2006-09-16 02:55:58 · 9 answers · asked by U.KAMALA K 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Hard question to answer because so much depends on factors that are out of your control. The same parents can raise 2 different children the same way and they turn out completely different.
All you can do is the best you can do...by that I mean lead them, don't push them. You expecta behaviour from them, you better be delivering the same behaviour yourself. Beyond that it is a crap shoot.
I have heard that nailing them into barrels and feeding them thru the bung hole works really well for the 1st 18 years. After that kick them out of the house.
Good luck...they keep coming back.
2006-09-16 03:00:54 · answer #1 · answered by The Grand Inquisitor 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, there are no hard and fast rules.
Basic rules are:
1.Same punishment for same mistakes.
For example you don't yell at him for talking back one day, and laugh it off another day. Be consistent.
2.Follow rules yourself.
If you say no T.V. while eating, YOU don't watch either!
3. Parents have special perks.
it is the corollary to the above rule. They should know that grown-ups can do certain things which they can't;with reasons why when possible.
4. Encourage good behaviour and if possible ignore bad behaviour. Sometimes children do things just to get attention.
Or, they may check if you follow rule 1!
So, it is only a matter of using common sense and learning as we go along. We learn and grow along with our children,isn't it?
2006-09-18 02:34:53 · answer #2 · answered by mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with The Great Inquisitor that it is a hard nut to crack! There are no hard and fast rules that we can apply when it comes to rearing a child!
Basically, any parental care plan should include good interaction. While establishing certain degree of parental control and authority aimed at ensuring that a child cultivates certain basic human values, the child should be given ample space to think - to train his/her mind and develop ability to make decisions on some simple things affecting day to day life, depending on the age of the child!
2006-09-16 04:13:28 · answer #3 · answered by Sami V 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I suggest you to keep your child under your personal attention, if not for all 24 hours, atleast during the time you stay at home. If you are not a working lady, never allow anyone else than yourself and your husband, to command on the child.
Children of these days never like other elders than their parents, commanding them or controlling them. Be sure that don't do it to others' children either.
2006-09-18 19:41:28 · answer #4 · answered by sona_d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
**Manners** matter! It is the most important thing you can teach a child. Be it an adult, or a child—there is no exception. Good manners are simply the reflection of positive energy, good behavior, and proper upbringing.
According to an expert on the **Parentlane** (https://bnc.lt/pl-discuss) app, it is the wisest to always inculcate good manners in them through your own behavior. You do and they will follow. Using the magical words, “Please” “Sorry” and “Thank you” as well as saying sorry on making a mistake, knowing table manners- all of these are a part of your child’s development process and hence, very essential. ☺
2016-08-30 00:27:44 · answer #5 · answered by simranbamalwa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when my son was a toddler, if he did something wrong I said no and gave tiny swat on his diapered tush
when he got a little older.. it was a tiny swat on his tush with the reason why he got it
when older it was the Vulcan death squeeze to the shoulder when he got out of line while in public
later on .. it only had to be "the look" with fingers snapped and index finger pointed
parent are way too afraid to do any form of discipline these days.. the majority the kids I see are unruly, out of control brats
2006-09-16 03:00:55 · answer #6 · answered by Mopar Muscle Gal 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love and care for you baby! But at the same time show that what you say, you mean it!! You don't have to hit it, or mistreat him. Just be the boss! Now days teenagers are running wild!!
They don't know any respect, and don't wait for school to teach them. They go to school to learn. Respect should be thaught at home!
2006-09-16 03:02:48 · answer #7 · answered by alfonso 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Buy a book written by Dr. Spock. He is one of the best authors in raising children.
2006-09-16 02:58:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
that's a pretty vague question...But my best advice is to be stern without violence,show em who's boss,and never reward bad behavior,only good.
2006-09-16 02:58:57 · answer #9 · answered by aries4272 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋