My cousing & her husband broke up after 12 years of marriage, i used to like him but never thot wrongly, he proposed me after she left him alone and i was kinda, confused, i am separated from my husband (not divorced yet) and hav a kid of 4 years. Now i love my bro in law and he loves me a lot too, I wanna marry him but my sis came to know abt us and is adament to divorce him, but he cant live with her, She is also doing her best to malign me in the family, but i just shrug off her derogatory acts & move on. She also blames me for her break off, wheareas I hardly even spoke to her husband wen they were together. they too have a kid, what do i do. Can some one enlighten me, please
2006-09-16 06:08:59 · 13 answers · asked by fantasyland 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She is my cousin and she is absolutely unlivable, i admit. I liked him but i spoke to him very rarely, He used to be very aloof. I dont support my cousin as I realise she is wrong as regards to maintaining the relationship with her husband.
2006-09-16 06:23:31 · update #1
I prefer my love to my psuedo loyalty to my cousin, who is out to malign me n hurt me. i have come to her husbands life, wen she left him and wen there was no chance of her to come back, then y dz she hold me responsible. i feel its her shortcoming that she could not hold on to the marriage.
2006-09-16 06:30:45 · update #2
As nice as he may be, as right as it may seem, as good as it may feel to be with someone who cares for you; NOT HIM! Don't do that! It isn't the right thing to do.He is the father of your cousins child.And if he is married to your cousin he is not your bro-in-law but in any case its a bad idea.Blood is blood and its thicker than water.There are lots of other people to choose from so choose someone else.
2006-09-16 06:15:02 · answer #1 · answered by daddysgirl92280 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you value your relationship with your sister at all then leave that man alone!!!!! My sister married my ex husband of 14 years and now she and I don't speak to each other unless its harsh words. She broke the unspoken rule with sisters. To say that it shouldn't matter is just stupid. The kids will suffer and the adults will do nothing but fight. Tell him to leave you alone and never look back. I don't care how much you care for him. Believe me you and your sister will be much better for it. There is NO love between me and my sister now.
2006-09-16 06:22:33 · answer #2 · answered by pinkpuppet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's weird that you say cousin then sister, which is it? Plus there are children involved and that will be very awkward for them, what are you going to tell them?? Auntie is your Mommy?? You are actually putting everyone in your family in an awkward situation. I do think you two should stay away from each other and just move on. She is your sister and she is hurting and you will be hurting her more.
2006-09-16 06:21:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ewww, this is weird. Where's your loyalty to your sister?? Aren't there other men in this world to have a relationship with that are NOT in your family or former family members??
Show your loyalty to your sister and move on to someone else. Afterall she divorced him for a reason....
*******
Well after reading your replies, I'm left wondering why you even asked in the first place.....
Honey, you're headed for trouble and its sad that you don't even see it.
2006-09-16 06:13:48 · answer #4 · answered by Bingo's Mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i myself don't be attentive to what to tell you yet you're unfastened to do what you could desire to do. How do you think of this would pass during on your ex and what approximately their dating as brothers? i'd back out of this if i presumed it would injury his dating along with his brother. kinfolk would desire to be continually. Blood is thicker than water. you do no longer choose to be a stumbling block between brothers.
2016-10-01 00:52:25 · answer #5 · answered by blumenkrantz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow this sounds like an episode of the Jerry Springer show.
Now with that being said I think you know what to do tootles
2006-09-16 06:15:50 · answer #6 · answered by fryedaddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think you should both give your selves some time before you get involved with each other, and defiantly get a divorce. talk to each other see where you go from there
2006-09-16 06:31:22 · answer #7 · answered by rachel m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah there is a reason that your sister broke it off with him and if you hook up you will see that reason and want out too. that is your sister and you shouldn't do that to her out of respect. what if your sister wanted to hook up with your husband? how would that make you feel?
2006-09-16 06:17:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not worth it, the marriage would not last and would cause a rift in your family, that could out last the love that you have with him. Please don't do it.
2006-09-16 06:55:26 · answer #9 · answered by inluvwshana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop thinking crazy. That's sooo wrong.
Anyway, is he your sister's hubby or your cousin's? You said both.
Either way, stop it.
2006-09-16 06:17:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋