What are the reasons to hire a PI?? The obvious would be to try to catch me cheating. Which I am not and have not through our marraige. But what else could he be looking for? I live in Michigan and we have no fault divorce here. It doesnt matter the reason as long as you both agree that it is over.
My soon to be ex hired a private investigator and is notating everything through his lawyer.
I am a stay at home mom that does nothing all that exciting. What is he hoping to find?? Is the PI watching me and my kids behavior?? Do they check out past records and present??
Mostly I know that I have nothing to hide, but he really has me shaken up to think he has hired a PI.
2006-09-16 02:13:31 · 14 answers · asked by galbee 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I agree, what could he be looking for, other than trying to make you look bad and trying to justify his own behaviors. It sounds like he is feeling guilty about something. He might be trying to prove that you are an unfit Mother so that he can have the Kids.
You know, They say "You never know someone until you Marry them" I say, " You never know someone until you Divorce them. Good Luck Honey! The only advice I can give, is take care of your Kids, don't invite anyone over or go out with friends until this is over. The Vultures are looking for something. Don't give them something to use against you!
2006-09-16 02:25:16 · answer #1 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you this from experience. There is no reason for the unreasonable! There is something you can do, however! P.I.'s, not all but some, tend to over step their boundaries. You have nothing to hide and if, IF, this P.I. is reputable, they usually look for things like. Cheating, abuse, and so on! Be more aware of what you do and where you go. At any time should you feel threatened or your afraid of their proximity, you must call the police. You have no idea who this person is and should protect yourself at all time. If you know who it is that is following you, call them. If they won't talk to you leave a message on their machine and give them a detailed run down of your progressive day. Don't run and hide because this is only fuel for their actions. Don't loose your temper because this will be one more thing for them to use against you in court. Don't use your friends to chase them away if they get to close to you or your children, if you have them. Call the police if at any time you feel threatened or invaded. Should they come onto your property they are tress passing and this is against the law. You have rights, but unfortunately they know the law pretty well. DON'T GET MAD AND YELL! Just use this to your advantage. While their watching you, you are probably the safest you have ever been. Pretend they are your own private body gaurds. Pretend you are a highly saught after celeberty. Just go about your life as normal, but at any time, if you feel they are over stepping, CALL THE POLICE. Divorces are horribly ugly, no matter what the situation, and if you live in a no fault state, he (your soon to be ex) is acting out. Breath, okay, now wasn't that better? Have your coffee, or tea, and plan your saturday. You have nothing to hide so don't allow them to make you feel otherwise. Your in the middle of a divorce and as I said there is pain on both sides. This includes you! Don't panic and remember, they can only take from you the things you give to them. Please excuse my spelling, I suppose my adult children would send someone after me should they see this. Ha Ha. Smile have a great day and know your not alone. Believe me!
2006-09-16 02:42:04 · answer #2 · answered by wonderingmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually 'irreconcilable differences' is all someone needs for a divorce (Yeah - courts make it easy to divorce now). I would retain an attorney or get some sound legal advise. If you are hoping that there is something you can do to save your marriage, please go to the website below; it may help you. He is only using the excuses of you not being at his 'mental level' and he can't spend quality time with you because he is emotionally attached to this new woman. I am so sorry that your husband has allowed himself to become involved with someone else when he had you by his side to turn to. If he is dead-set on divorce, you won't be able to do much except protect your assets and protect your financial future through the legal system. You and your children have rights and he will be held responsible for support.
2016-03-27 03:55:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all are you 100% sure that he has hired a PI? He could be saying this to scare you but if not, then just be very careful about the things you do. He might not be looking to find you cheating at all but maybe for a reason to take the kids from you or not to have to pay you any type of alimony. It's sucks to have to live like this but just be on your P's & Q's. Good luck and he is a scumbag for doing that to you.
2006-09-16 02:18:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you have nothing to hide... don't worry about it. It's his hang up that he doesn't trust you. If you truely are an honest person who can be trusted, then you have nothing to worry about with the PI. The PI will simply be a waste of money.
I'm sorry that you're not being trusted by your soon to be ex husband. Just make sure that he pays child support for the kids you have created with him.
2006-09-16 02:17:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in the exact same position (in Florida). It also no fault, I never cheated and was a stay-at-home mom with a boring life. I have no idea what he hoped to find. I think he was cheating and was just projecting onto me that I was cheating too. He's insane!! It is really unnerving to find out that someone has been watching your every move. I feel for you, but I can offer no answers. Just hang in there!!
2006-09-16 02:41:13 · answer #6 · answered by mkjhfiuy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably attempting to prove that you're a bad parent. Which will only prove a waste of time and money if you are being truthful.
He probably doesn't want to be stuck paying you alimony and child support.
I wouldn't worry about it. My sister's ex tried to do/say all sorts of things about her but all it did was make him and his lawyer look like asses. His lawyer was actually disbarred. Let your soon to be ex look like an idiot.
Personally, I'd call the cops every time I saw the PI.
2006-09-16 02:21:35 · answer #7 · answered by C K Platypus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to find out anything and everything you are doing to get something against you...Be careful in everything you do , and keep a close eye on those kids...Make sure this guy is really a P.I. and not some crazy person stalking you..
2006-09-16 02:18:20 · answer #8 · answered by MARY B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you have your own attorney first of all.
Michigan is no fault, so even if you were doing something wrong, it would be negated by the states lax laws.
I think he is trying to maybe make you nervous (which seems to be working).
Maybe he wants physical custody...
2006-09-16 02:17:07 · answer #9 · answered by lovemcss 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sex and money, the two main reasons to hire a PI.
want to check your love-life and your income, for something to use against you.
maybe also check the kids .. attend school, got clean clothes, etc
2006-09-16 02:22:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋