Do couples who have been together for years still get butterflies and feel that passion that they once had? Is it wrong to want that romance and passion for the rest of your life?
2006-09-16 02:57:06 · 17 answers · asked by tenesha g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Its not wrong to want romance and passion for the rest of your life...i guess everyone wants that but some people think that just because they feel that in the first few months then they are really in love. Actually after the first few years is the true test of love, being able to maintain that feeling. I have been with my girlfriend for 5 years...and it hasn't been easy..i mean there are times where you wonder what it would be like to be with someone else but then you realize that you have a perfect thing going. Love isn't always a happy ending and butterflies but you have to work hard to make it last...both the guy and the girl. I guess my advice would be don't ever settle and find what you really want. Just be patient.
2006-09-16 03:01:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Butterflies might not still be there all the time as they were when you first start out in a relationship. But you wind up respecting the person and loving them no matter what. My girlfriend and I have been together for a little over 3 years now. It's not wrong to want romance and passion for the rest of your life. Just make sure you do things to spice things up that way it's not the same old boring thing.
Being in love means everything.
2006-09-16 03:00:00 · answer #2 · answered by kvsmiller 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you wake up and there not there, neither is there smell or peaceful sleepy smile. Purity, comfort, and the sense that the world still has good in it no matter how bad things are,the need to prove your love by sending little gifts and cards or surprises, and the butterflies in your stomach, also it helps to remind your partner that they still are wanted not just needed. Depending on how things are going, it's certainly not wrong to try and rekindle a lost flame. The romance and passion will follow on there own. You just need to be patient and remember just like a smile is contagious so is love.
2006-09-16 03:18:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The butterflies only happen in the beginning, it is the infatuation that helps you fall in love despite your differences.
When the puppy love is gone you have a long lasting relationship hopefully, you can still have romance too, but if you are chasing those butterflies you are chasing an affair, be careful about what you want.
2006-09-16 03:03:41 · answer #4 · answered by angle_of_deat_69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not wrong to want that -i think we all do! I can tell you from my experience- butterflies-like the real thing- fly away-but other emotions come to play -stability-partnership-having someone there regardless of you faults-but other people (like my parents) still have the flutters-and I'm so jealous-,makes me wonder sometimes if we grow apart...-also if you want to throw some chem. into it -we release chemicals/hormones (butterfly's)when we find someone that peeks our interest/like the 1st time!!- our body will (unfortunately) not let us stay in that state of mind forever-because we would get nothing done! But it would be nice to have that sometimes...or bottle it up-and take 2
2006-09-16 03:14:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are sort of in a delusional & "out of it" state of mind,your whole focus is of this lover,you only see good,wanna have sex several times a day,cant eat,daydream about them,recall situations or past sex together,se no trace of fault in them,and think you'll be rescued,and life will be perfect with them and their zero,or annoying habits or faults.Dream on, and loose or become smart and realistic!Real love takes a lot of sacrifice,and disicpline for a long period of time!Trust is earned.Mistakes are the only way that we learn...usually...enjoy it while it lasts..ok sweetie?!If you work on the relationship,,and both trust,and are honest,I think that butterflies do still exist,the love kinda grows,and it can be even more beautiful & rewarding in the long run!
2006-09-16 03:18:12 · answer #6 · answered by smithmueller 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knew I wanted to marry my wife when I thought of life together, the daily humdrum, the problems I expected ( money matters, illness, disagreements), and still could not imagine life without her. I still love her when worrying about money, when I need to take care of her, even having to clean up her vomit. and so on.
Think of the challenges, and the person, do you still love them?
After 7 years. I still get that excited rush when I see her, when I come home from work, or when I wake up in the morning.
When we are eating, and she can't eat proper, cause the baby is fussing, or when she saves me from some little thing I am going trough, ( Frustrated at some project, or from work, or if the baby is crying and I can comfort her)
It is not wrong to want that passion, You can have it,
but you must make sure your realtionship is not based in lust.
HAve lust. but that a plus, not the base reason. and you must work for it. If you want a spouse thats happy, and joyful,
You must do things that make them happy. See how they treat their faimly, thats how they are gonna treat you when the new wears off.
also, when you are in love, you will help them, even if it hurts you.
many times, without them even knowing.
( I'll go without sleep tonight, so she can sleep, yeah, I worked, and I work tommorow, but she need its) or some such....
2006-09-16 03:03:50 · answer #7 · answered by papeche 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love matures and changes through the years. It is different than falling for that high school boyfriend and think you are in love. Couples edure many things in their lives and share life experiences which makes the love grow deeper and more meaningful. They have children and grandchildren which makes a bond that will always be ther. It is something that you just realize and understand as you grow older with someone.
2006-09-16 03:00:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I still have the butterflies. Being in love means to not be selfish and put someone else's feelings above your own and consider how they feel. When you are truly in love you have your partners best interests in mind and would never hurt them. You would give them your life if you had to. You would love them as you love yourself. True love is unconditional. I have to accept his faults.
2006-09-16 03:00:18 · answer #9 · answered by Naomi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not but as far as just throughing that ? out there what it means to be in love chick im afraid everyone feels it in a different way so if you feel good and got those little butterflies that even the hardest of us want to feel i think you got it chick.
2006-09-16 03:03:45 · answer #10 · answered by ken q 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋