I was recently legaly seperated but now we got back together and its working out good , during that time I was seperated I had sex with a old freind just once and I have been worried she could be pregnant. She had her tubes tied 17 years ago and she is 41 and she thinks i am nuts, She has had 2 normal periods and even took a home pregnancy test just to shut me up which turned out negative but I am a worry wart.
What do you guys think am I just be stupid and need to stop worrying about her being pregnant?
Also please don't flame me I am just a nervious person who always fears the worst with everything
2006-09-16 04:17:04 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Obviously you know she is not pregnant. The reason you are feeling this way is because you feel guilty about being with your friend. Regardless of the fact you were separated at the time, you are merely projecting your guilt. I would imagine as well you didn't tell you wife about the encounter and are worried she will find out (hence a pregnancy). Maybe it would help to discuss it with a professional. Good luck.
2006-09-16 04:23:32 · answer #1 · answered by Chloe M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're fear is guilt based.
She's not pregnant. Obviously. You just cant accept it because you're expecting and waiting for some sort of punishment or worse case senerio for your unfaithful actions. Iam sure at the time you were perfectly okay with the situation. But now that you're back with your wife you're feeling guilty some where deep inside.
Just get over it. Talk to your wife about it, apologize, discuss how you're going to deal with the lives you both lead during your time os separation, and move on with this.
She's not pregnant, and you are taking it too far with this amount of worry.
2006-09-16 04:20:50 · answer #2 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is only human to be worried. I don't blame you, but I think that you're safe in this case, especially if she has had her tubes tied for a long time.
2006-09-16 04:22:47 · answer #3 · answered by ganstagolfer_89 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry. She got her tubes tied the sperm couldn't have gone through. Worry about taking an HIV and STD test
2006-09-16 04:21:19 · answer #4 · answered by MAMA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please try to have more confidence in yourself. Love yourself and try not to worry so much,. There is enough to worry about if the probability is high, so don't worry about it if it isn't. Try to look on the happy positive side of life and you will be a healthier person, both mentally and physically.
2006-09-16 04:21:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your worry is probably motivated by feelings of guilt. Let it go and move on with your life. Worry never solves any problem but if continued it can cause physical illness, so please stop punishing yourself like this.
2006-09-16 04:55:24 · answer #6 · answered by Bethany 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOST LIKELY, YOU ARE WORRYING TOO MUCH! HOWEVER, IT DEPENDS ON WHAT 'TYPE OF SURGERY' SHE HAD AND WHETHER OR NOT SHE IS STILL IN HER CHILD BEARING YEARS (AND IT 'SOUNDS' LIKE SHE IS) BUT MORE IMPORTANTLY, WHAT DID THE 'DR'. TELL HER THAT HER 'ODDS' WERE OF CONCEIVING A CHILD AFTER THE SURGERY REGARDLESS OF HOW MANY YEARS IT'S BEEN??!!
SURGERY IS NOT 'FOOL-PROOF' BUT THAT KIND OF SURGERY HAS A HIGH RATE OF 'NON-CONCEPTION'- LIKE 95% OR HIGHER!
IF SHE ASSURED YOU THAT SHE IS 'NOT' AND YOU HAVE SEEN THE TEST RESULTS, BUT YOU 'NEED' TO WORRY, FIND SOMETHING ELSE TO WORRY ABOUT!
2006-09-16 04:30:50 · answer #7 · answered by ARIES 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop worrying about it, pal. Keep your pants zipped around other women and concentrate on your marriage. Sounds like you need counseling.
2006-09-16 04:20:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your fear is coming from guilt, tell your wife, and ask for forgiveness.
2006-09-16 04:19:39 · answer #9 · answered by chico152152 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
AFTER TAKING ALL THE TESTS PROVING NEGATIVE, what more you need to assure you honey.............its she who has to get worried and not you.
2006-09-16 04:32:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋