My husband and I have been together for 5 years. He is a good man but I have not had a orgasm while he is inside of me yet. I have told him about it but nothing we tried have worked. What should I do?
2006-09-16 05:14:27 · 11 answers · asked by nyaj_2006 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
that is really really common. it is not necessarily a medical problem.
Most women don't experience vaginal orgasm without some kind of stimulation besides penetration. seriously, don't stress. Are you both enjoying the sex? If you are, that is all that matters.
There aren't anywhere near as many pleasure nerve endings inside the vagina as there are in the clitoris and labia. (this area was designed for childbirth ... it's meant to be numb).
There are plenty of things besides penetration sex which can be extremely gratifying. I don't orgasm from penetration alone, and I still have a full and satisfied sex life.
Of course, if you *want* to orgasm from penetration alone you're going to need to try things like tantra, herbs, sustained foreplay (to heighten your sensitivity) and extended sex (where he continues after orgasm). And your husband is going to have to be very very patient and understanding. There are some weird asian sexual positions out there that may hit alternative pleasure spots.
Other than that, think of ways he can pleasure you without concentrating on the Big O. For women, sex is not always about orgasm.
2006-09-16 05:39:11 · answer #1 · answered by frouste 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Experiment in different things and devote alot of time to eachother while doing it, female orgasms are hard to happen, but theres always a way. The other alternative don't have sex..
2006-09-16 12:17:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most women dont have an orgasm with just just vaginal penetration. Have more foreplay and outside stimulation. Also, try to relax, enjoy the trip not just the destination :)
2006-09-16 13:49:06 · answer #3 · answered by prinliss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually the problem is stress. Something WE ALL HAVE due to the world we live in today. rush, rush, hurry, hurry.
I would recommend you see a doctor. They may be able to send you to a specialist.
Hope this helps. Good luck, 5 years marriage is great!
2006-09-16 12:18:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know where your are coming from , i have been like this all my adult life , when playing with myself its is amazing and come in seconds but when my partner plays with me i get wet but just dont *** he can spend hours playing which is great but he fills it is him because i always have to rubbing myself with him to *** , when he is on top i enjoy it i get so turned on , but yet again whilest he is inside me i have to rub myself to to *** , but if iam on top of him i *** in seconds , not sure why this happen s maybe its me needing to be in control , . with me could be many thing s , i was abused as a child , and have a tilted womb, , maybe try something new , dressing up , swinging partys ,bdsm , i have tryed all and things are slowly cuming rounds winks , still have to help for awhile but getting there slowly hope this helps goodluck to you hun xx
2006-09-16 12:50:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im just guessing but I think you might have a hooded clitoris and its not being stimulated !
2006-09-16 12:18:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to invest in some books that will explain this.
2006-09-16 12:17:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Touch yourself when he's inside you, maybe while on your stomach
2006-09-16 12:18:32 · answer #8 · answered by DeeDee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your Dr. as this is wonderful!!
2006-09-16 12:17:15 · answer #9 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried masturbating during sex?
2006-09-16 12:18:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋