Sometimes people make me feel poor?

Question

I am not poor. I have a home, food to eat and a loving family. The thing is, we are on a tight budget and have to be careful about where we spend our money. Sometimes when I am around people who are in a better financial situation then me, they make me feel poor. For example, one time, two girls were planning on splitting the cost of a wedding gift for one of our friends, and said that they were going to spend 100 dollars each and asked me if I wanted to join them but I told them I can't because I'm on a tight budget, and they said things like, "Well, she is a good friend. So I don't have a problem spending so much money on her because I think it's worth it." And it made me feel like they think I'm cheap. How do I make people understand that my situation is much different from theirs? These girls come from pretty well off families and my family is, well normal.

One of the girls' father has his own business and so does my husband, so she was comparing both of our situations one time. She was saying how her father has his own business but still has enough money and since we live in a condo, once she was like, you guys must be rich. I don't know why they are putting so much importance to money. Me and my hubby are surviving and we are both satisfied. It would be better if we had a BIT more money but we are working on it, and I don't like it when people compare because everyone's lives are different.

Answer 1

Hi, I've found that no matter the situation someone will always compare themselves with others. I too came from a "normal" family, blue collar workers and i'm proud of it. I've done well financially in life but money is just money, it comes and goes and i've found that if it is something that you "Need" and not just "want" then there is always a means provided to attain it. I wouldn't be concerned about what there opinions are as far as your freindship goes with your friends, they know your situation. Family is more important than money, you can always replace money but you can't replace family. Enjoy your life and those around you, and i'm sure your friend who was getting married wasn't keeping track of who gave the most expensive gift since i feel that is just a way to show off. sort of "look at me, see what i gave them" kind of thing. take care and have a wonderful day. :)

Answer 2

Just explain to them that you feel like she is a good friend too and you wish you could, but your budget simply doesn't stretch as far as theirs does. I have friends who are not in a good of financial situations as me too, and I am always careful to be considerate of their financial status. I wish your friends were also as considerate. Truth is, according to etiquette, $50 is about right for a gift when you exact it out as $25 for bride and $25 for the groom. But if your budget allows for $10, then it would be poor etiquette for anyone to expect you to harm your own financial status for a gift. A nice CO2 cartridge wine bottle opener can be purchased for about $10 or less.

Answer 3

i know how u feel,but u should not worry what thouse girls say,they just not think as human, but one day they will start to think and things will change for them much, but u will on better. Lot of people would love to buy very good gift,but if we cant we cant,is not our fault, the person who are humanity, he will know what u talking about because he think like human with heart and soul and not with his wallet. the time will come for thouse girls, so u just stay happy and ful of life coz things will change for u and soon u will be able to have things u didnt have, be happy girl and dont mind of girls,they dont know what they do and u know u done right thing and u have good soul,so be happy and God will pay u back with everything u need.
Take care beauty and be happy
:)

Answer 4

Don't care what they think. If you really don't like your financial situation, then you are the only one who can change it by going to school and receive training in a field that really pays a lot of money. Become a nurse, that usually pays pretty good or an ultrasound technician which really pays good. My friend's friend's daughter makes $60K a year.

Answer 5

I know exactly... EXACTLY what you mean.. That is the problem here in the U.S. now.. My very very very strong advice to you is to PAY NO ATTENTION to them. Live your life(continue to live your life) within your means and you will NOT regret it. I can BET YOU RIGHT NOW that those girls will be in financial straights later on in life and they probably do not know the meaning of a dollar where as you have the vast advantage of knowing what a dollar is and the value of that dollar..... Oh, I see this all the time. What people do not know is that that family(ies) are probably in debt beyond their means and it WILL come back to haunt them some day.. BELIEVE ME>

Answer 6

i'm the female you're searching for. yet i wouldn't in any respect date you via low opinion you have of ladies persons. you think of ladies persons are the two attractive bimbos or administration freaks. adult males who do not act like the king of the international with all the money are form, attentive and nurturing. those adult males make an effort to care how a girl feels and what makes her happy. If a wealthy guy is merely too conceited or too busy making his tens of millions to furnish a girl the time of day (like a telephone call), i don't pick him. I unquestionably have my own money. thank you very plenty.

Answer 7

I understand your feelings. People will often say things and you will have a reaction to what they said. Remember, no one can make you feel any way that you don't allow them to! Try not to take offense at what others' say. Most of the time people don't mean to offend you. And if they do, shrug it off. It's wise that you know your limits financially and stick by them.

Answer 8

first u dont feel like that think that ur loving family is more worth than any thing even money. think that u got a good parents because money is a part of life but it is not life .love makes something but money makes nothing except buying thing .when u born u dont bring money and when u die u r not taking ur money with u.so dont think that the money is like wall to ur life.

Answer 9

I used to have same situation like yours. Well, just to tell the truth, they will never understand, unless one day they have the same financial situation like people who are not as better off as them

Answer 10

The only thing you can do for a snob is pray for them. You are not required to justify your lifestyle. Paul says that we are never to compare ourselves with other people----that's trying to keep up with the Jones'. Be content with what you have, serve the Lord and ignore arrogant people. Those who flaunt their wealth will lose it to those who are frugal. Jesus loves you.