my grandaughter who lives with me played truant at school yesterday, anyway i told her she had to stay in today as punishment, anyway she did not like it and started shouting and banging things, anyway she locked herself in bathroom and my son and her started arguing she made alot of noise, and our houses are close together, and i was sitting downstairs and telling them both to shut up, someone at the door a woman and she said to me that is child abuse. i am calling the police, i said well she is being punished for playing truant, she has to stay. I did not put her in the tiolet she put herself in their and was arguieng with my son. I felt awful, i have never even seen this women before and she seemed a bit weird. I told my son to stop argueing with her and keep away, but i dare not even walk down the street now because of what this women said its awful. I am sick of living round here its rough and theirs some horrible people. This women has no right to say these things.
2006-09-16 04:12:40 · 10 answers · asked by guysmithdenise 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well, she has a right to say those things. She doesn't know the whole picture but can hear a young girl screaming with a man shouting, she did the right thing to inform you she would report this incident. I would do the same thing too.
2006-09-16 04:15:12 · answer #1 · answered by Ya-sai 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Maybe not, but you knew that you were doing nothing wrong. You know that if the police were to have come, that they could have seen your Granddaughters behavior. Personally, I would have gone back to school with her, gone inside with her and let her know that I am more than a little bit interested in her and her education. You go inside with her often enough, she will probably go willingly, rather than have you go to school with her.
As for the neighbor, at least you have a neighbor who came and spoke with you first, insted of just calling and reporting what she "thought" was going on.
You hold your head up high. You were only doing what you felt was the right thing to do. We have all had to make decissions (good or bad) when it comes to raising kids. You don't have any reason to be ashamed and feel that you can't walk down the street!
2006-09-16 11:24:22 · answer #2 · answered by kayboff 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit your granddaughter down and tell her, what she has started, and that if she is not careful, child protected service will take her away. Tell her that you are only doing to best you can, so that she can learn, the right things to do, but if she is not happy in your household, then we have to work some thing out, Tell her school is very important so you can get a good education. As far as the lady that came to your door, don"t give her a second thought, and you walk down the street, and hold your head up high, you know in your heart, that you did nothing wrong. I commend you for doing the best you can for your granddaughter, it may be a good idea to talk to a guidance counsel.
2006-09-16 11:24:04 · answer #3 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As wrong as you see it, this woman was not being rude honey. She was concerned that something was terribly wrong. She thought she was doing the right thing. Think about it, if you lived next door to someone with a child, and one day you heard alot of banging around, yelling and screaming, you would have intervened too. God only knows what could be happening to that poor child.
Now imagine if you would have done nothing after you heard all this while it was going on, then later found out the child was killed. How would you feel knowing that you may have prevented that had you have said something. This happens all to often in today's world. People turn their heads because they don't want to get involved. Please don't keep the frame of mind that it is none of your business. In God's eyes, we are all brothers and sisters. With this being the case, wouldn't you protect a brother or sister from harm's way?
You need to apologize to this lady, thank her for her concern, and then explain the situation.
2006-09-16 11:20:13 · answer #4 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree she should keep out of other peoples business. If you are not abusing the kids then there is nothing the police can or will do to you. Be sure to lock your doors in case she really is a nut job and tries something. As for your granddaughter I don't know how old she is but regardless of age her actions are meant to make you either angry or to make you feel sorry for her and relent on you punishment. Stick to you guns your are being a good parent.
2006-09-16 11:16:44 · answer #5 · answered by jagbeeton 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I agree what you did was NOT abuse i was punished the same way as a child it did me no harm your grand daughter was just stamping her feet cos she got caught and punished. So what if this crazy woman reports you you have nothing to hide
2006-09-16 11:18:32 · answer #6 · answered by tweetypie88888 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If after you explained your situation the woman was still rude. Then I wouldn't worry about her, I would hold your head high and be proud that you handled the situation as you did. Don't be ashamed of your parenting. You're not beating your children. This woman will get hers in the end. No one has perfect kids.
2006-09-16 11:15:53 · answer #7 · answered by Heather S 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let her call the cops. When they realize it is just a parent child fight, you can have her arrested for harassment and falsely calling the cops.
People think that even raising a voice to a child is abuse.
2006-09-16 11:14:56 · answer #8 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Actually, I think it is rude to ask questions that are this dad gum long. Condense it and try again.
2006-09-16 11:14:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
tell her to mind her own business and if she comes onto your property again you'll call the police
2006-09-16 11:19:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋