Mother purchased ring, she has it and doesn't want to give it back unless she is paid for it.
2006-09-16 04:16:04 · 17 answers · asked by Shirley B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She & my son were together for 10 yrs.She
cheated on him in 1999, got separated. My
only daughter & grandson were killed in car
accident. Son & she got back together. He
had ring then. I convinced him after 2 yrs. to give it back to her. We gained our trust in her once again,only to now find out that
she is into cocaine,alcohol, sex, etc again.
He hired PI & found all this out. With a man
(dealer) of another race. She had pawned
her jewelry for drug $. Couldn't pawn diamond engagement ring,due to gaining
weight, no job, had to cut it off her finger.
So knowing that I paid for ring, I don't want
it used for drug exchange. It is not the $ that I care about. She is the next thing I had to a daughter & my son & I wanted her
to seek help. She refused & so did her mom & dad because they would not believe their baby girl was doing this,now they do. He left. He could not deal with it & now they have attorneys, She asked for the ring, but I have it & refuse to give it back.
2006-09-16 05:45:17 · update #1
The divorce settlement agreement can address who gets he rings and whether payment should be required. That's something your son's lawyer can negotiate.
2006-09-16 04:20:27 · answer #1 · answered by johntadams3 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That sounds a little petty. If the ring is not paid off and she needs to sell it to pay off the ring I totally understand. If she is doing it because she is either mad and/or petty then I believe that is not fair. I say the both of you agree to sell the ring and go enjoy an adventure/treat together and talk about the whole thing. I would not let a ring come between you and your mother. Life is too short to be upset with each other over a ring thang. Hope all works out!!
2006-09-16 04:21:55 · answer #2 · answered by Sharonator 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once the ring was given and the marriage happened, it is now the ex wife's ring. You can't take back something that was given at a marriage and then take it back.
Judge Judy says this all the time.
The son owes the mother for the ring and the wife gets to keep it.
2006-09-16 04:21:02 · answer #3 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is a gift, therefore it is hers, but depending on how the possessions are split in the divorce it could go to either party. If you cannot come to an agreement, then you will need to settle it in court. Find something she would want to barter it for, lets say she really wants a bedroom suit, tell her she can have it, but you would like the ring. Find a way to compromise, if you take it to court, you may find that the judge will award it to her since it was a gift. Gifts do not need to be returned, loans do.
2006-09-16 05:20:54 · answer #4 · answered by NolaDawn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
etiquette says whoever broke it off is not entitled to the ring. aside from that, the ring was a gift and no law states a gift must be given back because of irreconcilable differences. if payments are being made on the ring, then the name on the account is the owner. if the ex-wife gave it back, then she returned the gift of her own free will and is simply S.O.L. if the ring was taken from her and she did not surrender it, and your son broke it off, she should have her ring to do with what she pleases. it was a gift to her. it's only jewelry, not a grandchild. it's only worth now is monetary, it's not showing love. realize your priorities.
2006-09-16 04:29:42 · answer #5 · answered by sweet_shy_blondie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it really has nothing to do with the fact that you (Mom) paid for it..........
The ring was a symbol and was "given" to the bride of your son.
You have it -- as you say, and I don't think that you "legally" have to return it to her, in fact, unless you have her (finger) too... she obviously took it off and gave it back to your son, (threw it at him, or left it somewhere)...
Regardless (She) most likely removed it from her own finger when the marriage failed, in her mind.
However, (Mom) Shirley, MORALLY, the ring shouldn't be yours, just because YOU PAID FOR IT, "Son" should reimburse YOU, and the ring should go with the "bride", even after divorce, unless she doesn't want it.
In that case, your son can do with it as he pleases; including "give it to you".........
2006-09-16 04:24:59 · answer #6 · answered by Uwanna Kissimmi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a legal answer, but I think you should keep the ring.
I do not think it would be worth it to her to sue you for it.
The marriage started off wrong anyway, with your son not being able to buy his new wife a ring.................hope you do not do this again.
Tell her you are selling the ring and donating the money to charity so that the money initally wasted on the ring will do some good for someone. (Unless that sounds too mean)
2006-09-16 04:22:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Possession is 9/10ths of the law. You have it and bought it with the intention of eventually getting paid back and werent, so legally the ring belongs to you. So what you do with it now is totally up to you, unless youre paid in full for it
2006-09-16 04:22:02 · answer #8 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand this at all. The only thing here I can say is. The ring belongs to the wife. PERIOD. It doesn't matter who paid for it. The law will be on the side of the wife. Give it to it's owner. She may have cheated, stole, whatever, doesn't matter, legally it's hers.
2006-09-16 04:21:49 · answer #9 · answered by Heather S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You haven't mentioned the details of why your son is ending his marriage or how long he was married. Don't you think your first concern should be your son and not the ring? I can't imagine how devastating this must be for him. Try to remember that before being "reimbursed".
2006-09-16 05:08:25 · answer #10 · answered by jimel71898 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋