
2006-09-16 08:23:47 · answer #10 · answered by aerofrce1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋