How can I get my parents to like my latest boyfriend?

Question

They have met him and both said that they don't like him because he is of a different race. This makes me so mad that I could scream. He is the most wonderful man I have ever met and he treats me so good. How can I get them to see this?

Answer 1

i have been in the same situation. I am black and i was dating a girl from chile. her parents liked me when they first seen me because i am light skinned. but they told her behind my back when she told them i was black that they don't like me i am not for her i wouldn't marry her i would just get her pregnant and leave. and from that day they never liked me.we had a kid and now that we are broken up they said they have proven their point. so if you are grown do what you please. don't disrespect your parents. as long as you know that being with him will not be easy. family functions and gatherings will be a no no for your parents. he will not be able to attend. the big question is can he put up with? will he get tired and leave? i have to admit now that i am dating a girl from my background. life has been easier. but if you love this man and he loves you stick with it. There are lots of interracial couples out there from different backgrounds and they do last regardless of what parents have to say. consider moving out if you can or just going to his place. try talking to your parents again if it doesn't work then i wish you good luck.

Answer 2

Here is the problem, your parents are from the old school, they are predigest, they probably will never change, I don't know your age or where you live or what nationality is, for example if your from the south, no way are they ever going to accept him, or if your from an Jewish family, they want you to marry another jewish boy as do many other nationality, it a rough road, but if you truly love him, go for it, find some things that he has in commoon with your dad, like they both enjoy football or baseball, and maybe he can bring your mom some flowers, or a box of candy or a cool T shirt if she is into that sort of thing. And you, you can sit down and talk with them, tell them you realize it is a shock to them, that you never intended to find a guy out of your own race, but this man is special, and that your going to have a hard enopugh time in life with other people, and you need their support, that his family feels the same way about a white girl, you need some ICE BREAKERS, and let it take time it will not happen overnight, I promise you that, Good Luck you seem like a leval headed girl, I hope it works out for you!

Answer 3

If only race is the problem I would like to tell you few things
1) Do you believe you are a human being?
2) Do you know there are some special qualities with each race?
3) Do you feel the racial qualities are somthing to restore?
4) Do You realy love him?
5) Are you aware of any special racial qualities in your race.
6) Do you know any of the special good racial qualities in your most wonderful man?
7) are you aware that mixing of the two races is called hybradisation.
8) Are you aware of the fact that hybradisation kills some good qualities even after careful mastering the technick?
9) If you are in real love with him do you wish to spoil his good qualities and your racial good qualities just because you liked his features and styles?
10) Dont you think your parents have much more experiance of world and they might be opposing because of some bad experiance because of interracial marriage?
11) Not to mention but Hibrid roses have most beautifull colours but most of them have lost their fragrance and all loose ther medicinal qualities. Even in animals it is found that dogs cats cows or horses are found best in overall performance if there parents are of same race.
just think deeply think again and then if you feel going for interracial is correct then you are wrong.
Yes as a boy friend O K but not as father of your child. What is the fault of that poor child to born interracial)

Answer 4

Parents will always be protective of their children. They may never get to like your bf. It will be up to you to decide whether to stay with him or not. If you do stay with him let it be because of love not rebellion toward your parents. Apparently your parents' experience with people of different races has not been favorable. People are people regardless of where they come from. Tell your bf that for as long as he is with you to always treat you with honor and respect when in your parents' presence. That way they can't point a finger at him. If they see he is sincere eventually they may come around. If they don't, then it will be their loss.

Answer 5

You can't force anyone to like another person. However, if your parents are willing to spend some time with your boyfriend, they may come to like him and change their mind. Also try to discuss it with them privately (without your boyfriend being present) and explain your feelings to them in a calm manner. Don't get upset and start fighting with them. If they still can't get over their bias, just accept it. You may not be able to change their way of thinking. They are what is called "old school" and in their day, it was unacceptable behavior for different races to have relations with each other. In this case, you may have to make a decision of what is more important to you: your boyfriend or your parents views on him.

Answer 6

By your question, I assume you are very young, either in years or emotionally. If not, you should know that you can not make anyone like anyone. You have no control over your parents feelings, so forget it. If you are old enough to date, enjoy your friend, and allow your parents to form their own opinion, which may/may not change, depending on the reasons they don't like him. If it's because of his race only, obviously his race isn't going to change. If your parents have reached their present age not liking others based on race, I doubt they will change either. This incident might be something for you to remember when you become a parent and you don't approve of/like your child's choice of dates.

Answer 7

My g/f parents didn't like me at first because of some past decisions I have made, but after I was around for a while things started to turn around. If you like the guy that much and he makes you that happy, it really doesn't matter what your parents think anyway. It does help to have them like him though. So just keep him around and have him be around your parents more often so they may get to know him and vice versa. Hope this helps you.

Answer 8

If it's a racial issue then I think there is no "getting" them to like him. They will have to come to know him as a person before they can see through the color of his skin. It may or may not ever happen. Be patient with your parents, they are ignorant and one day will hopefully see the light.

Answer 9

You cant make them do something that they don't want. They believe it's wrong for races to mix. That probably wont change. If you like this guy and he treats you well then eventually they will see that your happy and that maybe all they are willing acknowledge.

Answer 10

since it is a racial issue, really more than a parent not liking your bf issue.. i would just say if u are of age continue to date him... you cant change ppl point of view when it comes to race... it is very good to see that even though your parents are hesitiant bcuz of his race you arent.. for that u should feel proud that you are able to see past his color.. unfortuanetly if you are under age.. until you are legally out of the house or whatever... you should respect your parents views.. even though they arent right.. whatever u do .. dont sneak around and see him.. let them no if you plan too.. bcuz that will only confirm what they alread feel.. and make your guy friend look worse to them.... just be patient and continue to see him for who he is .. pass the color and pray that your parents will come around one day...