Should I leave the jerk or stay for my son's sake? We'd only been married 8 months and my little boy was 3 months old!
2006-09-16 04:27:02 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Eh, thats a real tough one. Does he still want to sleep with her? What reasons or excuses has he given you for that comment, and has he made any more? I say if he still wants to, leave him, it may be more damaging to your son in the long run. If he's sorry and given excuses that you can at least see it might be a one time thing, wait it out, see how he is acting and thinking, and form a decision in 6 months. Don't be miserable for too long, but don't make a decision you will regret. But honestly, if hes gonna be out with other women, thats bad for you and your son, and you need to get out of it. on the other hand if he was just being stupid and said it, and you believe it very well be a one time occurance, try to make it work. I know i'm not in your shoes but I wish you the best of luck, and I'll be prayin bout it!
2006-09-16 04:33:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him credit for being honest! Leave the jerk while you are still young and your son is too. Sounds like your husband was not/is not ready for a committed marriage. You will find the right person and that person will embrace you and your little boy. Do not put yourself through a marriage just for the son's sake. Your happiness is important too. If you are not happy, then how can your son truely be raised in a loving and happy environment. Do what is best for your son. It will be hard being a single parent, but worth it in the end. Best of luck to you and your son!!
2006-09-16 04:51:51 · answer #2 · answered by Sharonator 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait, he said he WANTED to, or did he go ahead and do it?
Wanting to is one thing. Figure out why maybe? Just run of the mill lust? A problem with hubby specifically? Issues in the marriage? Is the chic flirting with him? Counseling could help.
If he already slept w/her, that's a toughie, esp cuz a kid's involved and you were newlyweds. If he's willing to work it out, you believe him and he's a good guy who made a mistake, do so. For the kid. If you KNOW he's a jerk and you're the one who made a mistake in marrying him, leave. Again, for the kid.
Who needs a jerk influencing their son, even if it's his dad?
2006-09-16 06:22:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey everyone is courious.... You cant say you havent been out some where seen some hot guy and say " I'd do him!" come on. If he was just being honest then get over it and speaking his mind then get over it. The next time your out with him spot some hot guy and say the same see what he does. Me and my Signifagant other make a game out of it. When were out we spot people for the other one. It always great to read the menu and be courious what that dish would tase like but then you go home and fix whats at the house and that way you know how its gonna taste and just add a new spice to it.
Hope that makes sence!!!!! Its fun to see what else is out there. and know you have better at home.... Now if he crossed the line and did order off the Menu thats a whole nuther story.... But some times it happenes
2006-09-16 04:52:01 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I agree there isnt enough information to really answer.
But I can understand why this would hurt your feelings. Ask yourself did it hurt you because you felt there was some truth in his words and that he would do something like that. Or did it hurt you because it played onl your insecurities. Chances are if a man is going to cheat he will harbor the information. The fact that he said something to you was his way of being as honest as he could. Men and women we have this idea that when we get married all attractions to other people should cease. But it is in our human nature to be attracted to what is pleasing to the eyes and the senses. Now that doesent mean we would take action. I think you should consider yourself lucky that your man had enough courage to be so straight foward. Being angry at him for being honest is only going to enourcage him not to be in the future. We as women have the idea that our men are supposed to shelter us from the truth, but is an injustice to us when they do.
The key to a rewarding and healthy relationship is the honesty of a relationship and not the idea of one. Sometimes we get so caught up in the idea of how things should be we forget how things really are. I think your man loves you and trusts you enough to be that honest allow him to recieve from you the same trust.
I wish you well
2006-09-16 06:06:36 · answer #5 · answered by fryedaddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a son that's 3 months old, and he wants to sleep with a girl from work? Did he actually do that? If he did, get rid of him. If he had any respect for you and you son, he wouldn't be doing this. If he's being openly honest with you, then be happy he's not actually doing it.
2006-09-16 04:36:09 · answer #6 · answered by Lavina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he acted on his little fantasy. Did he tell you this during a conversation about what fantasies you each have? Did he just blurt it out in the heat of an argument. Was he just being a jerk while in a bad mood and said it to hurt you?
Too many unknowns to really provide an answer.
2006-09-16 04:30:59 · answer #7 · answered by cdnponygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a guy, of course he wants to sleep with another girl! Did he do it, or just say he wanted to?
Open and honest relationships mean just that. If he is holding something back then it isn't open and honest. The fact that you are mad at him shows that he shouldn't be open and honest since it invokes a response that is undesirable. Saying is not the same as doing.
If he did it, why are you even considering it, leave!
2006-09-16 04:31:17 · answer #8 · answered by Michael 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he give you the impression that this was a fantasy or something he's really go through with?
If it's a fantasy, try to forgive, he's being dumb, insensitive, and crass, but honest.
If it looks like he will nail this chick if given the opportunity or is taking steps to make time with her, walk.
Your child is young and so are you. Lots of life ahead, don't spend it always wondering when this guy will decide to better deal you. It will make you bitter inside and you will look back and regret...
2006-09-16 04:34:19 · answer #9 · answered by lmcbuilder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He told you he wanted to sleep with a girl from work a year ago. Did he sleep with her? I think you need to find out what else is wrong in the relationship. Seems like there's more to the story.
2006-09-16 04:30:55 · answer #10 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋