I personally only want my Husband and Mother in the Labor & Delivery with me. I have a few close friends and family that also want to be in there with me. Is that wrong not wanting them in there?
2006-09-16 05:22:24 · 52 answers · asked by pink_october29 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It is PERFECTLY okay. Make sure you remember that this is YOUR delivery not any one elses!! Don't let ANYONE tell you different or make you feel that they have to be in there when you don't want them there!!
2006-09-16 05:24:40 · answer #1 · answered by shannon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's completely up to you and if anyone has a problem with that then it is simply their problem. It is a private time for you and your close family and really just a private time for your body. You don't need the stress of added viewers.
I never really could figure out why people felt as though the mother was there to entertain people while she was giving birth or right after the delivery.
If you think you are going to upset anyone and don't want to heave to deal with that at this time, then the best thing for you to tell them all is that the hospital that you are going to will not allow you to have more than two people in the room with you other than the doctors and nurses. This should be easily believed because it is actually most often the policy of the hospital and I wouldn't be surprised if that were the case where you are.
Good luck and don't let anyone ruin your day, it's going to be hard enough as it is.
2006-09-16 05:28:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
An easy way to keep the "peace" among friends is to tell your doctor that your mom and husband are the only ones invitied. If anyone else wants to enter the room, the doctor and nurses can tell them only 2 people are allow (and what do you know! it's your mom and husband!) :) You shouldn't have to worry about this while you are in labor anyways. Let the doctor and nurses handle the situation.
Usually doctors don't like alot of people in the delivery room. 2 people are usually a max.
If you are asked before the delivery date if one of your friends/family can be with you - you can tell them the "hospital rules" of only 2 people.
When you in labor - you are the boss! :)
2006-09-16 05:31:14 · answer #3 · answered by InnerBeauty28 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would your close friends and other family members
even ask if they could be in the delivery room with you!
That is very selfish of them. The birth of you child is
the most personal experience for you and your husband.
If you want your mom there too, that is alright, but only
if you really want her there and not because she ask
and you feel obligated to her.
Your Mom could be the first to see and hold the baby.
But your friends and other family will just have to wait
outside for the good news and give you the respect you
deserve. They can come and visit later or see you at home,
once you have recovered.
Has anyone offered to help you at home and babysit?
Wait and see - how many actually will do so.!
2006-09-18 13:01:24 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to be as comfortable as possible during labor and delivery, meaning you should only invite people that you really want in there. Ask them if they would mind being in the waiting room until after the baby is born, I'm sure they will understand.
2006-09-16 05:34:37 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! Your the boss here. These are your private parts we're talking about here. Gosh, people can we give a birthing mother some peace and respect please? If they want to see the miracle of life, they can rent a video. A birthing mother must be able to relax to be comfortable when birthing. Tension or stress in the mother can slow the process. So, with a group of people in the room, it may actually affect the delivery process. You can discuss who you want and don't want in the delivery room with the nurses and doctors. Everyone else can wait in the lobby. Or you can do what I did and call everyone else (besides husband and mother) when it's over.
PS Maybe you should ask them if you can be in the room when they get their next colonoscopy? ; )
2006-09-16 05:39:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. Never mind all the compromising positions you'll be in... and all of your parts exposed... it should be something that makes you feel at ease... so that you can have a healthy delivery. No need to bring undue stress on yourself. If all these other family members want to see a delivery... tell them to watch a lamaze tape.
I personally couldn't even have my mother in the room (just felt too weird). Only my husband and sister could be there. I video taped the birth and ended up showing my mother later on... but I couldn't have her physically in the room.
Do what feels right for you... and only you. It's all about you.. you.. you.. This is the one day you get to be as selfish as possible and no one can say a damn word about it.
2006-09-16 05:30:05 · answer #7 · answered by VixenMom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heck no. I just had my husband. It is a private, personal thing. I'm sorry, but I don't want the whole world to watch me with my legs wide open, my hair a total mess, while I am feeling like crap. I am not a show. The baby is cuter when it is all cleaned up, as am I. I wanted a chance for my husband, daughter, and me to bond together a little bit before the whole world came in. Think about it from the perspective of the baby. They've never seen people, lights, or anything. A whole bunch of people can be too overwhelming. Studies show that the calmer the atmosphere at the baby's birth, the calmer the baby. So you can tell them that if they get offended.
2006-09-16 05:27:25 · answer #8 · answered by mountain_laurel1183 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't have to invite anyone into the delivery room if you don't want to. It is your desicion! YOu carried the baby for 9 months and you get to decide who gets to be there at the end of the pregnancy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!don't let anybody tell u different u hear me!?!?!??!?!!?!?! Just tell them that the baby will get stressed out if there are people because get this: This kid has never seen the world before, they dont know what a person is, and theve never been outside your uterus before! Its ok if you want them to be able to calm down and bond with the baby. I would want my spouse and my mom there too! He was there when we made the baby and he can b there at the end 2!!!!! YOur mom is there for you and noone else. NO mother in laws NO other family, and NOONE you don't want!!! end of story!!!!!!!!!! YOur mom will take care of the baby to help YOU NOT for the baby. Anyone else is in it for the baby (except maybe ur hubby if youve got a good one) Bottom line. Tell them that you want only the closest people to you to be there, looking at you when you are a total mess! Oh yah an after the baby is born, dont let them boss you around as to what to do in the areas of feeding the baby: breast feeding or formula, and if your mom can stick around for you, she can stick up for you too! just do what you think is best for you--and your new baby. Best wishes for you and the baby. May you both be healthy and happy.
2006-09-16 05:42:12 · answer #9 · answered by opengirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no - it is not wrong to only want your husband and mother with you. Everybody else should respect your wishes. My sister has had 7 children. Some at the hospital , some at home. She has always had her husband with her and different close friends and family AS SHE WANTED IT! This day is about you and your comfort ! There is other things that friends and family can do for you during this time with out being on top of you. Give them jobs to do for you. I got to babysit the kids for my sister. We always had a blast baking a cake for the new baby!
2006-09-16 05:31:30 · answer #10 · answered by bethshome7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU are the one giving birth. YOU are the one who will be in pain. YOU are the one who will be half-naked. YOU are the one who will be pushing out the baby. It's all about what YOU want. If you don't want them, don't invite them. You have a few choices.....
Let them be outside in the waiting room but not in the room with you. Tell your nurses who is allowed in and who is not. They will help act as "traffic cop" for you.
Let them be in the room during early labor but ask them to leave before it gets more intense or before you start pushing.
If they've been waiting in the waiting room, they can come in to meet the baby afterwards once you have had a chance to nurse the first time and get cleaned up.
OR.......
Just don't call them until AFTER it is all over. There is no rule that says you have to call everyone you know before you get to the hospital. Just wait until the baby has arrived and then call and say, "we had a baby!"
2006-09-16 05:30:38 · answer #11 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋