What do you consider UNCONDITIONAL LOVE?

Question

I know I should not allow myself to be used when it comes to matters of the heart, but lets face it, we all have. At what point do you feel unconditional love ends and drawing a line begins? How much is one supposed to continue to give?

I am involved with someone who keeps going back and forth to their ex. They are miserable but obviously not miserable enough. We love each other and "it" is there. I have been asked to please be patient. Yet its hard for me to stand by and watch the sheer stupidity of their "relationship." (arguments, financial disputes, put downs etc)
I know I am a good person and I have been good in this relationship. But I often wonder if continuing down this path of loving without condtion is what I am supposed to do.

Answer 1

First of all I dont think their is such a thing called unconditional love. Yes some of us may have ideas, but that is all they are ideas. When I think of the term unconditional I think of the word contradiction. You can not live by principles of love when by living by those principles destroys the love of yourself. Loving someone is about acceptance of them, and yourself. Matters of the heart is difficult because no one can ever be your heart, and therefore do not have to walk your path from the decisons you make from your heart. Everyone always has advice to give but hardly ever can take that advice and apply to their own lifes. Its not that their hypocrites it's just that the advice that they give is what they would like to do but lack the courage in doing. What I will say is this no one can tell you when to draw the line. Only you will know. And it will hit you with a powerful calming feeling of clarity. It sounds to me like your a fixer. You are someone who believes that with her love she can save. Love isnt about saving, and it is without ego. Love is about acceptance and how much you yourself can accept without losing the love and respect of yourself. If you feel empty because you have given all you can there is a reason for that. You cant save the world and sometimes when we see that someone is about to fall we want to rescue them before they do. But what you must understand is that the fall itself may be the only thing that helps them rescue themselves. Listen to your heart, and you will know. No one else can tell you. I wish you well

Answer 2

I find that this analogy has helped me through the years, love is like fishing, you give a little line and you take a little line, you pull and then you let go and then pull again. The line must be drawn when you are destroying yourself, what I mean is, you can love someone very much but you have to draw a line with the sacrificing when you start to compromise who you are, you shouldn't allow "love" to make you feel bad about yourself or what you are doing, if something you are supposed to be doing in the name of love feels like it is taking away your identity, your dignity or self respect that means you have gone too far, there always should be a middle ground where both of you can stand and take turns in compromising, not only one side is the one that should be putting effort into the relationship.

Answer 3

Unfortunately there is no such thing as unconditional Love, unless both people feel the same way. Then each gives and gets. When one is mostly the giver and the other mostly the taker then true love doesn't exist.

Answer 4

Every relationship needs come compromising. There is a very fine line between compromising a bit for love and being taken for granted. You are the only one to know the difference. When you compromise and still feel happy, its for love, and when you feel let down, then you its time for you to stop giving in.

Answer 5

did you ever own a dog there love is unconditional, when you love some one like that there is not one thing that you cant take.but there is a difference between love and being taken for granted you just need to know the difference

Answer 6

Sorry, no such thing- even when it appears as if one person loves the other unconditionally, you dig a little deeper and find all sorts of things that are not so selfless- a desire to see oneself as a victim, or plain unwillingness to change things for oneself.

Love is a strange complex human thing- beautiful, but sometimes terribly beautiful.

Answer 7

if you are doing most of the giving... its not unconditional love. You will continue to give until you have no more to give and/or the relationship ends.

Answer 8

Unconditional love is only between a dog and his/her master.

Answer 9

When your not getting back what your putting into it