how do you stop comparing yourself to your guy's ex-girlfriend? i know his ex well and know most of the stuffs they did when they were still together. i feel this urge to become better in every aspect, and it is very hard, confusing and driving me mad! it comes to the extent that i feel like having an affair with someone else~thank god i hvnt done that yet!
2006-09-16 05:28:04 · 11 answers · asked by adelz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He knows what his ex was like.
He knows what you are like.
He has chosen to be with you.
What makes you think that you need to change a thing? You're not competing with her, she's out of the picture!
2006-09-16 05:37:35 · answer #1 · answered by Bramblyspam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you are NOT doing the right thing. You shouldn't be trying to making yourself better than the ex. He should love you for YOU. That is what love is all about. My ex discovered finally that she really didn't love me for me, and had to leave me. Sure it broke my heart, but as time passed I started to learn that even though I love her, still in my heart that I had to love her from a distance. If he's loving you because you are trying to be better than the ex, than he isn't loving the real you. That was a big problem in my relationship with my ex. But mine was more on the emotional level, She didn't love me for who I was, because I didn't know who I was. I had alot of soul searching to do, and had to figure myself out.
Peace Out,
2006-09-16 05:44:23 · answer #2 · answered by The Lonely Skywolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who is doing the comparing you or him, if he is tell him if he likes her so much to eff off and just go be with her because you are sick of hearing about her.
If it is you, then maybe you need to build some self esteem and self confidence. Spice things up with your guy and create some new experiences ones that he will never forget and ones that will make him forget all the experiences before you. Good luck!
2006-09-16 05:42:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is way easy to say stop comparing yourself w/ her...but it may not be so easy....When you are more confidant and know who you are she may be easier to let fade from your life NEVER mention her to him! never say did you and (her)...do- say- eat- watch...bla bla ...you know ? never do this...even if you are in a fight...& NEVER during sex...create your own relationship w/ him..did you "steal " him from her? do you feel some guilt here?...If not time to concentrte on you and him let her go! bringing her presence into the relatioinship serves no one...You decide what you want... take charge of YOU>>>>
2006-09-16 05:48:19 · answer #4 · answered by red heads ha! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to do that sometimes with my husband's ex-wife, but I don't anymore. I realized that he wanted something BETTER, so he left her and found ME. That means that just by being myself, I am better than she is... Just be yourself.
2006-09-16 05:30:35 · answer #5 · answered by mamafence 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you letting her control you? You need to take charge and be yourself. He's with you now. Why do you want to become her? He's over her, remember?
2006-09-16 05:31:05 · answer #6 · answered by Emm 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is going out with you because of you. He doesn't want you to change cause then you're the person he wants to go out with.
2006-09-16 05:29:35 · answer #7 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to find someone that you would never go out with, and force a change
2006-09-16 05:29:45 · answer #8 · answered by gallow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He upgraded so why focus on last years version...
2006-09-16 05:33:00 · answer #9 · answered by mizsinister 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just remember that they aren't together anymore. he is with you now. ask him why they broke up or why he doesn't like her anymore and keep this in mind, it helps.
2006-09-16 05:30:11 · answer #10 · answered by duckface 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋