i work out in a gym, and theres this trainer who i think might be gay because we look at each other for a sec and then look the other way. how do i go up to him and say if his gay or not.
2006-09-16 03:18:05 · 15 answers · asked by jhonstennis 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
pretty much just like that. just say mind if i ask you a ? and i hope you don't get offended but are you gay? see simple.
2006-09-16 03:19:54 · answer #1 · answered by whitebeanner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would hope you are NOT that boorish! You do NOT go up to anyone and ask if they are gay...!! The implications are preposterous. If your Gaydar is that bad, you need to open your eyes and see things as they really are, not as you want them to be. Trainers watch everyone in a gym at one time or another...that is where they get business from, and they watch for errors in workout of NON-Clients...they can walk up and offer to show them the right form for an exercise, etc....in hopes of getting a new client! And, they are NOT above smozzing a guy who comes across as gay in order to get him to sign up for training sessions. A trainer who is good at human nature AND training will have 15-20 clients at any one time...where do you think they come from???
IF you want to find out if he is interested, then say hello, strike up a conversation, and see where it leads. If it leads to getting you as a client, then you know what is going on. But, under no circumstances that I can imagine, would I ever walk up to someone and ask if they were gay!
2006-09-16 13:02:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe ask where is a good place to go for a drink, or to socialise - he may give a gay bar as an answer.
2006-09-16 11:05:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends upon if you're interested or not. there are ways to find out but you need to be careful as if he isn't and you are you might be in for a rude awakening. vice versa. suggest you ask him about other things rather than preferences and as you develop a friendship there truth will come out eventually.
2006-09-16 10:23:58 · answer #4 · answered by Marvin R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him some stories about your experiences with working out and a prior bf and see how he reacts
2006-09-16 12:37:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, just go up to him and ask him how his wife and kids are. If tells you they're doing quite nice, thank you very much, you'll have to look elsewhere.
2006-09-16 10:34:38 · answer #6 · answered by chocolatebunny 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to the showers after the workout...you will know hehe
2006-09-16 19:18:25 · answer #7 · answered by Finally home 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.. IF you are interested in him sexually and would like or think you MIGHT like to pursue him.. then you might ask.. If you have no interest in pursuing him or no sexual interest in him.. LEAVE IT ALONE.. why would you be concerned?
2006-09-16 10:20:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if YOU are, then ask him out for a drink or something, you could always pretend you want to be buddies? if HE is and he likes you...you could take it from there!
Good Luck ;)
2006-09-16 10:20:20 · answer #9 · answered by wiccajools 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him out. then parade the fit guy around infront of wolfy1. am sure she aint bin laid in a long time, damn god squad preacher.
2006-09-16 10:55:18 · answer #10 · answered by Paul D 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋