My demonstrating father destroyed relation between me and my self since i was a child? Is there to change and be better person with many mental problems?
2006-09-16 05:02:07 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Sorry guys
i meant controlling father....Like Hitlar.
2006-09-16 05:23:51 · update #1
he is such a
Dectator
2006-09-16 05:26:22 · update #2
collect your head
enjoy the sun
take care of your circulatory system
in the key of D
2006-09-19 02:05:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore him and do what you feel is right for you. If he wants to mess into it more than you want to allow him, turn your back and go away. He will get the message, I am sure. If not, let him sit and wonder about it.
We cannot reshape parents. They are as they are, they are what we got, we have no choice. However, this doesn't mean we need to suffer from their stupidity. WE ALL HAVE THE RIGHT TO LIVE A LIFE of OUR OWN, whether they agree to that, or not.
Avoid dependance (financial, emotional, or any kind of) and he will back off and learn to respect you.
You are not his property, you are not his extension, after the year of 18, you are not a minor any more and you decide ALONE what you want to do.
Shut your ears next time you hear him talking negatively to you, avoid him for a while and try to make it on your own! I am sure you will manage, anybody can manage!!!
Distance can also do wonders - keep your distance, strengthen yourself and don't blame him for anything. I'd rather pity him for his shortsightedness, if you ask me.
2006-09-17 14:20:44 · answer #2 · answered by Hibernating Ladybird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure that I am reading your question correctly. Do you want many mental problems? Well, it seems as though your are heading the right way. By the way, ask yourself only this little question:" Is my father a god with the power to shape my future"?
2006-09-16 12:09:10 · answer #3 · answered by Willem V 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
counselling can help with the problems caused by your parents influence.
you want to change so try to be an island unto your self, what I mean is this
he controls you.....do as he says only because he demands it...understand you are doing because he demands it not because he makes you do it. start to separate your identity from him. know you are NOT your father but you still have to do as he demands to maintain peace where you live. at least till you are n your own.
until you get counselling that should help
2006-09-16 12:37:40 · answer #4 · answered by Marg N 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your demonstrating father??? What did he demonstrate? Did he demonstrate to all of your personalities? Who is me and myself? Ugggh! I'm so confused. Now I am a person with many mental problems. Damn your father!
2006-09-16 12:13:07 · answer #5 · answered by tsopolly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can change but get some counseling it will help you get over him and the things he did to you. Learn to be strong and don't let people push you around. Good luck and peace.
2006-09-16 12:10:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Assuming I comprehend your question, I would say yes, if you are willing to re-visit the pain of your childhood.
I presume you refer to your father demonstrating rage, or hate or both? This left little room for any intimate relationship, and this is not uncommon between males and fathers. What is wrong with what happened is that your MIND assumed that your father's behavior was OK so that you could maintain some illusion of a relationship [at least you survived]. It is the denial of our on beautiful selves in order to not be killed that represents the pain and grief buried deep within us.
To begin the healing process, we must forgive ourselves for this denial of who and what we are.... which is a Soul, which is an aspect of God. To forgive oneself, one must reach deep within and acknowledge how painful it was to deny ones own Soul.
We, that is males, make a choice as tiny babies. Each one of us has to deny ones own energy within oneself in order to cease frightening ones father...[this is a misperception by ones MIND] in hopes that his fear of one will not drive him to kill one. This sounds crazy, right? But, it is in fact what took place within ones MIND. It has to be accepted, and forgiven in order for one to grieve oneself to health and to disengage from the deeply repressed traumata that will, if one does not let go of them, cause one to be just like ones father.
One begins this process by sitting alone, and letting ones memory go back and experience as many instances of pain and suffering one was subjected to... and to allow oneself to drop down into a deep and powerful grief. Grief is the eraser of the misperceptions of ones MIND. If felt deeply and strongly, it will replace the traumata with forgiveness and love.
Good luck, and peace.
2006-09-16 12:41:17 · answer #7 · answered by docjp 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
With the secret, Yes.
2006-09-16 12:09:35 · answer #8 · answered by Answerer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not understand question..
Try again in proper english..
2006-09-16 12:09:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋